I have a guy friend and his girlfriend is also my good friend. while she is in relationship with him, she goes on dates and texts with multiple guys (he doesn't know about it). he loves her and is very loyal to her but she isn't.
Need to ask yourself a few very honest questions:
Anyway this is a tough one. If you were a male buddy of his it would be easier to give him a heads up.
This one of many reasons why men and women shouldn’t be friends. Even if your motivations to tell him about this are 100% altruistic it’s still going to be questioned simply because you are a woman and he is a man.
Anyway he sounds like the naive type (no offense). This is more common with younger men/women. He isn’t viewing her with clear lenses because of his feelings. I bet there are some hints and behaviors that she’s displayed that are red flags to most people. But he isn’t thinking clearly and his trust is being exploited.
Chances are she will ultimately break up with him to go chase some asshole because she finds his nice guy behavior too “boring”. She’s a selfish pos but she’s likely gets away with it because I’m guessing she's very attractive.
I just hope your friend learns a hard lesson from this and it doesn’t happen to him more than once in his lifetime.
No... i am not interested in him but as a friend totally adore him... it hurts when i see him so caring towards her while he is flirting with other guys. yes, she is also my good friend... that boy deserves a better girl. its a pity to watch him wasting his time
Jeez this is a tough one. Very tough one.
I wonder if you could set her up so she gets caught red handed. Maybe find out next time she’s out hanging out with another guy. Then head to wherever that is and call your friend up to come hangout with you. That way you have solid proof.
On one end it would destroy him to catch her cheating behind his back. However the selfish whore would have no way to lie and weasel her way out of it. It will impossible for her to gaslight him if she got caught redhanded.
I am about 99.99% sure one of my exes was cheating on me at least a week before she broke up with me (I saw the break up coming). What hurt me the most was NOT the cheating incident in itself. It was how she did mental gymnastics to see me as less than human to self justify her bs. If she would have confessed it I would have been pissed but it would have been easier to move on. Instead I agonized over the mistakes I made in relationship. I made a lot but I never cheated.
I would definitely tell your friend about what she was doing if she ends up breaking up with him. It will initially hurt him a lot to hear the truth. But it will be easier for him to move on. She seems like the sociopathic type that will find a way to self justify her bs.
You need better friends. She has low moral character and if she will do this to someone she claims to love. Imagine what she would do to you as a friend. She would probably stab you into he back. She would probably try to sleep with your boyfriend if she had a opportunity.
Ditch her like a bad habit and tell him
You risk losing BOTH of them as friends. If you're willing to take this risk because you don't like her actions, OK. But, he might not believe you and might wonder what your motive is.
I'd approach it THIS way. Gina, I really don't like the fact that you're going out with three guys while you're with Larry. He's faithful to you and only you. Why do you mistreat him this way?
Listen to her answer. Maybe even RECORD your talking to her AND her answer. This might come in handy later. If you're dissatisfied with her answer, THEN talk to him. Play him the recording for backup.
BUT BE READY FOR THE FALLOUT! I fathom that they'll both be angry with you for a long time. Maybe, forever. If you're ready for the consequences, OK.
And, I suggest you cut off that woman as a "friend." She doesn't seem to have healthy values.
Personally I think this is up for you to decide. Is she the type of person that would throw your name under the bus and make you in part of the drama , or do you think she would truly appreciate coming to her and break up with him? I know most people here said tell her, which is a good answer but if you don’t want to potentially be part of the drama (depending on the type of person your friend is) I would steer clear
Yeah she probably is. Most people who cheat are also bad friends
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That’s a very hard decision. A lot of times I’d say stay out of things if they don’t involve you directly. In this situation you don’t know what’s really going on. But at the same time if she’s messing around it puts him at potential risk of certain diseases. Something I’m sure you wouldn’t want for him or a family member of this was happening ing to them. You have to to think about this. Do you have proof? Concrete evidence that would prove what she’s doing. If so maybe send it to him anonymously. But again you don’t know the whole story. This is a tough one. If it was my brother I’d tell him even if he knew about it possibly making him mad at me. I don’t know too many men that k ow about something like this that are ok w it unless he couldn’t perform sexually for some reason. I don’t know. Think about it.
Morally, probably yes. But it is also understandable, if you just don't want to bother with that. She might want to get revenge after that. But once it gets out he might end your friendship, if he finds out you knew all along and did not help him. I'd be very disappointed in a "friend" like that.
Only if you want to lose her as a friend. It's the right thing to do for him but the wrong thing to do to her. why defend a a person who is unfaithful. So your morales should dictate what you should do.
That is dilemma if i choose one, i will choose one
Yes you should tell him. Its the right thing to do. Imagine you were in his situation and your friend knew and didn't tell you. If you found out later it would hurt evan more. I strongly suggest you tell him.
Wish you good luck! Hopes it goes well:)
Yes, because you're going to lose her for telling or lose him for not telling. If you side with her it demonstrates poor moral character on your part, which reduces your appeal to other men completely unrelated to this. How many women get dumped because their friends are out doing scandalous stuff? Same same.
You would be saving him and much of his life in my opinion... but... the messenger has a tendency to get shot. I really don't know what to tell you to do. You're going to have to weigh that judgement yourself.
That's rough man... You just black pilled me with that question.
Yes. When I was young I never did but after I got cheated on, I regreted never saying anything and even called people to let them know. Even though they have already broken up. Not to mention STD's, paternity question, saving them from a bigger trauma or passing over opportunities on personal and professional level. You might end up losing one of them but so be it.
I'd tell her.
My ex on this site had them all protect her cheating
If she is clearly cheating on him then yes you need to tell him , she will be upset with you and your friendship with her will probably come to an end but the truth hurts, that she is simply a whore , so you are best to let him know, unless you still want to be friends with a whore , that’s up to you
I've done this quite a few times but chose most of the times to do so anonymously. Two guys I knew would I could tell them what I know, and even if I didn't present evidence, they would believe me. I have a whole lot of acquaintances, and a couple of friends who we know all have the others best interest in serious situations like this that have to be shared.
But a couple of actual friends who we all*
Nope. Just stay away from that. Not your story to tell or issue to get involved in.
You're right last time i get involved i had a huge fight with him. but i love him as a friend so feels sad for him
Not true. You should always do what's right. If he finds out you knew then you will loose him as a friend forever
@Spongebobssocks yes!
He picked the wrong friend. That I can say
@Summeroflove yup:)
@Summeroflove are you calling me wrong friend 🙄
No right one
At the end of the day. You should do what’s right and like I said. If someone will cheat… they’ll probably hurt you too or throw you under the bus. Or something
@Summeroflove i know she will hurt me too... that' why i am bit scared to tell him about her. god knows what drama she will create.
I understand 💯 how you feel. You don’t have to say anything. Maybe say a prayer for him. I know you probably feel conflicted.
But it can be hard to do the right thing. But you don’t wanna kick yourself later down the road and know you could have done something.
If he doesn’t listen. There isn’t anything you can do about it at least not legally speaking so.
I think the question is who do you value most as a friend because when he finds out you have been keeping her secrets he’s going to be done with you too. If you tell him she will quit being your friend. Can you hint to him so he can find proof himself in a way she won’t find out you told, I don’t know?
Sorry, this has already been addressed here:
Why guys became such a dumb blind & dog after they fall in love with girl?
If you were a guy, I would say yes, otherwise it's tricky if you find him even the slightest bit attractive, or could. Because I assure you that if they break up based on what you said, you should never even entertain the idea of dating him until he's had several other failed relationships that had nothing to do with you.
Why is she cheating?
I would appreciate it If you gave me an incite.
Cause she is an attention seeker... loves attention of people.
Yeah... i also feel sorry... blinded by love
No... i simply adore him as a friend totally plantoic. its just hard to see him waste his time
Be carefully doing that it can backfire on you if he is blinded by love
Yeah he is sadly...
Me Id just tell him you think he could do better and that you think he should find someone else. Also make your friend stop telling you about the cheating.
It's not your business. Give him some hints but I wouldn't tell him because he will use your statement as evidence to blame his girlfriend who is your friend as well, I suppose.
Its certainly a dammed if you do, damned if you don't situation. And you run the possibility of being shot as the messenger but telling him the truth would be the right thing to do no matter how hurtful it will be to him.
Yes friends watch each other's backs, just don't make it sound bias, you tell him that you told him cause you'd like to know if you were in the same position
I once had a friend that was a girl. We hung out but I met her friend and we began dating. Few years later discovered she cheated on me & my so called friend never said anything. She was no longer my friend.
Disloyalty results in banishment
I wouldn't tell him. Instead, make sure he catches her cheating. I don't know the specifics, so I can't advise you on how to set it up, but have him catch her "in the act" so to speak. So he can see it undoubtedly for himself. He deserves to know.
If it were my friend, I would tell him. He would shoot the messenger, but I would feel like a bad friend otherwise.
YES, cheating is a dick move and noone deserves it. Be a decent human being and don't let the dude be played like that and find better friends
Nah. Stay out of it. Things have a way of coming out in the open anyway. One day, she’ll slip up and all will be revealed to him.
Yes cause it could make someone think your ok with. Their was a story on YouTube. Who’s her ex boyfriend brother was cheating on his wife. They broke up with her.
Yeah absolutely. Disown the cheater and just tell the man straight up what’s going on.
Say nothing but maybe plant traps. You could type up a letter and send it anonymously with times and dates for him to catch her.
If I were sure they were in a committed relationship, I'd toss the cheating friend under the bus. I have no use for disloyal people.
Let him know. He doesn't deserve that likes to ND of treatment, no one does.
Both of them are going to hate you for it lol... Your call
Do not get involved in other people's intimate relationships.
That can go seriously wrong for you as you don't know how someone will react with you sticking your nose where it doesn't belong especially when it comes to intimate relationships.
No
dont get involved in it.
it’s their personal thing
You need to get proof that she is cheating on him. Then present him the evidence
You know what your conscience is telling you, why are you defending evil?
No you need to mind your business on this one. If you say anything your probably gonna lose both friends
Yes, she fucked around so its time to find out.
Get her phone and send something from another guy to him
May girls have multiple lovers, so it is not a problem, that girl don't love him, so you can tell your friend about that girl
Only if you're OK with the possibility of losing him as a friend.
Yes you should definitely tell him.
Can you prove it?
No... don't have a solid proof
She'll eventually get caught
Sorry about that
That's none of your business.
That's what friends do, saving thier mates
Yeah. He deserves to know.
Nope. Never get involved in anyone else's problems
I don't meddle in other peoples love lives
Yes as long as he’s loyal to her
definitely.
He deserves the truth.
Absofuckinglutley that's what friends are for
Nope, stay out of it
I am trying to but i feel bad
Yes you should
Tell him
Yes you should.
I say tell him anonymously.
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