He said he sees a future but not sure about proposing?

[Anonymous]

My partner and I have been together for 3 years. We are 25 and have lived together for a year. We are talking about our future. I know that I would like to marry him, but he has seemed unclear about his future with me.

After he kept deflecting conversations, I finally told him that if he doesn’t see a future with me, then it’s best that we end our relationship. He said that he does see a future with me including buying another house, kids, etc. However, he is almost getting stuck when thinking of marriage and proposing. I feel like this is conflicting information.

I should mention that yesterday, he called his mom to tell her that he wanted to add me to his trust, if something were to happen to him. I feel like you wouldn’t put someone in your will that you were iffy about? We have made a game plan to continue discussing this, and taking steps to gaining clarity. Do you think he actually does not see a future and is just trying to keep me around? Or is he struggling with the idea of proposing because it’s the next logical step and in the near future?

[Anonymous]

As is practically always the case, women have no idea what dangers marriage hold for a man. Doing so places him at risk of losing everything he's worked for since he was born. If you've never considered this, then maybe you've only been looking at it from your side. Calling his Mom and telling her that he wants to add you to his trust, is entirely different from opening himself up to losing everything he owns due to corrupt courts and a bias society. Therefore only men that have no idea about the dangers of marriage will do it without hesitation. Sometimes they may not even realize that's why they are hesitating...

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Men should never marry. Not even commit to most women nowadays.