If I ask a girl for a dinner date at the noon on the same day and she says she has plans but maybe some other day, should I suggest another date?

[Anonymous]

If I ask a girl for a dinner date at the noon on the same day and she says she has plans but maybe some other day, should I suggest another date or is she politely saying no? I already replied to her saying I have all week free other than 3 days but don't know if I did well by doing so. I am kinda inexperienced this is my first time asking a girl on a date :D I met her yesterday at an event I might be going too fast but I felt a good connection

[ManOnFire]

Don't suggest another time, no. Because it might look like you're desperate to date her. I could be wrong but I think she might be trying to softly let you down, because if she really wanted to go on a date she would've said something like, "Sorry, I have plans that day. Can we do it another day?" Or "Have plans that day. Will you be free (such and such) day?"

If she isn't offering those kinds of alternatives, it doesn't sound like she's really serious about you unfortunately. A girl who really is into you and wants to see you again is going to put in half the work to get together with you. So for right now just say "Okay" and leave the ball in her court, see if maybe she'll follow up with you later for another time to meet. If not, then you have your answer and should move on to the next girl. Hope this helps.

[Asker]

Thanks but I think it’s too late do that now 😂 pitty if she doesn’t want to though she seemed like she also liked our time

[ManOnFire]

Well, either way you did put it out there so there's nothing more you should try to do. Leave her to decide if she really does, but I don't think she will. Lots of women you might chat and vibe with in social gatherings for that one time will seem like they're really into you, and maybe they are for the moment, but very often they flake and lose interest the next day. That's not your fault. It's that women usually change like the wind and they aren't seeing any value in potentially getting to know you more, which causes them to miss out on great futures or prospects, not you. And women like that aren't the ones you want, so don't try to make something happen with them.

A girl who is really into you will put in some work and communication to keep seeing you, she won't want to lose what she finds. Keep that in mind.

[Guy13]

Yeah, right then on the spot if you were serious about dating her or had a backbone that warrants respect. He’s not man enough for me if he can’t handle that little bit…

You can’t let a woman do that without pinning down “some other time”.

[Asker]

Yeah right? I was honest about my busy days but I think that gave the impression of I have things to do as well

[Anonymous]

When I say that it's usually me saying no politely so the guy won't get butthurt. You could try asking if she's available over the next week for a lunch date or something during the day so it seems a little more like you just want to spend time with her. Dinner can sometimes feel like pressure to do more than talk.

[Asker]

You might be correct maybe I must say can be lunch as well. I already tried to show her I am not trying something casual though I left her home after the party without trying anything.

[rachel776]

because you asked her on the same day and gave her no time there's no way you will ever know

[KathrynTaylor]

She’s playing hard to get. Go for it. Good luck.

[Venüsyenn]

you have to be cold to her so she starts to wonder about you

[KrakenAttackin]

No. If a girl is interested in you she will make time for the date. If she was busy that night and was interested she would have suggested an alternate day.

This was a polite blow off.