One night stand with coworker that has made things awkward at work and not getting better?

[Anonymous]

A coworker and I had an one-night stand about 2 months ago then we had a falling out about the situation. He brought the awkwardness to work and started to quote him, "acting dead at work so he doesn't get in trouble." Everyone noticed it and thought it was about me so did I. He kept saying it was about work, well eventually a lot of people learned. He kept telling me one about why he was acting weird and telling other people other reasons.
Well fast forward to know, we work on different teams now and I had to work with him on a project. He was fine at first then sort of switched like he didn't want me talking to him.
I don't know if it was about me or not. He doesn't tell me anything. It makes me feel very uncomfortable and scared of him. He is an alcoholic.

I'm trying to decide if I should reach out and try to at least make things less awkward at work or its a bad idea because he may snap at me. Should I try to talk things out with him?

[abw121290]

This is always a tough situation and why they say that “you shouldn’t fish off the company pier”. One night stands with co-workers rarely works out well. I would try to talk to him and let him know that while at work, it’s important to remain professional, and focus on what needs to get done. Hopefully, it will work, and you’ll be able to get back on track from a professional standpoint.

[Asker]

Unfortunately he is not interested is being civil even work related. He said i quote he doesn't want to deal with it.
I have decided its probably best I find a new job. I should be having an interview here soon.

[CookiesAndCream2]

There's an old saying - don't shit where you eat - and you my dear shat where your money for food comes from.

Start looking for another job. It won't get better until one of you leave either of your own free will or the boss / management / HR gets fed up and fires one of you. This is a prime example why it is advised not to have sexual relationships with colleagues.

[In_Trance]

Lesson learned; dont fuck co workers