Would you date a girl that's body count is at least 1 or 2? Or would you rather she be a virgin to date her?

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gorydetails · Accepted Answer

It’s common that people have premarital sex. 1 or 2 isn’t really a big number so most guys would be ok with it. Unlike what some women on this site are saying, having unlimited casual sex is not “ok”. THe ones who do are desperately trying to get acceptance from men and have conned themselves into believing that they’re happy.

Tstrbrainer · Accepted Answer

Like some other users said, some guys will care, some won't. Our actions have consequences.
But know that if you choose to stay virgin that will never guarantee you the type of guy you want. Wouldn't that bother you, when you have sacrificed so much?

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Are you kidding me! 1 or 2 can't even properly be called "a body count."

I won't lie. I am someone who WOULD have a problem with a girl having a higher body-count. I would accept it, I would get over it (I'd have to), but... it does totally make a difference to me, and I do have a very very very strong preference for a lower number.

Nevertheless, I would never "not date" a girl because she had a high body count. Here's what it comes down to: She was free to do whatever she wanted before she met me. How can I expect her to have anticipated meeting me at some future date and changed her (now past) actions accordingly. She couldn't. She didn't know she was going to ever have a relationship with me. So I need to just get over whatever is in her past, if I see a future with this person. Everyone has a past. Some are easier to get over than others. But what really matters is what you're hoping to grow to become in the future.

Now, that's what I LOGICALLY know. That's what my own ideas of fairness and justice force me to conclude (because it IS true). Nevertheless emotionally, I think any guy would have a preference that as few men as possible have shared your girl's body intimately like that. So the lower the better. Not that a guy ever has an actual number in mind for what's ok and what's too many.

Chris Rock used to have a joke about this in his standup set. It doesn't matter how many dicks it is. it's too many. She could say "two" and the man would be like "TWO! TWO!!! what do you mean TWO. (meant to be an absurdly low body count to be upset about).

So first of all, even when I was your age, I couldn't possibly have had a problem with 1 or 2 for a body count. Nobody will.

Do guys "prefer" that your a virgin? Most of them do. For the same exact reasons. Less is better. BUT... and this is a really important "but."

Fuck what a guy might think about that.

You don't owe it to some future boyfriend to choose not to have sex you otherwise want to have... so that you're still a chaste virgin whenever he rolls around into your life. Fuck that garbage.

Plus, here's the thing. Let's say you do exactly that. You save yourself, because you want your future boyfriend to be happy you're a virgin. (and that's the only reason).

Well... then life happens. And guess what? That boyfriend you just saved yourself for... is now just another ex-boyfriend... and... even though you DID save yourself... here you are single and looking... with a body-count.

So don't you go choosing to remain a virgin, or not having sex you otherwise would have... for the sake of what some future boyfriend (or for the sake of what guys might think in general about it).

Guys will understand. They'll have to. Because that's life. Women are people too. Guys don't expect virgins. Especially not once you're about 20 or so. Because very few women are still virgins by then. A lot of guys won't ever ask you about your body count because they'd just rather not know (if they do, be honest. If they've got a problem. Remind them that they asked, and it stupid to ask a question you don't want to hear answered.)

But I'll tell you one more thing. No half-decent guy has ever not dated a girl, or broken up with a girl because of her body count. If a guy likes a girl, her body count is never going to get in the way.

Insofar as guys might have a preference. It's a preference guys have "no right to"... and we know that. (most of us).

So have sex, whenever YOU feel it's right. With as many partners as YOU feel like having sex with. The guys you date will survive. You won't lose out on anything by doing what YOU want to do. You will lose out on a lot if you try and do what you think guys want from you. That's always a bad plan. 🙂

Guy13 · Answer

You should not be having sex at your age and that body count is unacceptable for me.

Berethor · Answer

I prefer a virgin, without a hymen it's easy for her to lie that it's "only" 2, pure girls are best.

Wade12345 · Answer

At this stage in my life, I honestly don't give a damn. I'm a 42 years old virgin because I took a vow to honor God and wait for the "right woman" when I was a very young age. Do I want a virgin wife? yeah. Will I cry if she's not a virgin? No. Not sure why it even matters sometimes. Nobody else seems to care one way or another, fucking random strangers on the first three dates and stuff.

dave15698 · Answer

It doesn't bother me if the girl is a virginity or not, for me it's whether you have that connection between you both, thats what matters to me. Do you find them attractive? Do you like their personality? Those are the important things for me when dating someone.

Anonymous · Answer

Two is a bit much at your age, but I don't think it would stop me if I were your age too. When I look for a wife, virginity is more important but not essential. As long as she has only had sex with a few guys and always in committed relationships. Casual sex and promiscuity is a show stopper for me.

Pyrofox · Answer

Most guys don't mind 0-5 preferably but much higher it becomes a question of are you actually caring about who you sleeping with. Or are you just a sex addict.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I don't think one two is bad. Anything higher, I don't really see as relationship material. Ideally though, I would prefer if she was a sexually frustrated virgin, but 1 or 2 is fine, as long as she still craves sex.

HighValue · Answer

Less is always better for an exclusive LTR.

Hanrej · Answer

I think I would rather have a girl who's been with at least 10 guys. I wouldn't want her to think she's missing something and I do enjoy the experienced girls.

OddBeMe · Answer

1. It doesn’t matter. 2. You don’t have to tell anyone your count or be honest.  3. If a guy really cares that much he’s a perv.

LonelyAndBig · Answer

I rather have a virgin. It is almost a must for me.

riverrat3 · Answer

I would never ask her and would not care, not my business

Anonymous · Answer

Either one is fine for me but at your age they probably prefer a virgin

Anonymous · Answer

Yes definitely it's always fun to break girl virginity...

rachel776 · Answer

i think guys expect girls to at least be 2

mathew1543 · Answer

I'm fine with all the 3 options

AmeerX · Answer

Virgin is preferred

Anonymous · Answer

Virgin.

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