If someone say they love you but they don't like sex would you still date them?

[Anonymous]

[Faith18letsgo]

Absolutely. No sex is not a deal breaker for me. We could make out, cuddle, be in love. No problem.

[SphynxUK]

Yes maybe. If they are asexual I could live with that. There’s more to sex than PIV anyway.

[Guy13]

If I heard "don't like sex" then my first thought would be she is trying to blow me off like "let me think about it" is also a NO !! Our sexual revolutionized society believes Love is measured by Sexual Desire rather than the shared said and unsaid connection and feelings found in a marital relationship.

It is possible that a spouse, so deeply bonded and in love, can dislike having sex with their spouse. Lots of the "they're the sweetest couple (s)" "I can feel their love for one another", and "I want to be just like them at their age" Couples fit the "sex is not the priority or a Must" Relationship.

If one has known that "I love you so much" deep love that exudes from a spouse then sex becomes gravy and not the pressing issue for both. This special part of their relationship is what they go out of their way to not destroy as they serve each other in their individual daily decision-making. And part of this appreciative and agape love is going to be sexual gratification or at least Oral or "dead fish" intercourse. Dead fish intercourse, with proper relational connections, is quite lively in the deep places of the soul.

If the underpinning connection and bonding is there then the sex will take care of itself. To demand either love, sex, and/or both in a False Positive and get resistance reveals the Actualities or realities of the Relationship itself.

[ManOnFire]

Unfortunately that wouldn't work for me. Not only do I like sex but giving pleasure to the other person is part of having love for them. And the entire act of sex period is supposed to be for passion and experiencing each other's love, which I need and want.

[coachTanthony]

Are they waiting for marriage? If so and you are too then go for it but most would not be in a situation like this because that is what most would call a friendship.

[OlderAndWiser]

No. I would tell them we can be friends but I need a sexual partner by my side and in my bed.

[TenderFantasy]

Probably not. Sex is a BIG deal for me and it's one of the main ways I bond with my partner. Of course though, it's not like I am gonna ask for it A LOT, it just depends on my libido (and theirs obviously), but still... why date if you're not going to be doing that? ! That's like one of the best parts of being in a relationship! Otherwise, what's the point? ! Might as well just be friends or platonic whatevers! Plus, I still kinda want to have a baby to propegate my genes, but I really just want to bond. I would feel like if they don't even wanna get close in that way, then something is wrong and I am going to think that they aren't that attracted to me, at least on a physical level. And I'd be hurt by that.

[VanillaSalt]

Whenever I point this out I get rude comments calling me a chauvinist or misogynist.

I’m happy to see there’s some that agree with me.

[silvermoon84]

I’d still date. I take my time and don’t even consider sex unless I can see a future with the guy, but if we get serious and he doesn’t want to have sex, it’s fine. Actually I’d be delighted to have guy who doesn’t try to pressure me for sex early on like so many of the ones that I meet.

[NewYorkCity]

No. Sex for guys is a MUST! when guys choosing girls, they choosing them based on their sex appeal, so they can have sex with her and then when they go on a date and become official G. F. then men are starting to get both mentally and emotionally attached to girls which leads to proposal, marriage and kids.

[VanillaSalt]

Date sure… but it’s not gonna be committed. I’m dating others and getting sex elsewhere. I normally wouldn’t do that but a woman that refuses sex don’t really have the right to complain. Physical intimacy is necessary. But she’d have to be okay with that or pretty god damn amazing.


The point of marriage and dating is sex and children.

[HappyWoman34]

Uhm, no. I was confused about my sexuality once so I thought I was asexual when I temporarily lost interest in men. But I like men and I think most people need sex. Male or female. Would I date someone with difficulties with sex because of sensory issues? Yes. I have those myself.

[ArrowheadSW]

I probably would still date her if everything else was in good standing. Plus I think she would be saying this to "test" me to see if I was just in it for the sex. LOL

[Damcky]

I married a woman like that, thought she would change. Divorced 6 months later. Wanted absolutely nothing to do with sex. At night, I would rub her back as I jerked off. We should have never gotten married.

[Finchie40]

No, I don’t want a room mate , I want a girl that wants me like I want her , sexless relationships are pointless to me

[CateM]

I doubt it. It would put stress on the relationship. Technically yes, I could get it somewhere else, but I might not want to

[LemiaOfThunder]

My first ever girlfriend was slow developmentally and didn't understand the meaning of sex etc for an example when i touched her nipples she would cry.

[magiusX26]

nope. of course if you took away the asexual component you have in this question, my answer would still be no.

[Shedzij567]

No I won't date them. Are you the person that doesn't want sex?

[Anonymous]

I’d be delighted if there is such a guy of this type.

[Jltakk]

Don't have much room to be picky, personally. It would suck but if she is a genuine individual and its traumatic or something, I can live without it.

[Anonymous]

Think you're confusing love with friendship. If not for sex, what differentiates lovers from friends?

[msc545]

Maybe for a short time to see if that changed.