One day while i was eating lunch she decided to join me and started asking me why i get nervous and quiet around girls. I said “i dont know” (i have a crush on her). She then started asking me if i never talked to girls and if i dont have a girlfriend. I said no.
The next day we were standing outside the office and while we were talking she got really close to me (within personal space) and then places her hand on my tummy. I was uncomfortable and moved back and she did it again and kept it there. Someone came and she moved back.
the next following days she started to join me for lunch. Everyone else goes out to eat but i stay in the kitchen to eat. And now she stays there with me while all others are out for eating. She will say hi and ask me how i am. Then she asked me my hobbies, where i studied from, future plans and so on. Small talk basically.
The touching seemed a bit more than being friendly but the rest seems fine. But i do think asking someone if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend is not appropriate at work. Moreover she is the HR so she should know better.
now I’m not sure what she wants and why she is doing that.
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She is HR which means she's practicing double standards and you should be very careful. This is trouble. She's trying to find out information about you.. give her nothing. If you value your job, I would stay away at all cost. Just imagine the roles were reversed and you were the one that placed your hand on her stomach... you'd potentially be out of a job. Just because you find a woman attractive, doesn't mean you should let her do as she pleases.
So why exactly is she doing all of that.
I asked my sis and she said she is interested but she is also ignoring boundaries.
It could just be for attention and validation.
isn't it risky to do that at work?
Not for a woman, they get away with almost everything. Men are the ones mostly held accountable.
I asked my sis and she told me that she might might be interested
Maybe, but you're sister won't be distinguishing between interest and validation / attention seeking.
Ask her.
Kinda hard to do
why?
It’s a workplace and i dont have much confidence to ask her directly. I’m waiting for signs but i can't tell if what she did are sogns
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