Is lap dancing required in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I've been told guys LOVE it when girls dance for them, but I never have before and I'm scared too. I don't feel like I am beautiful enough. But I also don't want to be the crazy cat lady living alone. Why is it required by some guys? (Or girls) ?

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A girl told me another reason why they probably want dancing is due to cultural or religious beliefs ( I respect that) I just would not want to embarrass myself.

[SteveSmith1985]

This... is hilarious. Please believe me... lap-dancing is NOT required in a relationship. AT ALL. I have, in fact, been in many relationships. With pretty girls... who were great at the sex-part. And I have never (that I can recall off-hand anyway) in my life had a lapdance. NOR have I ever particularly wanted one. In fact that would have been way way way way WAY down the list of things I'd like to do with a girl I'm with.

It is SO FAR down the list... that I have literally never once THOUGHT about this before. Not once! I've answered literally thousands of relationship questions on here... not to mention lived my life on this planet having relationships and loving girls for 38 years... and this is the first time I have ever heard of this in my life.

You know how some people are worried about something they really have no cause to be worried about?

You just won the prize for most unnecessary fear/insecurity.

I am glad that it's THIS which you're worrying about. Because... if you're hearing me right now... that worry should be GONE. It should disappear from your mind. My reaction to your question was to literally laugh-out-loud for like...5 minutes, at least. I had tears I was laughing so hard at this.

This would be such a legitimate thing to be worried about... if... guys expected girls to give them lap-dances. They do not. I'm not saying there isn't some dude out there who might ask you to give him a lap-dance at some point in your life. It's conceivable I guess. But... just say, no, and do some other sexual-shit, and it'll be just fine.

It's FULLY reasonable to expect to be able to fully satisfy a man in every way (physically, sexually, emotionally AND spiritually) without ever knowing how to lap-dance.

I am not lying to you here. This is the truth.

If you spend another second worrying about this... you really are being silly.

This is not a silly fear in a world where men need-that-lap-dance. Thankfully... that's not the world we live in. I do not know who gave you that idea. But honestly... I think they were just fucking with you and didn't think you were even taking them seriously. This... is not "a thing".

(Oh my god this is cute!) 🙂

[Asker]

You are right I think it's just THEY wanted. Thank you for the elaboration (: all it means is that they aren't the ones for me. It makes me feel better knowing not all people want that

[Asker]

They could have also been messing with me cuz they know I have low self esteem.

[SteveSmith1985]

Fucking hell. I wish I could give you a hug. I'm sorry for laughing. This is much less funny now. I was just kinda picturing a regular girl with this one random irrational fear because of something someone said to her a long time ago. (It's funny the blanks we fill-in when you don't know many details about a situation).

But I pictured your situation very differently. And there's actually a whole lot contained within the few lines you wrote there.

First of all. That is exactly what it means. They aren't the ones for you. The guys who said that to you are actually scumbags of the worst sort. They were messing with you. But in a way that makes them scumbags well beyond just messing with you. Honestly, you are really better to stay away from those guys. They're shitty guys who have no problem mistreating you.

Second. If you ever wanna chat... please feel free to DM me anytime. I always love meeting new people, and would be down for a chat. No pressure. At all.

Your three little lines really fucking got to me. I donno. They just say a lot. (OR maybe I'm just painting a different, but equally inaccurate picture of your situation with my mind again. who knows)

I'm sorry for laughing at you. It's really not funny. 🙂

[Asker]

It's all good (hugs) I'm laughing at myself, it's actually quite comical when I try to dance lol. Maybe I could just be the funny girl 😉

[SteveSmith1985]

Shit. For real, you sound like a cool chick. I hope you take me up on that DM sometime (in a totally non-hitting-on-you-way by the way... just to be clear about that).

But you do seem like you might be a funny girl. Don't worry, I can't dance either. That's partly why I sympathized with you right from the start. If I don't hear from you; do take care of yourself mystery girl. 🙂

[Asker]

Thank you 😌 she definitely sounds like she knows what's up.

[Asker]

Thank you very much 💕

[AviatorTom]

Lap dancing is not required, but an occasional lap dance can be great foreplay.

[Asker]

If you knew how to do it I could see how it would be.

[AviatorTom]

You learn by practicing. There's not much you can do wring in a lap dance, so long as you don't squish the goods.

[Adam1978]

No that's for no touch prostitutes not for relationships.

[clampfan101]

I wouldn’t mind experiencing it, but don’t need to.

[Asker]

Some girls like doing it, try visiting a strip club (:

[clampfan101]

I’ll ask my wife when I’m finally married.

[Asker]

Awesome 👍

[Fuentes]

It's not required all u gotta do is grind your ass & V on his D lol

[Asker]

Lol 😆

[cootjuhh]

dancing is always a good view. but not nececary required haha

[Asker]

Cool