Have you ever done a background check on someone when you started dating them?

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After some weird dating experiences, I think it's now necessary to try to keep crazy and manipulative people away...

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

I only ever did one sort of background check, but it wasn't some full blown actual public records search. I just looked on other social media platforms to see if the chick was on them, and she was. I just wanted to see a little more of what she looked like and what her interests were.

Background checks aren't that helpful. They'll tell you if the person has a criminal history, where they lived, driving records, and more if you're willing to pay for the deep search. Plus some public records don't have all the person's details because they haven't been updated for some years. And background checks don't tell me all those other things you won't find out like you can in person: if she's autistic, has schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, sleeps with women, etc. Her past isn't that much of an issue if she has changed as a person. I'm more concerned about who she is right now in front of me. That's what I want to see and what I'll be able to read the more I get to know her.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

When I was younger, I didn't, because there was no way to do a background check. After my divorce after 20 years of marriage, with Google now available, I always did a name search to learn about who I was about to date. It wasn't a background check, but I was amazed at some of the details I found.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh absolutely! If anything, I actually start screening them if I'm somewhat interested in them, or even consider them worth getting to know.

It's too many creeps, weirdos, catfishes, and dishonest people out here nowadays. So as soon as someone claims they want to get to know me, be my "friend," or they're interested in me?

Background check. From social media, to any other means of finding out info about them. Is it the best way to get to know a person? Not always. As some people, myself included, don't post their whole lives online, or tend to be secretive. So at that point, I just take my time getting to know them and letting them into my life.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yup!! 100%
I usually put the Hot guy in the friendzone and make him chase for a year. While I google him and add him with different accounts. And I find out who his siblings are before anyone tells me.

I usually end up finding out his siblings youtube, Facebook, Twitter and so on. And that way I study him through there.

I was even able to revive ancient pictures of him using the way back machine online. We’re he’s admitting to selling DR—GS.
Not only that, but in a different web browser like DuckDuckGo. I was even able to find a mugshot of him at age 17. 😂 because he beat up a guy or threatened him with a firearm

im good at this shT

Genie23 · Answer

Not really. I'd rather get to know them by speaking and spending time with them. Doing a background check means you're suspicious of them. I won't go out with someone I'm suspicious of in the first olace.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Never have… I just do the old fashioned way of getting to know someone. If I see red flags, I’ll decide for myself if it’s worth knowing them more or not

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I used to stalk guys online in my 20s and now I won’t even Google them if we have dated a full year.

libsaretards · Answer

Absolutely, for several reasons:

1. I am in law enforcement. Whoever I hang around can and will affect my employment, especially when the time comes to do court testimonies. Also, I cannot live with someone who is barred from having firearms. Since the point of dating is to eventually find the one I will marry, this is extremely important.

2. Similar to above, I cannot be around people with a history of anti-government radicalism. As in, anyone deemed a terrorist, enemy of the government, etc.

3. This world is dangerous. I need to know who I am letting in my life.

Minahh · Answer

Obviously yes. Recently this stupid motherfucker strung me along with his lies 😃 Background info we met online. I set the boundaries really firmly early on because I already knew there's something fishy about him. So I told him to always be transparent with me about everything. He of course said he would never hurt me, I can be 100% sure, he's not that type of a person and other bullshit. So I made a fake account and went back to the site we met at and obviously he was looking for other hoes there. Shortly after I cut off all contact with him.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'll generally check out their social media and see what kind of person they are when left up to their own devices. A chick isn't going to tell you straight to your face that she is a raging attention whore, but that is something that will be blatantly obvious through her use of social media.

BeMuse · Answer

Nope. In the past it has mainly been something reserved for people that owe me money. But I suppose it’s a more useful skill in times when communism is in play. I’ve found myself looking into small business owners lately to determine if I’m willing to give them business.

Paradisepup36390 · Answer

I haven't, but I'd seriously do this if I decided to date again.

Usually, it helps to meet people in places where you're not usually meeting people with a criminal history, like at a club or community theatre practice, or The events at the library, or in college of your still a student. Church is audio a nice place to meet Good people.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Nope. I’m pretty good at reading people, I’m not too concerned.  But my mom was a psycho and used to look up everyone me and my sister hung out with.

LazerBean · Answer

It's never seems like a need with any of the guys I had talked to. All of them were young, from local families that I considered respectable, and had good reputations.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes - primarily because it was a relationship that started online - and long distance. I work with the wife of our local sheriff so she insisted on a background check because she was worried about the situation... thankfully he turned out to be a wonderful man and I am so grateful that we have now been together over a year.

pethouse · Answer

No honestly that’s stupid, everyone got a past maybe not a criminal record but a past for sure, you will never be able to get to know someone for who they are if you just look them up on the internet. I Honestly think people that do that only do it because tHey have poor social skills and can’t figure out what kind of person someone is just by meeting and talking to them.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I have never been that paranoid.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

It is imperative. Its like giving a job interview to be in a partnership. I have boundaries and standards such as, how many girls he banged. How many exes. What his job is. Etc.

I an’t gonna date someone without knowing their past.

Anonymous · Answer

if i ever had the misfortune to have to date again, then yeah i would do a background check. thankfully i knew then before we started dating. so.

Monalisa77 · Answer

I do it all the time.. But now FB have made it even barder to snoop😭

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy, you should ALWAYS do some recon when dating a girl.
Check her online existence… if she exposes herself or sells her body online, she isn’t worth shit.
If she has “hot girl summer” travel pics, then has been with a handful of random cocks.

If she has drunken party pics, she has likely had her share of random cocks.

DellBell · Answer

I couldnt agree more with you, had my fair share of bad relationships to be honest.

Anonymous · Answer

I once made the mistake of getting a police friend to check someone's criminal history for me.

He found out I did it a good year and he was PISSED (even though he had no record, wtf) and broke up with me.

So yeah, I won't do that again.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Nope. But I'd be picky or fussy if they were into smoking, vape, booze or a rude person. I couldn't date anyone with bad habits 😔🤗

LocoLuna · Answer

If I could I totally would. However where we live we're not allowed to run those without the cops doing it

Anonymous · Answer

I look at their social media but thats about it

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I have. After having him added I can't help but snoop around a little!

ChillaxingLove · Answer

Doesn’t that cost money? No I’ve never done that

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No, I always google searched though. Bt I haven't dated much.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes, I look them up on the google, and look at court records just to see if anything is there.

exitseven · Answer

They did not have the internet when I was dating but I definitely would have done that.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Tbh I think only the losers in life do this.

Juxtapose · Answer

I'm going to keep it real, a lot of the answers here actually really creep me out.

zagor · Answer

Nope. I've never had such a bad date that a background check would have made a difference.

Mangospacho · Answer

I did. I was shocked. It turned out she was already married….. to me.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've never done a background check but I have done a back side check.

LovrUFFAllls · Answer

Always!!! I even look for their social security number

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

Nope. But I can see why you would now a days.

Akam93 · Answer

No but my crazy uncle did.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

needed if you got the tools

AimeeKyle · Answer

No. I would rather ease into it…..

In_Trance · Answer

Not in the sense that you're thinking

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes i. have

Anonymous · Answer

Always!

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