My (M22) girlfriend (F24) doesn't have a driver's license and works at a warehouse. We've been dating for over 2 years, and during that time, she's postponed getting her driver's license. She doesn't exactly need it right now, as she rides to work with her brother, and if she does go out it's with her parents. Since we started dating, my goal was to motivate here to get her license, as we live 1 hr and 30 min away from each other, and I hate driving.
Every once in a while, she has a mental breakdown about not finishing college and not getting her driver's license. I try to be there for her, but every time, she brushes me off saying she doesn't want to talk about it and will later (we never do). The reason behind not getting a license has been anxiety and fear of accidents, which I understand, but it's just one of life's many risks. I've been trying to reason with her about it, and how it's a life skill she needs to have, since with my job, I won't be able to drive her everywhere at any time.
We are both about to get new jobs and move to another state, and she understands she needs to find another job, get her driver's license, and a car. However, she's been breaking down more and more frequently, as there's no "set plan" 2-3 months ahead. Apparently, she wants set dates when we want to move, even though apartment availability doesn't pop up until ~2 months prior to move-in.
She said she manipulated her into thinking she could become a stay at home wife (I can't tell if this was a joke or not), and that kind of got me. Although I do not mind that sort of situation, right now would be a bit awkward to do since I am trying to at least build some savings/financial backing before we get married.