Is it safe to go out alone at night?

Question

I am single and I need to get over a man that I’ve tried to lose interest in but I failed. I think the best way is to go out and meet more men. However, I think some of the men who frequent bars are bums.

Beatrix7 · Accepted Answer

yeah i do it all the time iam a strong girl av been told it from i was about 16 u could see my muscles more back then more now as i got older in my early twenties i put on a few stone no am am about 17 18 stone so u can't see my musvles anymore but can still feel them under the skin am a have a lot confidence in my fighying so going out alone av done a couldny care a would kick there fkn cunts in if they started when people have seen me fighting they said am fk nuts nd pure angry nd like fkn serial. killer a mean if some bitch trys tae anoy me in a square go 2 gitl my age when i was a teenager a smacked a girls nut off a wall in school sh was annoying me and done it do one in my older age batterd her to make sure she didny start her shit wae me a dragged her alone the path outside nd fucked her head off a pole am a dirty fighter do i dont care about going out alone the only way they woul win or i wouldn't try with them was if the pulled a knife or a weapon out on me without one there dog food so i dont mind

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

This is just my opinion and I might be wrong but, I personally would not go to bars at night alone, I would preferably want either one guy or two girls w me. And I would rather meet them at one of our apartments and drive together so we don't get separated in the parking lot or street when leaving. As for is it safe to talk w guys in bars, well I mean if your goal is to hook up then that is prob. what would end up happening, I would suggest you try not to get v. drunk and use your judgment about how rough or how nice he seems, if your goal is to find someone to have a long relationship with I would say it is less likely than if you met them in a different setting such as a club, volunteer group etc, however it is possible. JMO!

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

I would be careful with going out in the night by yourself to be honest. Lots of addicts and weird people are patrolling the streets at night.

From my own experience with roaming the streets at night being a confident guy who can protect himselve if needed...

I would definitely advise every woman not to go in the streets at night by themselves unless you have a good defense weapon with you.

Personally I can say that if I was a woman instead of a guy, I wouldn't go out alone in the streets at night, to dangerous

tzdc21 · Accepted Answer

There's the mistake you're making. You automatically think of bars or clubs to meet guys. Those are places for if you want a casual hookup, not a real relationship. A person who has their mind set on an actual relationship should never even think about going to bars and clubs because it attracts the wrong type of people. Look up other places where guys like to go, or check your friend zone because I'm pretty sure a bunch of guys want to be with you and are just waiting for a chance for you to notice them.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Love can be found in the most unexpected places but so can danger. So be careful.

Screenwriter · Answer

Bars are generally not sound places to meet people. They are pickup places, yes. You can have interesting light conversations. But, rely on friends to intro you to new people, since they KNOW you. Use Meetups, Bumble to meet people in person and to participate in similar interests, then see where your friendships go.

If you do something you're interested in and see others doing the same, chat with those folk. Attend music and comedy clubs, if you like this. Go to concerts of your favorite local artists. Poetry, fiction or bookclub readings. Bookstores have "meet the authors." This is a way to meet new people as potential friends or dates.

Hanging around places where alcohol flows, which alters your vulnerability level and your ability to judge accurately, is the least best place to meet people, and some who frequent bars are alcoholics.

Choose healthier scenarios.

Apple1996 · Answer

Guys that are at the bar are no good. Best to go to places where guys just hang out like outdoor tracks, gyms, gas stations, hardware stores, sporting goods store, golfing courses, skate parks. Just depends on the type of man you are looking for

cosmosis181 · Answer

No. Keep your paranoia at Defcon 5! And suck down handfuls of meds just to cope! After all, we're not the LEAST bit focused on starting our own businesses, traveling, going to ball games, amusement parks, conventions, the beach, mountains, sport hobbies, art hobbies, paying bills, our pets... we ONLY sit here and froth at the mouth, eyes going maniacally wild, growling like werewolves... JUST LURKING... to scoop you away and chain you to the bed in our mom's basement! And also... because everyone knows bars are where all the highest quality guys spend most of their time.🤝Keep up the good work!

kerrylouise · Answer

I know the feeling. I too thought about going a bar alone... I considered going at any earlier time, setting a time limit or curfew. And told my sister where she was. I also have a phone tracker set up with my mum. Obviously I wasn't going to drink alcohol and I'd have driven home so got a safe way of transport.

If you don't have a car an are drinking, always go with a friend. And generally go with others.
I just feel comfortable doing my own thing

exitseven · Answer

Yes, it is mostly bums that frequent bars. It really is not safe to go out alone. The world has become a crazy place. I really have no clue where to meet people anymore. I suddenly find myself with not many friends but when you get older it is hard to meet people.

Sparkie460 · Answer

If you can't have friends join you tell your friends and family where you are going, the route you are taking and turn on the tracker on your phone. Carry a can of pepper spray when you're walking. Put one key between each of your fingers for protection. Watch every drink you have being made and don't leave your drink unattended. If you're driving, park as close to the building as possible and preferably near a camera.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Find a hobby or event that you enjoy that may involve single men. Don't go to "find a man" but enjoy yourself. As you do that, new friends will be made, and some of them may be date-worthy. They may actually feel the same about you.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Why would you go to a bar to try to find a decent human?

Go do things you enjoy. Meet people organically through that.

And if clubbing is your one and only hobby... Well, bar rats are your only prospects.

catiecatie · Answer

As long as you have a taser. Or even a group of friends. Always have someone know your location. No matter how old your are and what you are doing.

Jazzy54 · Answer

For now, go out with your girlfriends and have fun. Don’t go out, looking for a rebound. But hey, it’s up to you. Use your best judgment and stay safe.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Bars are going to equal some shit choices for you. We men go there with the hope of getting pussy and the backup plan of getting drunk. You're more likely to run into someone that will follow you home type of weird shit. A bar or a club is a horrible choice to try and find a guy... also a girl if there are any guys reading this.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Sure if you’re an infamous serial killer who was never caught

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nobody tries to meet a serious partner in a bar anymore.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Here, in China - it’s quite safe. Nobody dares commit the crime.

Anonymous · Answer

Go out with some of your girlfriends. That’s what me and my friends do (though we don’t go to bars yet). There’s safety in numbers plus it’s more fun.

runnerboy · Answer

Do you have a girlfriend who can go with you? Maybe go to a bar near your home, that is in a good neighborhood or part of town and make sure you have a ride home (taxi, your car or LYFT) ahead of time. Let a friend or relative know where you will be or allow them to track your phone so they know where you are. Watch out for guys slipping something into your drink. Life is short... just be careful and go out and have some fun!

Paris13 · Answer

Beware and Careful Nowadays. xxoo

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Hey Hun, if you can go with a friend, do it.

Justneedtokno · Answer

No, you can have safety measures in place for yourself and also making sure you check out the places and Spaces you’re going

Iron_Man · Answer

You can go to Starbucks the mall things like that but be careful walking around in the streets by yourself

imfreeze95 · Answer

It depends on where you live if you are this concerned then I would consider getting a handgun and a conceal carry permit.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Go to concerts, fairs, festivals, farmer markets, beaches, conventions, join a group for something you are interested in etc instead.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Nowadays each year I get older, the less I go out at night. A) I have no need B) I'm tired or C) I could just order, or, I value my safety too much 😄😀😄😀

Truthatanycost · Answer

Using other people to forget about other people is foolish. It's a distraction. Going within is the way but few women do this. Bars are low vibrational.

gothbxtch · Answer

i wouldn’t go to a bar alone. go with at least one friend, and keep pepper spray on you.

Wise4myage · Answer

Its best to not go out alone, especially nowadays.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It depends on where you live. In my town, most of the guys treat you like a sister and just want to make sure you get home okay.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Depends where you are from. Have be careful everywhere

Cb142 · Answer

this day and time no this world has gone stupid

slatyb · Answer

Some are. Maybe find activity groups that have single men. Outdoor activity groups are great for this -- hiking, biking, etc.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's always a risk to go out by yourself but at least the stats are on your side as men are much more likely to be victims of violent crimes than women.

Actor3 · Answer

Yes and why not? It is how you behave and act you are carrying something

RoastedToast · Answer

It's safe so long as you looking to find another man who doesn't take no for an answer when you're alone.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Where I live there groups of men who gang rape women.

Kelly6 · Answer

in my town where i live its very safe at night

zagor · Answer

Kind of depends on where you live and where you're going. My town is pretty safe.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, not really. (I wish it was.)

LiamJHayden · Answer

Far less safe for women than for men.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Depends on where you live.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

robocop666 · Answer

go there and meet some guys to find out

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Depends on the bar you go to I guess

Christoff92 · Answer

Depending on where and what time

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