Have you ever ignored the signs/red flags just because you’re into a person?

[Pinay_ako]

You like them too much to let go

[Peter_Penetrator]

Yes. Only because I didn’t know how to communicate with my shrink that my crazy meds were not working. I had a codependent personality and assumed that being married would make up for where my meds were failing me.


My ex was screwed up as well. She reveled in the attention she got from family and friends when she purposefully picked toxic men. Me being one. She only kept me around for that reason. She poured the salt in my wounds.


I finally found the right doctor, the right crazy med cocktail and got my emotional shit together for the first time in 30 years of looking for those meds and doctor. I left her.


I refuse to regress.


I own my mental health now, take responsibility for it, and am quite proud of what all I have endured all of those years.


I fully appreciate who I am now.


I am looking forward to making a difference in the life of a very special person in my life.

[Manuel2]

I have told friends that their partner is no good. No longer friends now

[AviatorTom]

A long time ago, I dated a girl who was hot. I knew it wasn't going anywhere but she was so sexy and I was young and horny. It ended badly.

[Dargil]

As have I. She had justifiable Daddy issues. She was an A student in high school and he had her positioned to attend Mount Holyoke. He, a high-end attorney, had a years long affair with his private secretary and abruptly divorced the mother. In the process, he took the girl off the list and left her to fend for herself; attending Community College. She blamed herself unjustifiably for the divorce, which she believed happened because she was "a bad girl". When we took up she (model quality) later introduced the need to be punished, physically for it; the result of which I have posted here, but never the back story. I played into it until I couldn't stand it any longer and broke up with her. She threatened to kill me when I did. Rejection again. No, this did not end well.

Mama never said there would be days like this.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. But I leaned and I’m better now

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not red flags, but signs - Yes!

In the beginning of pandemic when I lived in China with my ex fiance, I decided to take a two week trip, left everything back in China and decided to go back to renew my visa, see my family and come back soon.

In the airport, I was stopped by policemen, they said I couldn’t take this flight, since there were some visa issues and they couldn’t allow me to leave. I fought my way out of it because I had no visa issues.

Then in the airport, I was so nervous I was leaving my fiance for 2 weeks, I got a fever out of stress, 37.3 degrees, they stopped me saying they couldn’t allow me leave China having this fever. I fought my way out of it as well, showed them the certificate showing I was quarantined for a month and there was no way I had Covid.

Needless to say this two weeks trip turned into 2 years, as China locked it’s borders soon after and I have never seen my ex fiancé again. We broke up 4 months before I managed to finally return.

I wonder, have I stayed, have I missed that flight, what would happen? I would already be married, probably would have my first child next year.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I so regret I took that fateful flight. It changed my life forever. Seems like universe was literally screaming at me not to leave.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes but if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be …

[dreamstar72]

But sometimes that “it was meant to be” is “regret of what could have been”

[qwert1234]

I once dated a girl who:

-Keeps breaking up with me whenever we have fights, to extent that I also get blocked from communications. This happens no matter the gravity of fights are. (ie: I did not wait for her to come home at 2am because I have work at 7am and have to be up by 5am)

-Got mad when I bought something out of my OWN money. I earlier told her that I was not planning to buy it, but I changed my mind. Apparently, I "should've notified her" about my change of mind. What happened? See 1st point.

-Tells me that she's independent and when I let her be, "I do not care enough for her".

-When I tell her my plans for our future, I say "we". When she makes plans, it's "I", and if I somehow disagree with plans - "we are not compatible, we should break up".

-She compared me to her ex.

-She told me that if we break up, she could just call her ex and she is sure they will be back together.

I really regret staying on a relationship above for more than 5 years. Granted, we had more fun stuff than above, but come to think of it, it still can be classified as toxic. I am more stressed if we have fights than having problems in office.

I am not perfect in a relationship, I have my own flaws, mostly I am not that showy of emotion and somewhat lazy to go out of the way - but to me, those are red flags.

[Leapfrog00]

I dated a girl once I ended up engaged too. I thought I loved her. Everything was good at first, but then she started meeting guys off the internet, having sex with them when I was working, and one time she even called me at work and told me not to come home because she had a guy coming there. I told her straight forward, "I don't do open relationships."

The girl did nice things for me, like cooked me dinner, took care of me when I was sick, and paid me nice compliments. Maybe that's why I still stayed.
She ran off with a guy from Indiana on our wedding day. Looking back, I don't know why I even loved this girl.

[Haha456]

you had a wedding day with a girl who was meeting other guys from the internet?

[Leapfrog00]

@Haha456 This girl was such a control freak and were times when she would threaten to break up with me if I didn't do certain things. Honestly, I had low self-esteem and didn't think I could do any better than her. I know, it's stupid.

[Googlemyahoo]

Last long term relationship… when we first met I knew she was dating a guy for awhile. They were together all the time she was in one of my classes.

Her friend said she liked me I was like what about her boyfriend? Her friend claimed she was mad at him. Then she wanted to date me.

At the time I thought wow she moves fast for having dated the guy for years. I recall being weary but then I discovered she gave amazing BJs and literally wanted to have sex anywhere and everywhere. So I dropped my guard.

Two years later same thing happened to me lol

[Pinay_ako]

How you got her is how you end up with her too

[Haha456]

im a bit different from everyone else. i notice EVERYTHING about you the first time I meet you. I can notice every single bad thing about you YET I would never say anything about it. Until I find that we just aren't the right fit, then i will leave you.

[DizzyDesii]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CIJ7nhrHZlU

[arodriguez664]

Yes. I was in a situationship for 3 years but because I loved him I stayed. He never really made plans to hangout, IF he showed up and that was a big IF, he only did because I paid for it. He texted me sporadically, and usually only when he wanted attention. He never communicated his feelings and ultimately ghosted me for someone else

[devilish-cutie]

Yes and no, because i form connection with toxic men unlike with healthy ones, however i am fully aware of their red flags yet i cling to the potential and im very emotional so its hard not to care about someone you form a connection with

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yes, that's happened to me. It's like being hypnotized because when I first met her I was like "good luck to whoevers dumb enough to date that girl"

And then before I knew it, I was dating her.

[asphaltrhymes]

Sometimes it's hard to know as an introvert me whether I've got red flags or she has red flags? How's a man to know, a nerdy man at that as in me? Lol 😀 the ladies out there, hard to know if she's got baggage or she's fine and dandy 🙂

[katiesmuff]

Yes once with a guy who I was really into, who had convinced me to move away with him only to find out the reason we moved was for him to hook up with another chick.

[strateguy632]

i did ignore and we met repeatedly it can work short term but you probably break up after one month.

[JustMeL120]

Yes!!! I am still into my ex psychopath crush. Even after he love bombed me, ghosted me, discarded me. I blocked him but still like him.

[OfMiceandMen]

I may be willing to overlook certain signs/red flags, because they have so many other redeeming qualities, .

[Monalisa77]

I haven't ignored what he's done but i genuinely think there mustve been a reason for it and id give anything to try and fix it

[Paris13]

I did at One Time But Broke it Off later. Too Wise, I think. xxoo

[bobalife]

Unfortunately, love is blurry and I overlooked the red flags until too deep in… 😐

[Chrysantenum95]

Yes oh yes.. But proudly let go of it.. I choose me, myself and i now.