He asked me on a date but I said no, but now I wanna know him better what should I do? help?

[adifferentkindoflove]

so I saw this guy on Instagram and wanted to get to know him, and suddenly he showed interest and we started talking. he asked me on a date on the first day of our chats and I felt flustered and indirectly declined him. After that maybe he lost his interest and now he doesn't talk to me anymore, but I want to get to know him better, but I don't know what to do. help

[Leapfrog00]

If he's still on there, shoot him a message, and ask him how he's doing. Then ease into it. Tell him you thought it over and you'd like to give him a chance.
One thing though, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but a lot of times when someone knows they can't have something, they want it more, lol, so this may be your mind's way of playing a trick on you. Even if he wanted to date you first, now that he doesn't talk to you anymore, that may play into it.

Nothing wrong with that though! Shoot him a message, strike up a conversation. If he's interested in what you have to say, he won't mind small talk at first, but if he's all like, "Get to the point," say "Nice to know you, I'm out! Goodbye!"

When you talk to him, ask him how he has been doing and ask him questions about him. Guys like when girls take an interest in them and their hobbies and interests, but also talk about yourself in there too, so the conversation isn't a one way conversation. Good luck to you!

[EricSummer]

Just contact him again and then do either of the following:
- Say that you were super busy recently, but now it's calm and you have more time to hang out. (Hoping that he gets the hint and asks again now. Very traditional...)
- Mention the date you indirectly declined and say you would like to go after all if he's still up for it.
- Suggest a new date of your own.

It should not be very difficult. I think it can be appropriate for a woman to get a little active if she wants a man. After all he did ask first, so at maximum you get even.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him directly you wanna get to know him better and see if you guys have a connection. Tell him when he asked you out he caught you off guard and you didn’t know him well enough to say yes yet. That should give him an incentive to get to know you better if he still likes you.

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck. Get in Touch with Him and Ask Him Out now. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[WindAtMyBack]

Message him and say that accepting a date on the first day was a little too soon but you'd still like to talk. That lets him know you are interested, but is non-committal for anything more.

If he can't understand that or can't accept it, then you've gotten to know him better, which is your goal. You've learned that he is probably not worth wasting your time on.

[BoopBoopBeep]

some people just don't want to spend their time chatting... they want to get to know people in real life where it's harder to hide behind a keyboard. Maybe he's that kind of person, in which case your only shot is to ask him to go get coffee or something

[Anonymous]

When YOU said No, it's on YOU to undo it.

Despite what you might believe and what other girls tell you, a good guy will not keep asking you out if you reject him. There's lots of girls out there. When you say No, he moves on to find one who will say yes.

You want him now? You have to make the approach. And since you won't, you might as well just accept you've lost your chance and learn from this mistake so you dont reject the next guy you secretly want.

[Miristheiss]

He's moved on as he should. If a woman says no or shows no interest he should move on.

You'll have to reach out and say you've had a change of heart and you'd like to meet if he is still interested.

[LiamJHayden]

You might need to ask him out. When I ask a girl, if she declines I move on. Not bitterly, just not wanting to waste my time. He might have done so, so you will need to initiate.

[Kiss_Me]

Ask him out. Explain why you declined his date.

Make it something simple. Coffee or ice cream. Both of you drive to the location. If things go well, you can pursue other options.

[lorenzomichael]

Tell him just that, that you want to know him better. That's honest. Maybe a trip to Starbucks would be a good start. Know what I mean? No pressure, then see what happens from there. Good luck👍.

[Mangospacho]

Just go up to him and ask him something like “remember how you asked me out and I pranked you by saying no…?” And then strike up a conversation like nothing happened.

[Blueeyes81]

Just message him and tell him it was a bit fast and caught you off guard.

[DextroShade]

You have to pursue him now because he is moving on otherwise.

[mommymommymommy]

It's likely that you just like his attention

[pethouse]

If you wanted to know him better you should of went on a date with him

[spartan55]

You blew it. Learn from it and move on.

[boggboss]

Either make a move or move on

[annabananna]

Just explain that to him like you did with us.

[magiusX26]

it is very possible you wasted that chance

[Iron_Man]

Call him up and explain the whole deal

[shades777]

never luck with the next man

[msc545]

Ask him on date.

[In_Trance]

You blew it. Don't say no next time

[Anonymous]

Move on!!