Is it wrong to need a break from my two month old child as a new mom?

[Anonymous]

I have been finding myself wanting to ask my parents, my sons grandparents, to keep him for a day or two because I have been feeling overwhelmed as a new/first time mom. I just can’t bring myself to ask without feeling guilty for asking or even just going through with it and doing it. It’s not like he’s in the toddler phase. He’s only two months old, still a baby, so all he does is eat, sleep and poop. Yes his brain is still developing and growing so slowly he’s coming out of the eat, sleep and poop and phase. He’s starting to recognize faces and surroundings, voices and colors but first three things is what he does the most so why should I need a break? And why do I still feel so overwhelmed even though at this point he’s practically easy to take care of and it’s when he’s older when I’m really gonna need the break. But I can’t shake the feeling.

[SphynxUK]

It’s not easy being a new mother. If you are feeling overwhelmed it might be post natal depression creeping up.
You could chat with your midwife?


In the meantime, maybe get someone to come over and take care of baby while you have some downtime. A relaxing bath, bit of a pamper and a good nights sleep.
See how you feel, and then next time you could ask someone you trust to take baby overnight?
Have a chat with your mum. See how she felt when she was a new mum. People like to help so don’t be afraid to ask.

[kylee2437]

Yes you are absolutely allowed to! Even though you are a mother, you are still a human and although I am not a mother, being a mother seems like very hard work! Post partum is very popular yet it makes me super upset when people create up a stigma that once you are a mother that is the only thing you are. You are a human, and you deserve a break. That stigma creates majority of post partum depression. Please don’t be afraid to contact people around and ask for help!

[AydenHazor]

It is but wrong to need a break, in fact it's good to ask for help. As much as people say it is, this is not an easy time and can be very easily overwhelming. I'm sure either set of your child's grandparents would love to take them for a day or two to give you the respite you need. This feeling is normal, and can be quite isolating, but reach out for help, people want to give it

[Curmudgeon]

It is NOT wrong, on one condition. The *only* thing you do on that day off is - sleep. Because you are probably so exhausted you need it.

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes, assume your responsibilities, if you wanted a vacation, then don't get pregnant.

[WTFdivorce]

Breaks are good but planning those breaks are even better. Make sure you you are discussing with family and your doctor so you can make sure everyone is on board.

[BJP21]

You need some YOU time. Its ok to ask for help. Your child can get accustomed with other family members.

[panamared1]

Do it, you need to talk to an adult for awhile, take an evening