Am I single because of my racee?

[Anonymous]

I see a white girl that looked barley feminine and no makeup get a hot boyfriend. It’s always the white girls who get someone. As you know racism still runs rapid in the world. I will even see online people bashing an obviously pretty black girl. One person had the nerve to comment “too bad she's black.” Basically saying she pretty but sadly she's black. That is so ignorant I get all these men can have their preference along with being ignorant and bashing black women but I don’t understand why men have a special hatred for us. Ironically if I was a guy black women and Latina girls would be my type. Now I know America has a lot of unattractive people but I’m not gonna consider myself unattractive. I’m actually in shape and I may be on the skinny side but it’s better that being overweight. I sadly I look younger than my age but that doesn’t help because no matter what I do I ALWAYS attract guys who are like 40 and above. Even when I wore makeup that made me look extremely mixed all I got was jealous girls. Even my own race of men act like they better than me. Sadly I should stop wearing twist or braided exstentions because that screams “black.” I noticed most women of my color that actually are pretty not unattractive still are single. I mean white girls and Latina girls wear a lot of makeup. If makeup didn’t exist then a lot of girls would look the same. A extremely small nose is not all that special. I know one thing is ever since I became a Christian I can’t attract friends or anyone. I know what your thinking I don’t shove beliefs down anyones throat. I don’t really judge I’m a quiet person in public. Im not a prude I try to look beautiful. The problem is I live in a racist area and the Mexican men over here are so evil towards me.

[lightbulb27]

Black is really an overused term like white... the larger value is culture. Would you be interested in dating a Russian guy... they are white? That's my point... culture... and even in that, there's a lot of assumptions.

I know good, decent, attractive white girls that can't find a mate either. I think it's much more about social skills, dating skills. Some people find multiple spouses and some never catch one.

Race/culture is an influence. People make assumptions based upon what they have learned or been told. The easiest thing to do is make an assumption and avoid risks... survival, avoidance of pain. If they associate you with risk, there is work involved to win them over.

I know "black" women that married white guys, and visa vis. It's personality, value, emotional connection/attraction (e. g. childhood experience/training), goals, etc..

Your color is a factor for some, but the real challenge in life... is to take someone's assumptions about you... and overcome them! That is sales! Converting "no's" into "yes's". You own that, you can influence that.

So you have to sell yourself and up your value, or adjust your sights a bit. nothing wrong with that.

[boggboss]

To be honest more likely then not had ti do with who u are finding to date yes many have racial preferences but there are still plenty of guys that love black women also if it dates and friends u can't find I would say its more likely somthi g ua re doing over just your race

[Anonymous]

Rather than give you a cliche, "It's not you, it's them! Keep trying" answer, I'm going to give you a blunt, realistic answer-

Probably so. At least due to your circumstances and location. You said yourself, "The problem is I live in a racist area and the Mexican men over here are so evil towards me."
There you go- you live in an area where the odds aren't in your favor.

I'm not saying you're single because of your race, but you're not their particular preference. Trust me, I get it. I'm black as well and dating is terrible where I live! I can't get attention from men of any race! 🙄

Try online dating, or out of your area if you can. It sucks, but you might have better luck.

Just remember: everyone had preferences, and while it might seem like other races have it easier dating, there are men that find us attractive.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Men don't like extensions, 4 inch nails or two inch lashes. You admitted to having at least one of these. Also, where are you looking for men? That sounds like more of the problem. There's too many black women out there with white men for it to be "because of your race." If everything you see is because of racism though, that's why you're single. It's a tired narrative.

[EpicSnail]

My guess would be no, at least not directly. But what I will say is that while I acknowledge that Black people have plenty of things to be upset about, I find it really unattractive to identify by your race. It quickly turns into a victim mindset, and that is just not very fun for others to be around, or helpful for yourself.

[TracyF]

I love beauty of all races. I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences. I think you're a lovely person, and If you can't attract friends who are nice to you, I'll be nice. Have a high five because you are awesome. If you need a brother in Christ, thats what I am. Remember that God loves you and is with you in everything you go through.

[Guardian45]

I have NO IDEA where you live, but you NEED to get out of that racist backwater town or country. Move to somewhere more progressive!

I've dated white, oriental, native, hispanic and black women. NO PROBLEM with ANY of them! You too can find happiness!

[MementoMori777]

Well I'm sure at some point you'll find someone, love arrives at its own time, but I don't think you should blame your race, blame the racists

[DextroShade]

Go watch Kevin Samuels videos on YouTube, he will make it clear for you.

[zagor]

So you think you are rejected because of your race but you reject men based on age...

[Emanon25]

It has nothing to do with that, you probably didn’t find the right person.

[shortster]

If she is cute, I don't care about her race.

[In_Trance]

no, it's something else