I am single and I need to get over a man that I’ve tried to lose interest in but I failed. I think the best way is to go out and meet more men. However, I think some of the men who frequent bars are bums.
yeah i do it all the time iam a strong girl av been told it from i was about 16 u could see my muscles more back then more now as i got older in my early twenties i put on a few stone no am am about 17 18 stone so u can't see my musvles anymore but can still feel them under the skin am a have a lot confidence in my fighying so going out alone av done a couldny care a would kick there fkn cunts in if they started when people have seen me fighting they said am fk nuts nd pure angry nd like fkn serial. killer a mean if some bitch trys tae anoy me in a square go 2 gitl my age when i was a teenager a smacked a girls nut off a wall in school sh was annoying me and done it do one in my older age batterd her to make sure she didny start her shit wae me a dragged her alone the path outside nd fucked her head off a pole am a dirty fighter do i dont care about going out alone the only way they woul win or i wouldn't try with them was if the pulled a knife or a weapon out on me without one there dog food so i dont mind
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This is just my opinion and I might be wrong but, I personally would not go to bars at night alone, I would preferably want either one guy or two girls w me. And I would rather meet them at one of our apartments and drive together so we don't get separated in the parking lot or street when leaving. As for is it safe to talk w guys in bars, well I mean if your goal is to hook up then that is prob. what would end up happening, I would suggest you try not to get v. drunk and use your judgment about how rough or how nice he seems, if your goal is to find someone to have a long relationship with I would say it is less likely than if you met them in a different setting such as a club, volunteer group etc, however it is possible. JMO!
I would be careful with going out in the night by yourself to be honest. Lots of addicts and weird people are patrolling the streets at night.
From my own experience with roaming the streets at night being a confident guy who can protect himselve if needed...
I would definitely advise every woman not to go in the streets at night by themselves unless you have a good defense weapon with you.
Personally I can say that if I was a woman instead of a guy, I wouldn't go out alone in the streets at night, to dangerous
There's the mistake you're making. You automatically think of bars or clubs to meet guys. Those are places for if you want a casual hookup, not a real relationship. A person who has their mind set on an actual relationship should never even think about going to bars and clubs because it attracts the wrong type of people. Look up other places where guys like to go, or check your friend zone because I'm pretty sure a bunch of guys want to be with you and are just waiting for a chance for you to notice them.
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Love can be found in the most unexpected places but so can danger. So be careful.
Bars are generally not sound places to meet people. They are pickup places, yes. You can have interesting light conversations. But, rely on friends to intro you to new people, since they KNOW you. Use Meetups, Bumble to meet people in person and to participate in similar interests, then see where your friendships go.
If you do something you're interested in and see others doing the same, chat with those folk. Attend music and comedy clubs, if you like this. Go to concerts of your favorite local artists. Poetry, fiction or bookclub readings. Bookstores have "meet the authors." This is a way to meet new people as potential friends or dates.
Hanging around places where alcohol flows, which alters your vulnerability level and your ability to judge accurately, is the least best place to meet people, and some who frequent bars are alcoholics.
Choose healthier scenarios.
Guys that are at the bar are no good. Best to go to places where guys just hang out like outdoor tracks, gyms, gas stations, hardware stores, sporting goods store, golfing courses, skate parks. Just depends on the type of man you are looking for
No. Keep your paranoia at Defcon 5! And suck down handfuls of meds just to cope! After all, we're not the LEAST bit focused on starting our own businesses, traveling, going to ball games, amusement parks, conventions, the beach, mountains, sport hobbies, art hobbies, paying bills, our pets... we ONLY sit here and froth at the mouth, eyes going maniacally wild, growling like werewolves... JUST LURKING... to scoop you away and chain you to the bed in our mom's basement! And also... because everyone knows bars are where all the highest quality guys spend most of their time.🤝Keep up the good work!
I know the feeling. I too thought about going a bar alone... I considered going at any earlier time, setting a time limit or curfew. And told my sister where she was. I also have a phone tracker set up with my mum. Obviously I wasn't going to drink alcohol and I'd have driven home so got a safe way of transport.
If you don't have a car an are drinking, always go with a friend. And generally go with others.
I just feel comfortable doing my own thingYes, it is mostly bums that frequent bars. It really is not safe to go out alone. The world has become a crazy place. I really have no clue where to meet people anymore. I suddenly find myself with not many friends but when you get older it is hard to meet people.
If you can't have friends join you tell your friends and family where you are going, the route you are taking and turn on the tracker on your phone. Carry a can of pepper spray when you're walking. Put one key between each of your fingers for protection. Watch every drink you have being made and don't leave your drink unattended. If you're driving, park as close to the building as possible and preferably near a camera.
Find a hobby or event that you enjoy that may involve single men. Don't go to "find a man" but enjoy yourself. As you do that, new friends will be made, and some of them may be date-worthy. They may actually feel the same about you.
Why would you go to a bar to try to find a decent human?
Go do things you enjoy. Meet people organically through that.
And if clubbing is your one and only hobby... Well, bar rats are your only prospects.As long as you have a taser. Or even a group of friends. Always have someone know your location. No matter how old your are and what you are doing.
For now, go out with your girlfriends and have fun. Don’t go out, looking for a rebound. But hey, it’s up to you. Use your best judgment and stay safe.
Bars are going to equal some shit choices for you. We men go there with the hope of getting pussy and the backup plan of getting drunk. You're more likely to run into someone that will follow you home type of weird shit. A bar or a club is a horrible choice to try and find a guy... also a girl if there are any guys reading this.
Sure if you’re an infamous serial killer who was never caught
Nobody tries to meet a serious partner in a bar anymore.
Here, in China - it’s quite safe. Nobody dares commit the crime.
Go out with some of your girlfriends. That’s what me and my friends do (though we don’t go to bars yet). There’s safety in numbers plus it’s more fun.
Do you have a girlfriend who can go with you? Maybe go to a bar near your home, that is in a good neighborhood or part of town and make sure you have a ride home (taxi, your car or LYFT) ahead of time. Let a friend or relative know where you will be or allow them to track your phone so they know where you are. Watch out for guys slipping something into your drink. Life is short... just be careful and go out and have some fun!
Beware and Careful Nowadays. xxoo
Hey Hun, if you can go with a friend, do it.
No, you can have safety measures in place for yourself and also making sure you check out the places and Spaces you’re going
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