Why do women not see a man’s value till it’s too late?

Question

Back when I was working at fast food jobs, I would get rejected a lot or have my heart broken. And girls who would work with me, would try to find high value men. Which is funny, because I wouldn’t want to date them now because of their personality. I have a great career now. I’m happier too. And I’ve been constantly working on myself and my body at the gym. I now could get any girl I always wanted. And the girls who didn’t value me, or think I would become anything are punching the air right now lol.

desidoll · Accepted Answer

My sister and I experienced the same thing when we were in our early 20s. This has nothing to do with women only. Both genders are cocky when they are young because they assume they can always find someone better than us. When they hit certain age, they begin to panic and realise the grass is always greener on the other side. The truth is most of the time they would end up with a person who doesn’t even match us career, look and personality wise. I just see it as karma. By the time they wanted us back, we are already taken or not interested in them. The reason people do this is because society keeps telling them not to rush into relationships/marriages as there are still plenty of time for them to settle, and there will be a “better” men/women for them to choose. People been playing with age and act like they are getting younger 🙄

Deliciouscookies · Accepted Answer

We (humans, not just girls) base our perceptions on what we can currently observe, rather than about potential future that might or might not become reality.

Men do not see at fat girl think, she might become fit one day and then she will be pretty. We judge on what we see here and now, nothing more or less, and this goes for everybody men and women alike, yourself included.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

That seems to be the way girls are. Occasionally I watch youtube channels on guys and gals for amusement. Earlier this week I saw one girl saying that her mistake in her early twenties was dating on potential rather than what than what the guy was.

When you think about it girl years are shorter than guy years. Beauty is at it's peak in the early twenties. Fertility crashes after 30. With intervention much older celebrity women can have babies but it is expensive and not that affordable for most.

So it is true girls don't have that much time to waste and spending time on potential is probably a poor move for them. Nature of the beast.

OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

Like everything in life... people want what they want right now.

You weren't where you are today and did not fulfill their requirements. Now you are, they see you in a different light.

The nice thing is, you are in a position to start something up with anyone now. You can either ask one of your former coworkers out or go with someone new, now you're more desirable.

That's the thing about time, things change.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How would any girl be able to LOOK at you and see your future?

Enlightenme21 · Answer

What do you consider a High Value man?

Also I am guessing your using a figure of speech by saying you can get any girl.

Also whats a high value woman to you?

We can not assume that we understand the needs of others or what they want in a man.

Thats where you start to comprehend that women have different definitions of value.

Since I don't know what you know I can only assume you Judged these girls based off of what you saw over what they gave told you.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

sheenagwapa · Answer

any girl? i'm sorry but you seem to be boastful type and that is such a big turn off to a lot of women. there's a sayinh men fqll in love with their eyes and women with their ears i think that is very true to some women. at the end of the dat it is still the character of the person that makes yoy wanna stay.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

There there buddy. There's always better women out there and probably worth the wait. OR, on dating apps or in reality, maybe try to date some chick your age who works or has worked in fast food in the past who shares your sort of perspectives and interests and beliefs on things? It that helps. 👀👀😊😊 Someone similar sure beats someone completely unrelatable and uninterested ♀️ ♂️

Lady_Heart · Answer

I thk you just met wrong girls, my ex was working at fast food too n i love him regardless, even bfr he had any job, but he didn't treat me right n i felt alone and unwanted most of the time, so i thk ur financial situations will not make a difference with the right person and also not seeing someone' value till its too late are humans nature not only women. May god gives u the sight.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

Because most men think themselves a Prince and hence want someone who will love them first before knowing them. Ladies these days seem impatient.

You've got to understand the times. Don't be too scared to be yourself, if she likes you good. If she don't, even better.

genericname85 · Answer

well because you litterally did not have that value then... as you said yourself, you only got it over time and now you have it. so looking back with what you are today and laughing at these girls for not wanting you for the chump you were is kind of dumb to be honest. yes you worked your way up there. good for you! but why should someone take that gamble? they couldn't know you'd make it!

Vegasrunner · Answer

Women wait at tje finish line for the winners. You were still running the race while you were working the fast food job. Welcome to the winner circle, now forget about those girls from the past and enjoy the fact that for the next 30 - 40 years you can have any girl you want.

Truthatanycost · Answer

If they hang out at the finishing line to pick the winner... they will never see the qualities he learned while running the marathon.

catiecatie · Answer

So I wouldn’t say I’m that girl to not value a man but I have turned down a handful of guys before. It’s not like they weren’t good or anything it’s just something that didn’t sit right with me.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you going after the ugly fat girls with nothing going for them, hoping and believing that they’ll one day turn into a beautiful, skinny, high value woman? Or are you more interested in women who’re already attractive now? Yeah.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Tbh we don’t see it at all if they’re just seeking sex unless that’s all we want which most of my female friends aren’t like that

stepyo99 · Answer

People are very superficial and self-centered. If you do find someone who isn't, don't let them go.

shades777 · Answer

there's only 5% of the world population making over 338k plus and 1% making 889k plus, so social got you gals fooled, either thst or your sharing rich guys, which makes sense because id have a bunch of women too if i was top 5% lol

strateguy632 · Answer

huh, almost all my lovers showed the cherished and valued me... for awhile.

annabananna · Answer

I mean anyone who gets better looking and their life together will have an easier time with the initial attraction.

chicosuave · Answer

when i used to work for the fast food industry i had more luck with girls.

nastyb · Answer

ok. answer this: why would you rather date a 20 yr old woman than a 30 yr old woman?

Christoff92 · Answer

They're just judging the colors of the book without seeing the tables of contents. That's all 🙂

Sellaturcica86 · Answer

Men look at women physically. No one would look at me when I was fat. After I lost weight, most people started to act interested. People are really hypocritical. I am not with those who were not with me during the bad times.

Anonymous · Answer

The same reason why a lot of guys do. Most people are selfish and self involved. Very few people will find love you for who or what you are. Only what who or what you are to them.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Girlies have the things guys want and they know how to get whatever they want from them. Unless the guy resists and puts his foot down!

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck you and your career. who looks after you as if you were going to marry the woman who works in the fast food shop. poor

fonduegirl · Answer

Maybe you were insecure back then

Anonymous · Answer

Humans are sinister. I wouldn't believe you not anyone. I don't need you

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s embedded in their survival instincts

Unit1 · Answer

They are gold diggers obviously.

Akam93 · Answer

A lot of them are gold diggers.

red_knight · Answer

Ungratefulnesss

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

They just don't care

Malwi93 · Answer

trolling lol

In_Trance · Answer

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