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Guys, is this guy baby ghosting and double backing me or just trying to take it slow?

I met this guy in September and found out he has gone through a break up two months prior.
I’m not sure this is a part of it but maybe.
Basically we spent an evening together and we had a really great time and after that he started to minimize communication with me.
we actually ended up spending time together

2 weeks later and then our texting completely stopped for an entire month so I just decided we decided he wasn’t interested and I moved on mentally focused on me.

Then I hear from him and I decided to just tell him I was surprised to even be hearing from him. He told me he would like to call me and talk about it and said that he was healing and I deserved better communication with the situation and that I made him feel a way he hadn’t felt in a long time and he was nervous and that he was sorry for how he handled that.
So we ended up seeing each other again. Just for him and I to decide that we wanted to take things really slow and keep it at a friendly level but then he went another month without contact and I decided that I liked him more than I was admitting and when he reached out I told him my boundaries and that I didn’t like seeing him and going weeks without knowing where we stand and if we see each other again it would need to be different.
So I decided to see him again last week and I haven’t heard from him. I feel like an idiot.
he went as far as to tell me he felt like he was falling for me and were up until 4 am talking about our dreams family childhood and just everything under the sun and I feel left out in the cold.
I want to Handle the situation with self respect and as an adult next time he comes texting me. I need male perspective on what he is doing by doing this. So I can stay strong and not fold. I can’t tell if he is manipulating me or I’m just not going with the flow?

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I forgot to add that he spent an entire week this last time insisting things were going to be different he wasn’t going to mess it up because he really likes me and he doesn’t want to lose contact with me I know it’s only been a week but when he was at my house he mentioned us hanging out this weekend and to let him know
But I said you let me know and he said okay and it being Friday and I never heard from him I feel very manipulated.
It definitely hurts a little.
Guys, is this guy baby ghosting and double backing me or just trying to take it slow?
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