The dating cultures vary from one country to another siginificantly,
Whilst (even only speaking English) I could easily relate to French girls, where from the get-go tge cimonversation with any girl seemed both open to moving closer/getting together, and non-absolutist in the sense she'd want me to commit to being her man right away/before going any further with me, the UK confuses me (maybe I confuse girls since I wear a jacket and a coat that look formal so they don't know how rigid of casual I might be),
Is there a norm, e. g. could I expect to start fooling around with a girl (so, kissing and sex included), without having to know upfront how far her and me would go (so, in case it was to not go to being a commited long term relationship, no harm/no foul) - or is the expectation 'don't get closer until you are certain you might want to marry me - and if you get started but pull back later I'll hate you and backstab you/make your life a living hell'?
It is really difficult to discern those things - one moment it seems like the most normal thing would be to ask 'would I have your consent' and, if yes, to go straight to bed/sex - the next moment it seems 'no thinking about anything but courting and slowly developing contact' - that is only worth it if one wants to marry/go the long haul (which itself is difficult to know except after having spent some time together with a girl).
It's a relatively small town as well, so the entire thing is a matter of social norms - I am dying for a sex partner at a minimum, there is someone intetesting, I believe it is mutual - but I don't want to come on too strongly (nor too tentatively) - and I have almost no clue as to what would be socially acceptable in that sense.
Gracie 🖐🥰
What Girls Said
British girls are just different. I can't explain why we are like thus
Yeah, yeah, I got it - it's all a set of transactions here, on each you making a profit and me making a loss, I got it.
Not really. How long have you lived here?
Long enough to get ripped off too many times.
Well you know the slang. So definitely a few years and you're English is good. What part are you in?
Been speaking various versions of English for 25 years now. 30 years since I first tried to think in English.
O'fordshire now. Great to influence politics (as if I need that 🤷♂️), disaster for love. And not wallet friendly either.
We are in a cost of living crisis lol
No troubles, I proposed to a Frenchie I met almost 10 years ago. You go on just as angry.
We're British, we are angry all the time 😂
Well they know how to be good when angry. Not to do 'I won't serve you' when I did not ask to be served but to buy a non-alcoholic drink.