Is this too Needy of me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for like 3 months. But his replies can be awful like 5 hours when he’s working and it gets me upset and I start to assume he’s with someone else or another girl! Is this needy of me if I confront him and tell him this? I just have trauma from my ex as when he took long he was with another woman.

[Anonymous]

So if you’re still struggling with trauma, you don’t think it’s better to heal first before dating? Even if you’re lonely, it’s not fair to dump your baggage onto someone else. Besides, texts should only be a small part of your relationship. You build that in person.

[brezzybaby]

Honestly i dont think its needy , i think us women just want attentuon most of the time, and men that we persue dont understand that, but if you have any feelings like that like him talking to other women i would def find out. but my boyfriend is a truck driver and he goes 12 to 14 hours sometimes without responding to me.

[ShiftingMonke]

I agree it can seem needy, but until you realize that not all men are the same, I think it's best that you take a break from relationships. Including the one you've grown with this guy; he doesn't deserve this kind of pressure. Focus on yourself and addressing the concerns you carry with you.

[xCherryKizz]

That's a really good reply

[ShiftingMonke]

@xCherryKizz thanks!!

[Rat_Boy]

Yeah I would chill out on that. It can wear on someone really quick.

[Paul_in_Indy]

It really is not reasonable to expect people to drop everything and reply to you. Text messaging is asynchronous. Let it be a synchronous. He’ll reply later. It’s OK.