Why does it seem as if with some guys you have to struggle with them and allow them to put you through the worse in order for them to love you right?

[Anonymous]

They pretty much m base their love off the dumb and painful things you put up with and allow or they base it off what you have done for them. You have given them money, you allow them to drive around in your car, you cook for them, you go to work while they sit at home on social media posting about waiting for you to get home to do whatever with you rather it’s something sexual or they want you to cook. You are their listening ear, their therapist but they are none of those things to you. They’re just being good in bed and you guys might just happen to have a child together. It’s almost like they cannot even tell you why they love you for YOU but rather just the fact you overextend yourself. Always. It feels more like you’re being used rather than love like what they say and make you believe. They tell you things like “You’re the realest woman I ever came around. You’ve done this and that.” But they never mention how great you are within.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Perhaps more often "I" than "you"? Not so many women give their guys money, let them drive around in their care, cook for them, go to work while they sit around and do nothing all day, and don't reciprocate at all with all the effort you put into them.

I'm not making a statement about guys. I don't want the pool of guys is like right now. Maybe they're mostly crap. But I can say confidently that you are picking the wrong guys, even if 90% of guys are wrong today.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

* in their car

[BungusHighFivePizza]

* I don't know what pool of guys is like right now [I should start proof-reading my posts, but the absence of an edit feature on this site actually encourages the opposite in me somehow; feels like this site is just designed to dump our shit thoughts and not even proofread them].

[JustMeL120]

The question is do you love him?

Dont lie to yourself if you dont love him leave him. He you truly loved him you wouldn't have a problem being his slave and sacrificing your dignity for him. The fact you are questioning this mean maybe you dont love him.

I wouldn't settle for or be the slave of a man i dont love i rather be single.

[Akam93]

I wonder that myself. I still haven't found the answer.

[Asker]

Exactly. It makes me scratch my head every time I see the things a lot of beautiful young women accept. I only even asked because I came across a post from a guy I’m friends with on Facebook and he made a post proclaiming his love for his baby mother and it said “I love her because she has been through the storm with me and I have put her through so much and she has still come back to me after everything I have done.” Then ended it with “She accepts me for me.” Which only means I can do whatever and she’ll be okay with it because she understand that that’s just me. It sounds more like a slap in the face rather than a compliment.

[boggboss]

Because you are simply being used lol

[boggboss]

Guys like this won't change because they have no reason to change they are with a person that acts like his mother and he gets what he wants so why would he change

[In_Trance]

You don't; You're picking the wrong guys