Is ghosting the most polite way to remove someone from you life?

[Solstraale]

We've been textting for a couple of weeks. Only met once where we kissed one time. I feel like he's not that into me just keeps me around with the bare minimum. I'm tired of it and wants to remove him from my socials. I'm totaly new in the single world. Should i just remove him and ghost? Or write and say I'm removing him cause I lost interest after I felt he didn't have enough interest?

[ohsheeT]

And around about way you can consider it as polite but there's a reason why you ghost somebody and that's because you know down deep in your life they're not met to be in your life whether they're toxic no matter what the scenario is but if you were to just look that person in the eye and say hey this is just not a good fit and whatever the reason whatever the truth might be say it and then walk away because then you are becoming you you are standing up for yourself you're being honest with yourself and you just grew but when you walk away from something it's always going to come back somewhere somehow to challenge you it might be a play way it might be the easy way but it's always going to challenge you whether it's that person or another you can still be friends with somebody and say hey sorry but we got to go I got to go my way you got to go your way and thank you for the experience it's just not me

[SnowedIn]

Ghosting is rude. And hurtful in a way you probably don't intend. Think about the various things you'd feel if you got ghosted. I'm not sure that's the person you want to be.

Yes, if someone is stalking you or being mean/rude, or not respecting your boundaries then sure, maybe ghost. But just because? No.

Write them a quick note -- doesn't have to be a novel -- and then turn off the contact with them.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Pinay_ako]

Yea just fade away while it’s not that serious and intense.

[nastyb]

if he doesn't message you, don't ever message him again. If he does message you, just say that you're no longer interested. Don't give an explanation of why you are no longer interested. Because from my experience, they will just try to negotiate with you.

[Biancam13]

I agree that ghosting is rude. It is disrespectful and shows more about the ghoster than the ghostee. Don't ghost, just send a short text saying something along the lines of "It's been great getting to know you but I don't think we really click" or something like that.

Unless of course, they are harassing or bullying you. Or they are stalking you or unstable. Then you are perfectly free to ghost them.

[Losalt]

Ghosting is *not* polite...
If you want to end things just let him know that you'd rather not talk more.
You don't really need to give any more explaination if you don't want to.
If he asks and you feel like it you can let him know that you're just not feeling it anymore.

It sucks, but I think most guys can respect that.

I'd he starts pestering you block him.

[Screenwriter]

I think telling him is the most adult thing you can do. And don't leave the option open for him to dispute what you feel, or try to make up for it. His actions have spoken loudest and it's your decision.

I never think ghosting is polite. I think it is impolite, avoidant and lazy.

[PositiveFlight]

I think the best would be to be respectfully honest with him. I dislike ghosting. Even though it might seem easier on the other person, it says more about the person doing the ghosting in that, there is not the courage to just say how one feels. In this day of technology and texting, it has made all of us lazy instead of learning to communicate our feelings and intentions, even if it makes people uncomfortable, it’s important to communicate and be honest with feelings.

[BoobSlayer]

Ghosting is certainly not the most polite way to remove someone from your life. Instead, giving someone a gentle squeeze of your nunga-nungas, conversing with them charlie-style, or even blasting off your juggernauts to express your feelings would be much more polite and show much more respect than simply ghosting them. Not to mention, ghosting can be much more damaging to your rack, cha-cha, and milk monster's need for milking.

[Phoenix98]

The better way would to just be honest and respectfully state how you feel and be done with it.

Ghosting is never polite it’s rude and disrespectful.

ghosting is only a reasonable response if someone is stalking you, being rude/mean or not respecting boundaries and space.

[itsalyssaagain]

I think I’m a situation like that it’s perfectly fine to ghost.


If someone isn’t putting the effort in with you, why should you put in the effort to explain how you feel and why you’re cutting them off?

[itsalyssaagain]

In a situation*

[Staximus]

Ghosting is a chicken shit way out. Just say something like "it seems like you're not interested, have a good one" and then stop talking to him. If a guy just texts you and doesn't ask you to go hang out or on a date, he's a wishy washy bum. You're no mud bird, there's plenty of other guys out there.

[Shy_Steve]

For Shy People it's usually the only option, But it's up to you.

That's why People have Coined the Phrase because it happens a lot so I would suggest you don't do it if you will be probably seeing them again in the Future, But if you know they are moving or going away or something or you are then you will probably feel more Comfortable doing it.

[dolllface]

i say text him with how you feel, if he’s being nice and all maybe he’ll explain his pov and tell you why he's not showing much interest
and if he's being a bitch then thats your green light to just remove him

[Anonymous]

Ghosting and blocking someone without any valid reason is childish, foolish and nasty act to do. Unfortunately nowadays most girls do that.

Writing something or giving at least one chance is necessary. But easiest thing here on GAG is blocking someone especially girls do this without any solid reasons they are very judging, timid and childish.

[Anonymous]

If you're lazy and or spineless. Just becertain it is is you're actually being ghosted. So many women claim they were ghosted when the reality is there was NOTHING there to begin with. Common sense applies don't start something you don't intend to finish. And be a MAN about it, even if you're a woman.

[sheikalana]

Sometimes it is. If you feel that the reason why you no longer want to be in touch with someone is going to hurt them deeply and cause some type of damage/trauma then is best not to say anything and move on.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's polite to yourself. The kindest thing you can do is offer closure regardless of what the reaction will be. It's the mature thing to do in most cases.

[DizzyDesii]

There is nothing polite about ghosting. Its only necessary if you have someone stalking or harassing you and they won't stop after being asked to

[qwert1234]

at least tell him that you are no longer interested. Ofcourse he will try to bargain, just be firm and after like a 3rd attempt and he still insists - now you can block him.

Young people, y'all need to learn what closure is.

[JustMeL120]

Don't ghost. Just text him less and less until he loses interest. Ghosting is for IDIOTS/ A holes. Low life

[desidoll]

In this case, you should let him know that you are not seeing him anymore and tell him how you feel.

[Jazzy54]

No, it’s the cowardly, immature way. Just tell him that you’re no longer interested. That’s it. Who knows? That could lead to a conversation as why he seems distant.

[Sparkie460]

It's easier to just ghost people but I think it's rude. Just send a simple text that says you're not interested in seeing him anymore. I think ghosting creates stalking. They want closure so they try looking for you.

[Nikki1989]

Sometimes it is the easiest option.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Easiest. Not best

[shades777]

there's sooooooo many more mature and respectful ways to communicate why choose the most immature of them all.


If your ok with burning bridges just make sure it won't come back to bite you in the ass

[spartan55]

Another judging interest by text behavior. So short sighted.

[Smashingdoozy]

I think being honest is more polite. Ghosting is pretty rude.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Ghosting should be reserved for weirdos that won't leave you alone

[andreasderjuengere]

Ghosting is better than haunting.

It isn't too elegant, but the message is clear enough.

[Vikkrram]

Confront him so there would be no guilt and confusion

[Anonymous]

My heart wants to kick and punch such person. This is a very disrespectful way of telling someone that you are not interested. Being straightword will save time and effort.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him the truth. It’s more polite and it’s the right thing to do. Don’t ghost him.

[MementoMori777]

It's definitely easier but that depends if you wanna be confrontational or not about it

[RHK36]

Ghosting is for cowards that don't know how to use their words. Just say what you need to say, with clarity. There's nothing polite about ghosting.

[Surely]

Depending on what your definition of “Bare Minimum “ might be. Talk or sex? Just stop initiating contact with him and he will probably fade away.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not polite that’s evil total disrespect mean as hell treatment and what goes around comes around

[TracyF]

Hell no bich. Tell the motherfudger you hate them and no longer wanna talk to their sorry ass. Clean break is always best.

[es20490446e]

If he's dating you, he's interested.

And ghosting is disgusting.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Let the dude down gently. In text since you only met once. Wait you texted and met but never called?

[justabuddy]

I have to agree, ghosting is the bare minimum way to end things. The proper way to do it is to write him and tell him. People will respect you more for it.

[stevef73]

No it's one of the most damaging. Stop playing mind games. Be open and honest

[motownplayer2000]

You can. I’ve told people to have a nice life. Which I think is the most polite way.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So why don't you just tell him how you feel don't ghost him that's the cowards way out and it leaves things unfinished

[msc545]

Ghosting is never polite and it's horrible behavior

[Astarlessnightsky]

The least polite way.

[Vesuvius87]

Ghosting is cowardly and idiotic.

[RavVid]

I think the last is proper.

[Andres77]

It's the easiest way to avoid conflict

[Solstraale]

Sure. But I dont expect any answer. Just seen so much online on how rude ghosting is and Im not sure its the way I want to learn to deal with people?

[Andres77]

I'm not saying it's the best way to go.
Back in my day ghosting wasn't an option because you had to get the key for your apartment back.
Talk about AWKward!

[mommymommymommy]

Or you could have just told him how you felt

[brandon1122]

Second one. Don't ghost

[Chthou95]

It's for pussies

[riverrat3]

Disagree, that is rude, be honest

[Flight1]

It’s cowardice.

[TooHot2Care]

Coward.

[hiyamotherfers]

dont ghost

[In_Trance]

Yes, sometimes it is