Does he respect me or are we lacking sexual chemistry?

[Anonymous]

I recently started dating someone I work with (M 34). He is fairly new at our company and asked me out on a date the first week he got hired. He’s very attractive and I agreed. He kissed me at the end of our first date and immediately asked to see me again a couple days later. We ended up going on 5 more dates which he paid for it all. Never let me even touch my wallet and picked me up at my apartment every single time. He has been so sweet. We always made out at the end of our dates. Super passionate make out sessions. We have not gone to each others places and have not had sex… but I want to. He hasn’t initiated it though and hasn’t invited me over to his house. I know he lives alone fyi. Is this bc he respects me or bc we lack sexual chemistry and maybe he’s not that into me? Should I initiate it? If so, how do I get him to invite me back to his place?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to determine the exact reasons behind his behavior without more information or direct communication with him. However, here are a few possibilities to consider:

Respecting boundaries: It's possible that he is taking things slow because he respects your boundaries and wants to ensure that both of you are comfortable before progressing to a more intimate level. This can be seen as a positive sign of respect and consideration for your feelings.

Shyness or nervousness: He may be feeling shy or nervous about initiating sex or inviting you to his place. Some individuals take time to open up sexually, especially in new relationships. It doesn't necessarily mean he lacks sexual chemistry or isn't interested; he might just need more time to feel comfortable.

Communication gap: Since you mentioned that you want to have sex but he hasn't initiated it, it could be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your desires and expectations. Communicating your feelings can help create a clearer understanding of each other's needs and boundaries.

If you want to initiate sex or express your desire to visit his place, you can try the following:

Communicate your intentions: Let him know that you are interested in taking the relationship to a more intimate level and express your desires in a clear and respectful manner. This can help create an open dialogue and allow both of you to express your feelings and expectations.

Suggest spending time at his place: You can casually suggest spending time at his place for a change of scenery or to watch a movie together. This can open the door for more intimate moments and give him an opportunity to invite you over.

Remember, it's important to prioritize consent, open communication, and mutual comfort in any intimate situation. It's always best to have a discussion and ensure that both partners are on the same page.

[Asker]

Appreciate the feedback. Will try to initiate the conversation!!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks!

[slatyb]

If you live alone, invite him to yours. If he's going back to his place, all of you can go with him.