Why is it racism to simply feel no attraction towards a race?

[Anonymous]

There is only one race I've never felt attracted to, not even as a child. I would have him as a friend but never to date nor as a life partner. I can handle Asian, Indigenous, White, etc... all except one. Why? I just feel no attraction.

Two men of that particular race asked me out once. I told them we can just be friends. One said he understood but was sad. He then started explaining how his people are nice and left. The 2nd guy called a racist and how it was unfair I didn't give him a chance.

Why is it racism to feel no attraction towards a race? I can't help who I feel attracted to.

Updates

10 mo

I like men of different races, except one.

[RingOfFire]

I think the real issue is that you shouldn't give a crap about who thinks you are a racist. That is their problem not yours. Like who you like and don't like who you don't like for any damn reason you please. Fuck these race pimps who see everything in the world in terms of race. THEY are the racists!

[Asker]

True. Come to think of it, they can be racists themselves for thinking that just because they're a minority group, everyone is obligated to date them or give them charity services just for being a minority.

[DextroShade]

It's not racist to have preferences.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

A few months ago in a bar, I had the hottest situation, I had 3 very hot guys of all different races trying to get me at the same time.

The first one was a 24 year old very handsome black student with the hottest body and the cutest smile, 2nd one was a 30 something hot British diplomat with blond hair, blue eyes and a very confident aura, and the 3rd one was an athletic, muscular Asian businessman who was very sweet and gentlemanly and yet quite masculinr. I danced with three of them almost at the same time, they were so jealous of each other

and then I figured, if I danced a bit more with them I’d find it harder to control myself, so I decided to leave all three of them there and dance with my best friend instead. I have a good self-control.

But that was a pure heaven. To be surrounded by the most beautiful representatves of all races, at the same time.

Or might it be that I am ovulating and find that memory very sexy?

I don’t know. But yeah, it would be silly to limit your options.

[Lliam]

Racism - "the belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another."

It is antagonism or dislike toward all people of a certain race. That clearly isn't where you are coming from. You simply have certain preferences when it comes to romantic partners.

To prefer a certain race doesn't mean that you dislike that entire race. For instance, if an Asian person is attracted to Asians, it doesn't mean that he or she hates people of other races.

Everyone is entitled to preferences when it comes to dating. Some people are attracted to certain physical shapes, skin or hair color. That is perfectly normal.

[Asker]

I'm a white mestiza woman (I have dad's white skin tone but mom's indigenous facial features and black, straight hair). I have attraction mainly towards either White, Mestizo, Asian or Indigenous men.

[Asker]

I just have no attraction towards very dark-skinned men. Though I don't mind having friends of any race.

[NamerOfStars]

Because it's discrimination on the basis of race, which is the literal definition of the term.

The problem isn't that you were called racist; in this particular area, you are- or your brain is, anyway. The problem is that all racism is seen as morally equivalent. It's not. "Your skin color is bad, and so I'm justified in killing you" is racist- so is "your skin color is pale, so you need a higher SPF sunscreen". These are not the same thing, any rational person would agree.

[Asker]

I tried being polite in my rejection though. I tried telling them we can be friend. I see nothing wrong with having friends of any race; I don't mind that. But I don't have to feel attraction for any man that asks me out nor want to date any race.

[NamerOfStars]

No, you don't; no one is entitled to your attraction. The problem isn't you.

[FunkyMonkee]

I know!! Like you ABSOLUTELY HAVE to disprove your racism by showing the world that you fuck people of a different race!!
You COULD say that, seeing someone of your own race is PROVING that you're not a racist because you're not avoiding someone of that particular race!
If someone else doesn't approve of who you choose to be in love with, that's just tough shit for them!! Did they ask for YOUR approval?

[Asker]

yeah I can't help what I like.

[FunkyMonkee]

You do you and if someone else doesn't like it, that's THEIR problem, NOT yours!!

[Anonymous]

In order for it to be racism those people would have to have a right to date you and they don't.

You are free to want to date any person or not for any or even no reason and you are not required to explain yourself.

[Asker]

yeah I never insulted anyone and was tried to be polite in my rejection. I told them we could be friends. I don't mind having friends of any race. It's different when it comes to whom you're attracted to.

[megabamse]

Not sure. There are some in every single race and culture that i find attractive. But there are some I prefer more then others, and that simply have to do with preference. What i find attractive is not tone of skin, but size of face features, long dark hair that is wavy or curly, a given hight and so on. And not all races have these features generally speaking.

[Decoded93]

I hear people say you're racist for not being attracted to a certain race, or racist for being attracted to only one kind of race, or racist for being "color blind", ignore that bullshit and do what you want

[inhua]

I wouldn't call that racist per say but keep in mind, race isn't something within one's control so it's understandable why the 2nd guy is upset

[Rick-Lewis]

Are you Mexican? Mexican women tend to be racist or colorist when it comes to black men. So I'm guessing your from California or Texas.

[Asker]

How do you know? Yes I was born in Texas and both of my parents are Mexicans. I'm a Chicana, white mestiza woman (I have dad's white skin tone but mom's indigenous facial features and black, straight hair). I have attraction mainly towards either White, Mestizo, Asian or Indigenous men.
I just don't happen to be attracted to black men but I don't mind having friends of any race.

[Rick-Lewis]

Because Mexicans have a racist and negative history towards black men especially the women. They views black men as sub-humans and ugly. Thank god I live in New York so I don't have dealt with it.

[Rick-Lewis]

Making friends with Dark Skinned men means nothing.

[Asker]

I don't think of them as anything negative. I just don't get turned on by them. Talking to black men is like talking to my female friends, no attraction at all.

[Rick-Lewis]

Then again, Anti Blackness is part of your culture. So your saying Black men aren't mainly enough. What a pathetic fool you are.

[Asker]

No. I just feel no romantic attraction for them. Simple as that.

[Sanser]

I think its not racism, you have the right to want one type of person.

[LiamJHayden]

It is not racism to have dating preferences.

[Guanfei]

It's not. But people call everything something-ist or something-phobic these days.

[Anonymous]

It's not racism. Anyone who thinks it is racism is a moron.

[CuriousMufuxka]

What race? I bet it's black!

[Asker]

Yes unfortunately it was. There are certain (few) types of black I can date. For instance it was Barack Obama type. He's black there is something about that tone I like.
The two black guys that asked me out, were total blacks with features I don't find attractive.

[Asker]

I'm attractive to Asian, Indigenous, Mestizo or biracial men that aren't totally black.

[Asker]

Then off course I'm also attracted to white men.

[CuriousMufuxka]

So it's not the race, it's the nigga mentality. That's kool. I'm not attracted to black women because of the overaggressive attitude some display. Actually that exists in bitches of all races at times..

[Asker]

It's not about stereotypes. I just don't find them physically attractive. Just like I don't like to eat liver and onions and wouldn't like it if someone force the food down my throat. Same thing.

[Asker]

As a friend it's different. I can having friends of any race. Having friends off course is different from having a preference when dating.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I disagree there with the friend aspect. It's not much different than getting along in a intimate relationship. With that said I believe we've gone off path of your question. I favor white women over other races because they just look good, with a close 2nd to latinas with all that booty!

[MementoMori777]

its not racism

[LunarEclipse433]

It is not racism.