I started dated this man in November and we have known each other for about a year almost. He’s wonderful, but I have a lot of emotional baggage and overthink absolutely everything. He’s aware of some things I have been through in the past and is very supportive and understanding. Anytime I start to overthink he’s always very reassuring. Does anyone else struggle with this? If so, how do you manage this? I do see a therapist and I try very hard to take her advice but I still can’t shake this feeling like something is going to happen. I have absolutely no reason to believe he’s an asshole or would hurt me, but I keep telling myself he will. Yesterday we were just laying down and as we were cuddling he randomly just told me that I was the love of his life and one day he’d love to marry me and have children. Of course I was happy but now I’m sitting here over analyzing everything thinking to myself “he’s just saying this because it’s what I want to hear and actually doesn’t mean it”. I have NO reason to feel he would be lying. How do I stop doing this?
How do you shake the overwhelming feeling something bad is going to happen?
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I know a girl like that but she has ocd tendencies and can’t let go of concerns. She got on some medication and it helped.
Maybe that's an option?
Unfortunately I am already on medication and I’m still like this. My therapist recently just said I should talk to my doctor about getting a more anxiety based medication since mine focuses more on depression and I have improved a lot in that aspect. So maybe changing meds is a good idea.