my boyfriend has been making me feel terrible for still living with my parents and thinks im not doing much in my life. He has complained to me that there are girls that are way younger than me that have their own places and doing this and that. I'm in college and struggling to pay it off and most of my money I make goes to my tuition. I have paid thousands towards college that could've went to a place and feeling like im wasting time. He didn't go to college so he doesn't understand.
Why does he make me feel like a failure?
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It's not okay for your boyfriend to make you feel like a failure or to judge you for your living situation or career path. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique journey and struggles, and there is no one "right" way to live your life.
It's possible that your boyfriend may not fully understand or appreciate the challenges you're facing, especially if he didn't go to college himself. However, this doesn't give him the right to belittle or criticize you.
It's important to communicate your feelings to your boyfriend and let him know how his comments are affecting you. You could say something like, "I feel hurt and belittled when you make comments about my living situation or my career path. I'm doing the best I can with the resources I have, and I need your support and understanding."
If your boyfriend continues to make you feel bad about your situation, it may be worth reevaluating whether this relationship is healthy or supportive for you. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and supports you for who you are, and who doesn't judge you based on your living situation or career path.
This is very simple. You have invited a person into your life who is a 'drain'. They are not on the path of ascension, joy, empowerment, health, happiness, gratitude or moving closer to spiritual contentment. Therefore the real question is why have you chosen a partner who is draining your energy and drawing you to a lower vibration. And why have you not chosen one that does the opposite. As long as you remain with a 'drain', you are giving them permission to continue draining your life force. Thus questions about self esteem, self respect, your spiritual path, self belief, relationship with parents, life purpose and even your connection with God all comes into question...
You are not worthless. You are going to college and trying to make a better life. You are investing in your future and will be a lot farther in life than your boyfriend will be in ten years. Stick to the plan.