Is it always a bad idea to date someone who is just out of a relationship?

[Anonymous]

So, this guy is ending things with his girlfriend of like 10 months because he still has strong feelings for me. He and I dated off and on for 2 years but it was a complicated time for us both due to outside reasons so it didn’t work at the time. Now, it’s been a full year apart, and we both still have strong feelings for each other. He admitted he has thought about me every single day and feels more for me than the girl he tried to move on from me with. We both acknowledge it’s really sad for the girl he’s with, he did honestly try to move on, but he and I just have a connection we both can’t find with anyone else. That said, he’s ending things in a couple of weeks and plans to see me shortly after. I’m of course super excited but also wondering should there be some down time between this relationship he was just in? I don’t believe I am a rebound because of our history and the situation but also I’m nervous to just start dating him. What do you think? Is this a bad idea?

[Anonymous]

So you’re sitting around waiting for him while he’s fucking, kissing and cuddling with his girlfriend that he allegedly doesn’t love? And he’s planning to leave her and be with you, but not for a few weeks, for whatever reason? Lol. A) you’re making it very clear that you don’t mind being a naive doormat, waiting around for a guy while he’s with another woman and B) you’re ok with the fact that he’s emotionally cheating on his girlfriend with you, plotting to leave his girlfriend for you and pretend everything is fine until then so I sure hope you wouldn’t mind being treated the same way - your man talking to another woman behind your back and confessing his love for her and them plotting that he’ll leave you in a while to be with her and pretending to you like nothing’s wrong.
You’re both pieces of shit that deserve each other and you’re a fool that’s gonna sit there and wait while he’s in bed with his current woman lol. No self-respecting individual would do that, or any of the shit the two of you are doing for that matter.

[Asker]

They aren’t even having sex

[Anonymous]

If he was done with the broad he wouldn't take weeks love.
Go live your life and I guess when he's "ready" he has your number

[Asker]

He is because they live together

[Asker]

So he’s breaking up with her after he moves out so she doesn’t do anything while living together

[Opinion Owner]

Thats not a good way to do it.
She can get pregnant any day LOL trust me. It CAN HAPPEN. He needs to get a hotel or sleep on the couch until their lease is over
Or have him break the lease and get his own shit. Have him pay the rest of his half for rent have them sign a contract that he did for. sure pay
Cause I've heard men who are married and lead a girl on for MONTHS talking about he gone leave his wife and NEVER do. Don't be that girl

[Asker]

No like he actually is moving out and he isn’t having sex with her even

[Opinion Owner]

Uh uhhh
My friend is still stuck with a man now because she didn't wanna fuck other men while living with him. She's pregnant now.

[Asker]

Cool for them. Don’t project that on to me

[Jenks03]

Huh?

[Asker]

@Jenks03 ?

[Jenks03]

Ummmm

[RingOfFire]

I would take things slowly. Both girls and guys have a tendency to latch on to another relationship quickly right after leaving one because it's scary to make a change and be all alone. But this kind of rebound relationship isn't based on the right things. Since you already have some background with him that might help a little. But you need to let him collect his thoughts and get an idea of where he is going on his own first to be sure that his intentions about you are in the right place.

[Asker]

Thank you for having a logical answer

[In_Trance]

I don't think it's ever a bad idea.
The problem is the misconception of what dating actually is; getting to know each other. Dating does not mean you're committed to each other. I find people make this mistake all the time.
If you're getting to know someone you'll know very soon whether it's too early for them to be in another relationship or not.

[Googlemyahoo]

Rebounders will want to have fun for a time to forget their ex but eventually will settle down

[dudeinohio]

Not all the time. Depends on the person