Is this a red flag or sign of control early on?

[Anonymous]

Basically I’ve been with my new boyfriend for almost a week now. We hit it off instantly from our first date to the second we started talking. He’s very kindhearted, open, funny, respectful, affectionate, and honest. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. We both want a long term relationship and and to get married and have children. Anyways, today was our third date and we had lunch at a mexican place, we were sitting outside and complimenting one another, however I was rubbing lotion on myself and he told me”don’t put too much of that on or you’ll look like a moist person on the beach” and I said I just like my skin being hydrated and silky. He also told me how I seem disorganized but I was in a hurry because I didn’t wanna be late for our date. Also he did mention he was tired and hungry. It’s also early on in our relationship still but should I keep my eyes open?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope, those seem normal and not controlling. If he grabbed the lotion and insisted he put it on you that would have been a red flag.


Do you have exes who were controlling?

[Asker]

I had 1.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s probably why you are looking for flags that are not there. Does he seem better than your ex? It’s still early so you should probably give him the benefit of the doubt

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way his comment about being moist is a bit cringy but he was just teasing ya

[abc3643]

I think this is harmless stuff so far, but you should ALWAYS keep your eyes and ears open.
I don't sense him as controlling... yet...

[petitedollbabee]

I don’t see how that’s a red flag or sign of control. He was just making a lighthearted comment. I don’t think he meant it to be offensive.

[MeatPuppet]

Depends on the tone of voice and look he had on his face. Could've been playful. Could've been something else. Hard to tell from your account on its own.

[msc545]

Seems to me he was just making a comment and it didn't mean much of anything except perhaps trying to care for you a little bit. I would not read too much into this if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Nah, I think that's pretty normal.

Just take note that he will be concious of other Guys looking at you, But that's normal for a Guy especially when we start dating a Girl.