What does it mean when a guys says “you’re coming with me when I make it big.”?

[Lenee225]

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he really likes you but thinks you won't commit to him unless he is very successful (whatever that means).

[Lenee225]

That’s crazy because I would still be with him through the struggle. I don’t know why he would think that.

[Lenee225]

But also, why do some men feel they have to be successful to date or marry a woman?

[Avicenna]

They've heard about hypergamy and assume all women are like that

[AMS700CX4u2]

Sounds like a conditional offer. Like you can have this if you can fix it. So does that mean that if I can't fix it I have to bring it back. Life does not happen that way.

[OfMiceandMen]

It means he likes to dream a lot and if he makes it big someday, he's gonna include you in his posse.

[slatyb]

Are you dating? If not, it means he spouts a lot of bullshit instead of just asking you out.

[Lenee225]

Yeah, we did.

[Anonymous]

Guys don’t say this but I can imagine this guy thought he was very very clever being all coy instead of saying he was aroused.

[Lenee225]

No, this was a good friend and of mine. He has a lot going on.

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh. He’s in the friend zone and thinks you’ll want to be with him when he gets rich.

[Lenee225]

That’s crazy because I’ve been with him through every setback and trial through his life. A guy doesn’t have to be rich to date me.

[Opinion Owner]

You’d date him?

[Lenee225]

Yes, I would! I’ve even helped him when he needed it. Sent him money for lunch and food without him even asking. I mean I didn’t do that just to get him to date me. It’s just in my nature to help people in need.

[Opinion Owner]

Go tell him you’ll go with him now. 🤣

[Lenee225]

He already knows.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sounds like a dreamer. But hey, you never know!

[Lenee225]

You might be right. He’s a lot older though.

[Lenee225]

He is on the come up though.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Good for him. I hope he makes it

[WanderingLoveWizard]

What's he trying to make it big in?

[Lenee225]

Entrepreneurship. He’s trying to make more money. He has a job, but I guess it isn’t enough. A lot of black men feel they have to be successful to date seriously.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I didn't know that. He sounds like an ambitious guy though. I bet he'll do it

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I thought you meant he was trying to be a rapper or something lol. Still possible, but a lot less likely

[Lenee225]

No lol
He’s too old for the rapping career now. He’s 38. Lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, yeah it might be a bit late for that. Perfect age to start a business though!

[Iron_Man]

That’s ridiculous. What about before

[Lenee225]

What does it mean though?

[Iron_Man]

It’s like I’m gonna marry you when I make it big that’s a laugher

[Lenee225]

But what does “make it big mean”?

[Lenee225]

* “make it big” mean?

[Iron_Man]

I guess hit the big times become a rich actor or some businessman real estate

[Lenee225]

Ooooh okay! Well I guess that makes sense, since he’s on the come up right now. But I would definitely date him now in his situation.

[Iron_Man]

Good to hear I like this

[Alex8736]

sounds like someone who is all talk

[Lenee225]

I guess he’s not where he wants to be career wise

[Lenee225]

He has a lot going on. Child support, loss his house, and got hurt on the job.

[Alex8736]

there's a difference between dreamers who always talk the talk and realists who walk the walk

[Lenee225]

He’s actually “walking the walk”. He’s on the come up.

[Lenee225]

* “walking the walk now”*

[Anonymous]

He's delusional.