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Just wondering as I'm considering hanging out tomorrow. I mean, my guy is out of town, so I really don't see how making friends is a problem. Let me know.
You are best to tell your boyfriend the truth , By you keeping it a secret just shows you only care about yourself , just because you assume your boyfriend is not going to approve , which he probably won’t , since most guys are territorial over a girl he gives his heart to , and he doesn’t know this guy you want to catch up with it’s best to still make your partner your priority , and if you have to cancel this lunch meet up with this other guy then so be it , You have to remember you aren’t single anymore , think how you would feel if your boyfriend was meeting up with some girl from his past? How would that honestly make you feel? especially since you don’t know her? Sometimes it’s best to eliminate those things from your life to show respect to your relationship, that’s how love grows with 2 people , when you learn how to remove selfishness for your partner that shows respect in your relationship , without respect in your relationship you will have nothing , Just tell this other guy the truth that your boyfriend isn’t going to be to happy about us meeting up so I am sorry I can’t meet up with you but it was nice hearing from you , If the guy gets upset and tries to convince you to still
Come see him , the. he clearly doesn’t just want to be friends , he wants
More than that , don’t fall for
That shit
Hanging out with a guy and withholding it from your partner isn’t wise.
It will cause a void in your relationship and also send the wrong message to your “friend”.
Your best off speaking with your partner to see how he feels about it, I believe you know his response which is why you are thinking of keeping it from him.
Basically seems like you know your partner wouldn’t approve but instead of taking his feelings into account you would rather just “do you” and go anyway.
If a girl wanted to hangout with me and I knew she was hiding this from her partner and would get the impression she’s in to me to some degree as she willing to put her partner’s feelings on the back burner just to spend time with me.
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If it’s not a big problem so it shouldn’t be a huge deal to tell him hey boyfriend, I’m going to have lunch with this old male friend from college…
The underlying fact that you had to ask if he’s going to be bothered IF he finds out… why don’t you just tell him about it instead of finding out. Reverse roles, how’d you take it if YOU find out he went out for lunch with another girl?
No... my SO has Male friends and I have Female friends
As long as I know and you ain't sneaking around.
No- but then, I'm more trusting than most. And I think pretty much every guy out there would be more inclined towards suspicion if they thought you were keeping it secret, regardless of whether you thought it should be hidden or just didn't think it worth mentioning. If you're worried about how your man will react, slipping in something like "Hey, I'm meeting [X] for lunch on Saturday; I'll tell him you said hi" will both alleviate suspicion and let him know, in case he DOES have an issue with it.
It depends on why and how I found out.
certainly, I don’t own her, but in a relationship communication is key, and there should be a level of communication and trust that has been established. I’ve had relationships where she felt comfortable enough to tell me upfront that her friend was visiting and she like to go out to lunch with him and she was very upfront about it.. no harm done she didn’t have to hide it from her friends she didn’t think she had either for me. It’s not the embarrassment of her being seem to be the same restaurant, and the waitress is not knowing what to say.. and there’s other situation’s where an ex showed up and he had an agenda, and she had an agenda, and I had to find out through other channels.
Good idea…wait till he comes back from
town. Say…honey…my childhood friend and I reconnected. I am so excited and want you to meet him. All of you can become friends.
bad idea - do as you say and see how things play out. (I know how…but sometimes you need that experience)
Honesty, trust, respect all go hand and hand.
your call
It all depends on your reason. If there is any chance that there will be sexual connotations, even if just mild flirting, then it is cheating. If it can be held down to a pure friendship and nothing more, then fine.
Just be aware that it is very easy to cross that fine line in the heat of the moment. That hug at the end of the lunch can be right on the line!
I don't mind so much since I also go to lunches and dinners with women but I prefer she tells me upfront. I tell her upfront like, "Hey, I'm going to dinner with this woman tonight."
Maybe it really is just a friend thing - I don’t know - but hanging out one in one with somebody of the opposite sex who I don’t know is suspicious, and I’m not interested in trying to find out. Especially if she hid it from me, that makes it seem more suspicious.
This would be a deal-breaker for me. If I found out about this I’d be gone. Call me insecure all you like.
If you are only going to lunch as friends and there is no hidden agenda, then you are fine.
However, if someday you find out he has a similar friendship with a girl, then you can't be angry with him, if he doesn't tell you about it.
If it is okay for you to do it, it is okay for him.
There'd have to be other factors going on for it to even remotely bother me. My wife hangs out with male friends quite often, and I hang out with female friends as well. We're both bisexual though so... would we just not be able to spend time with any friends for fear of it being "cheating?"
No. I'd trust her until she gave me a reason not to. I'm very observant & have 5 planets in Virgo so go ahead & try to hide those things. I also have a Pisces full moon so I'm in tune with emotion as well. Some people I know think I can read minds.
If my girl hung out with a guy who I don't even know and without letting me know about it she wouldn't be my girl lol. Tell him about it and if you can't come to agree tot terms then don't go out with that dude. There are other things you can do that don't require other men.
Lunch the second less sexy meal after "coffee" is usually pretty safe. In the dys of 3 martini lunches were one of two things. In a free standing restaurant lasting 45 minutes to 20 minutes - no Beefeater Gin 98 proof martinis in a building with a dining room and hundreds of empty beds above the dining room these affairs often led to a room for the rest of the day and everyone coming in hungover the next day. Lunch at Katz's is fine at the Pierre, no
Depends. If its fellow employee that had lunch at same time, no. If its a business lunch, no.
If he was interested in her and trying something, maybe. But I do trust her. She can defend herself.
I don't understand why you can't tell your man about it...
"Hey Chris. My old friend Eric from college wants to grab lunch with me Wednesday."
If you're loyal to your man and he trusts you there shouldn't a problem.
you really need to tell him bc it really only becomes/looks worrisome or shady when you don't tell him about it.
It depends on who the guy is. If it is an ex boyfriend or some guy she had sex with I would be pissed.
i hope you at least told him... i always tell my partner where i'm going and with who. not because he needs to know, but because i like sharing my day with him
No, I trust her and she will sometimes have lunches to build her business as a private language teacher.
Having said that, if she was to fiddle around in his hair like the woman in the photo then I would be concerned.
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