A guy I was talking to said eww to my height in text. later he said he was joking when I got angry. what should I do now?

[Anonymous]

so i met a guy online. i told him my height on first day itself which is 5ft. his height is 5.9 . he liked my face. then he forgot my height. asked me again after 13 days and i told him my height. then he said 'eww your height is too short. i don't even want to talk to u. but if u send nudes i can keep u". i feel completely heart broken. then i cried a lot. when i got angry he told me he was joking and told me that i overreact and i am unable to understand jokes. what to do? i am confused. was he really joking or saying for real?

[desidoll]

It is always the not so tall guys who love to make fun of shorter girls. I am 5’3 and I have had guys who are 5’5-5’7 pointed out how short I am. They really think the 2-4 inches are sooo much difference lol considering in general, men are supposed to be taller a few inches than us women. If I put on that heels, I would be the same height as them. I feel like he is being resentful towards shorter girls because we are known to like taller guys. He did that on purpose to you which is to hurt your feeling. I just read your other replies. He is definitely gaslighting you to lower your confidence so you will be under his control. Tell that piece of shit that it is not working and you know what he’s trying to do.

[CaptainOverthink]

This is why texting sucks..
IRL, you'd know if he was joking by the tone of his voice and the look on his face.

It's entierly possible he was making a bad joke and maybe if this didn't happen online you'd both just brush it off your shoulders and gone on to get to know eachother better. But now.. by overthinking and misunderstanding it, you'll decide by the bad taste in your mouth if he's allowed a slight of tounge. If there was no time to think about this, like IRL, then it might not be a big deal.

None come with perfect one-liners that always hit the spot and none knows whether their humor will align with yours but they will try anyway. It's how it works.

[MrOracle]

This is why you should not try to have relationships over text. You can't easily communicate TONE over text, and that's super important.

My guess would be that he was completely joking around (75% chance), but it's possible that he was serious and trying to manipulate you (25% chance), but without hearing his tone of voice, there's no way to be sure.

I can't tell you what to do with this guy at this point, but in the future, if you are trying to have any kind of conversation - something beyond "pick me up at 7pm" - then CALL the guy and speak with your voice.

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 say next! He doesn’t deserve those tears sweetheart. He can find himself a giant. We petites don’t like him either

[Asker]

u are right😂😂. thanks for reply

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 a lot of men like fun size so his loss

[Rei13]

Honestly I think you should move on to the next one. Whether he was joking or not that isn’t something you say to someone you’re only starting to get to know. As a fellow petite girl there are a lot of guys out there where height won’t be an issue

[EmmaMary]

Give the pathetic lowlife a wide berth and quickly move on... Simples!

[Asker]

yeah

[BoopBoopBeep]

serious or joking, " 'eww your height is too short. i don't even want to talk to u. but if u send nudes i can keep u" is reason to move along to the next boy who isn't mentally challenged

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

He’s using you and manipulating you. You need to drop him.

[Asker]

yeah. thanks for reply😊

[Panzer21]

Dude is being a dick, youngblood.

Usually dudes are worried about their girl being taller, but even that isn't a big deal most of the time. Shortstacks are very much desirable.

"Send nudes and Ill keep u" is the most clear and obnoxious attempt at manipulation I've ever read. he's using something he thinks you might be insecure about to squeeze nudes and probably more out of you. Dont send him shit, and I recommend you avoid any conversation with him in the future.

[Anonymous]

Most likely he was joking but you gotta give it right back to him. Next time he mentions your height say you're the perfect height. When he says how's that? Tell him you're crotch high to most guys which makes it convenient when sucking a guy off. And when he smiles or gets excited say n/m I like guys who are actually packing. Tell him maybe hit you up if he ever actually hits puberty. 😆😆😆

[Molly1997]

Ewww your personality is so shit I don’t even want to talk to you anymore 😂 bye hun 👋

thays what’s u should say

[crossdressingrihno]

He was joking.
If he thoughts you were unattractive he wouldn’t ask for nudes he might not have made a very good joke but it was a joke.

[Asker]

okay. but guys would want nudes from any girl

[crossdressingrihno]

I wouldn’t.

[Asker]

okay good. once he said that he asks other girls for nudes bc i don't send him. and he could make them his girlfriend but he does'nt like their face

[crossdressingrihno]

If he said he asks girls for nudes then break up.
If he said he WOULD then do whatever.

[Jmmmfi4]

He just wanted nudes care about anything else... trust me.

[Asker]

you are right. thanks for reply

[devilish-cutie]

i think he jokes but it was kinda disrespectful, talking about nudes and such. But this is only online, best to know how guy is is to meet him

[JHAYES317]

Frankly a lot of women do that exact thing to guys, and much more frequently. So just block him and move on. Now you have a taste of an average day for a short guy

[Asker]

okay

[sureitis]

tell him your amazonian ass will break him like a twig if he does it again! lol jk that would be hilarious though

[Paul09]

Yes you over reacted. Just forgive and forget. Like forget about him. You don't need that b. s. in your life.

[Anonymous]

Well that is your first red flag and it is a bad one.

[Jazzy54]

Nah, this guy sounds like an asshole. Ditch him. Don’t waste any more of your tears on this loser. You deserve better. 😌

[beautyjoyfover200]

Yeah homeboy killed the vibe when he forgot about your height lol NEXT!!

[Jadebamboo]

Don’t let him gaslight you with the “I am joking its YOU who’s sensitive” line. You are worth more than he is, and if you doubt it, find people who agree with me, and surrond yourself with them.

[Bobbysworld]

His a child. Move on nothing wrong with you. Also never send nudes to someone unless you want to or his your boyfriend or something not because he asks

[provokeesmokee]

Why would you even keep talking to this creep?