How do I convince myself that not all women are the same after running into women who always lie and lead me on?

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At first i was angry but over time shit just gets depressing and i feel like giving up pursuing women

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I tell women here all the time that the men they would rank as the top 10% in attractiveness - the (only) ones nearly all women want - are players who aren't interested in real relationships and are only going to use women for sex.

The same is true of really attractive women - they generally only want men for money, status, and lifestyle, and will think nothing of leaving him if a better value comes along.

You are shopping outside your price range, and so the women you are dealing with don't take you seriously. It's really that simple. You are going after baddies that you can't afford - because they have multimillionaires in their DMs who will fly them out, and put them on a boat, and you can't compete with that.

Humble yourself, shop for girls who are closer to average, and you will do much better.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

You've gotta look within yourself to see if there is anything about who you are as a person that attracts you to people like that.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

You attract such type of women or your behavior brings to surface those negative traits out of them. Remember anyone can lie, cheat and deceive, it's the art of convincing to let them believe being honest towards you grants them more benefits than telling lies.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Maybe you should start widening your options or choices and just be open to other types. Maybe you fall for the same types that’s why you always get left, lied to and misled. It’s the same thing as me saying all men are liars which I don’t believe.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If ALL women always treat you in some bad way, it might mean that

1. all women are bad and evil (and this would include your sister, mother, and grandmother) OR

2. You consistently find and attract women who are BAD, OR

3. Women treat YOU bad in response to something that you consistntly do to them when dating.

Logically, which of those three do you think is most probable and which is least probable?

Finchie40 · Answer

Don’t feel bad bro , I attract the same kind of girls’ you must wear Your heart on your sleeve like I do , and you easily get taken for granted , Why I don’t fully commit to a girl right away , I just go with the flow and see If she wants a serious relationship and knows what it means to be in a relationship cuz I am not wasting my time with a whore , most girls today just want
To be spoiled and fucked and have things go their way only , Girls are very sneaky and can easily play the sweet innocent role but the second she gets you wrapped she isn’t sweet and innocent anymore , so I don’t give my heart to a girl right away , I been played a lot of times as well to the point i am very picky on who I end up on bed with , Meanong I don’t just sleep with any girl , She has to be beautiful sweet and caring , has a heart , has morals , knows what it means to remove selfishness and knows how to be loyal for me to even consider going further with her

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'd change your mindset and approach to one learning about women... understand their moods and feelings and cycles, how to interact, communicate, and how to love them.

It's just as frustrating for them decoding men. The issue is we are very different and it isn't just male/female but a spectrum of emotional makeup.

Much has been written to decode the female mind. So get out of your head, and get into theirs... althewhilre, holding strong within yourself so you aren't thrown off by the whims of their behavior.

AliSulayman · Answer

It might be that you are attracted to a certain pattern in their behavior. It’s like you being lactose intollerent yet keep moving from a diary product to another, hoping one will work out for you.
You need to review your choices and go back to the reason that made you attracted to these women and see what do they have in common and what’s the common result then reflect on yourself and try to work more on your personality to avoid future misfortunes.
a Relationship is not two people whom complete each other but two complete people whom decide to be together and don’t need each other but rather want to be with each other. So unless you don’t work on you being complete, you’ll always be attracted to incomplete people like you and you’ll end up destroying each other.

Gingerbread_GB · Answer

I think the key is to just get to know more women, not necessarily for relationship, just normal life. Once you get to have more normal female friends and acquaintances you'll realize they are not all the same, they are not all liars or whatever.

imawfulatusernames · Answer

Honestly? If you can’t maybe you should stay single and try and build platonic relationships with women, therapy even if you struggle with that too. I don’t mean this in an offensive way but I think building the picture of women as full people outside of a romantic or sexual setting is key here

JordanianNumetal · Answer

Maybe your going after the wrong women, i know that is easy for me to say because attraction isn't a choice, but think about it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. If honesty is attractive to you maybe then that should warrant at least some of your selection process. Looks aren't everything. Not all females are liars, try seeking intelligence instead of looks.

gGreat · Answer

Stop chasing women. Build a talking atmosphere with someone, see the timing and ask the girl a genuine question about her intentions. If she says no, move on!
Rinse and repeat, till you find someone. Rejection isn’t a personal statement about you. It’s just a scenario which is not conducive for the two.
It’s not complicated.

arodriguez664 · Answer

If all the women are different then the only common denominator is you. Maybe you should evaluate your selection process and figure out why you keep finding women of that personality type attractive

Anonymous · Answer

The best way is to just stop chasing relationships. They're not the greatest thing in the world and in some ways they hurt you more than help you.
Just live your life and focus on other things. If some sweet little thing walks into your life and you fall in love, so be it. Those are usually the best ones anyway. The ones you didn't expect

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Well it's just common sense. Not everyone is going to be good for you. Not everyone is going to like you. You aren't going to like everyone you meet. And that is okay. The sooner you realize that the better off you'll be.

LunaLoveMeKnots · Answer

So when I was a bit younger I would lament the fact I only seemed to get involved with toxic girls, lairs, cheaters, uncontrolled substance abusers etc etc, didn't take me to long to realise that it's more that I go for those types

Zarapeachy · Answer

Find out what in you is choosing partners like them. Maybe they’re not the issue but you are. Subconsciously you’re choosing them for a reason. find out the reason

Mitsamono · Answer

They probably aren't trying to lead u on they are just too nice. U may be unattractive and no one has the heart to say anything because u are a sweet guy

virtue2332 · Answer

It could come down to the places you find these women. At some point you can't be mad at getting bit by a shark if you only swim in shark infested waters.

Gent207-2 · Answer

You need therapy to help you deal with the trauma and get over this mental mountain that you are facing

slatyb · Answer

If that's happening repeatedly, it's on you. There's a reason you are attracted to them and than tolerate bad behavior.

DermalPunch · Answer

Hahaha. Women ask them same things about men!

Steelcore5280 · Answer

Wait until you discover movements like the Manosphere 😎 I recommend channels on YouTube like Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews. Lemme know what you think of him.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Math. Approximately four billion women on the planet. How many have you run into who were bad? Yup, still about four billion more out there.

zagor · Answer

Ask yourself where you are meeting women, in what situations and places. It is likely the kind of people you are associating with that is giving you continual negative experiences.

Rangers · Answer

The same way you convince yourself that if you reach for stars long enough, you'll be able to grab a handful of them and put them in your pocket

Anonymous · Answer

Guys always blame women for the problems they created.

nenglish033 · Answer

Well the best thing you can do now I guess is to pursue men.

Anonymous · Answer

What sorts of women do you generally go for?  Our partner always has annoying traits. Some are major some are low key!

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Faith, it can be easy. Like, spelling you name.

grega239 · Answer

I stopped trying

Boomchakalaca · Answer

U hav a type

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