Girls, what do you think about a guy who loves you and always wants to make you happy? Do you give him a chance to get close to you?

[johnsmith1985]

[DaveJord]

So I dated a woman once... well more than once and more than one woman.

But I did date this one woman. she always said that her happiness is not my responsibility. That she is responsible for her own happiness.

It would bother her when I would say, "All I want to do is ensure you are happy." she would always reply with, "that's not your responsibility." I would always say is, "so are you happy or not, because I do not want to be with someone that makes me unhappy, so I just want to know if you are happy."

She would say, that her happiness should be important to me, because only she can make self-happy, and I should do whatever makes me happy. I would say, well it makes me happy knowing you are happy. Then she would go back that, "My happiness is not your responsibility."

Exhausting right? Like everyone wants to be with some that makes them happy. No body wants to be with someone that makes them unhappy. So, if being with this person makes you happy, then you should want them to be happy as well.

In the end it was a bunch of BS, the woman had BPD issues.

Too often people get it twisted... to care for some is to care about their well being and general over all happiness. This woman never cared about my happiness or what it means to make another person happy. All she cared about we herself and doing what it was she wanted to do for herself, regardless of how it could hurt someone else.

We dated for 3 months; she ended up cheating on me. But it was no big deal I was only staying in the relationship for the sex at that point... but that was because of all types of other screwed stuff she would say and do.

But if a woman ever tries to tell me that I should not strife want to make her happy... its code for I don give a shit about you because I am going to do what I do, and not feel guilty about the ones they hurt along the way.

[EricSummer]

Oh dear, this guy will have a hard time in life. He already loves the woman before she even lets him near her! And then he always wants to make her happy.

Maybe if she is down or heartbroken she might fall for such a guy for a while until someone more exciting comes along.

Let's still see what the girls say and then decide if we believe it.

[Screenwriter]

I'm confused by this question. Are you saying this guy is trying to make someone he's not dating or involved with "happy?" And "always?" And he "loves" this person he's not involved with?

This seems ass-backwards to me. First off, you need to get to know someone and like them. And there is NO ONE ON EARTH whose job it is to ALWAYS make someone else happy. First off, you can't ALWAYS be happy. Period.

Secondly, no one, other than yourself, is in control of your happiness. So this guy's head isn't on straight. You can't "Make" anyone happy. And someone who thinks like this is confused about their role in life.

Make YOURSELF happy. If you're happy, you can SHARE your positive outlook with someone who is copacetic with you. No one, yourself included, can always be happy. It's not the nature of life. There are ups and downs. And you absolutely CANNOT LOVE SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW AND ARE NOT INVOLVED WITH.

This guy has several red flags. I would walk the other way.

[4ngelic]

if he's cute enough and i like his personality i'll let him try to get closer to me yea. but i wouldn't start dating him unless i catch feelings. i'd just allow him to try to make me get those feelings essentially

[jennifer_bloom]

It depends whether he is willing to wait until marriage for sex.

[Billlewis]

I think a woman will often allow a guy who adores her to become a part of her life, but she may not necessarily be exclusive to him, or in many cases even let him have sex with her, because a guy who is too sweet is often not attractive to a woman sexually.

[Dinklex3]

No, feelings have to be mutual.
If the attraction isn’t there I won’t let him get close just to waste his time.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Nothing if I don't feel anything for him. Maybe sadness? If I don't like him back and he for some reason still always wants to make me happy, loving me. Isn't that like that simp behavior?

[DaveJord]

lol... so true.

[Singing_Hollow]

Hell yeah, that guy deserves a chance.

[Jazzy54]

Aww so sweet. Of course. 😊

[Molly1997]

Of course… that’s my boyfriend

[gothbxtch]

if i was into him, yeah

[Anonymous]

Hard not to like that.

[Simslover92]

Yes of course.

[elizamichale1]

Yup i do