Scared of commitment or it’s not actually love?

[Anonymous]

Personally I don’t believe in being scared of commitment… if you don’t want to commit to the person then they are not right and you don’t actually love them.

What do you think?

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+1 y

by the way I myself am scared of commitment and have avoidant tendencies. But there have been times where I have known what I wanted.

[kylee2437]

I don’t agree. Some people fixate on the future and get nervous about the what if’s and the changes they may or may not have to make if they fully commit their lives to someone.

[MementoMori777]

its not being scared of commitment, its being scared the other doesn't or eouldnt have the same commitment, just not being sure about the others pure intentions can create a form of insecurity

[Asker]

Oooh that’s true

[MementoMori777]

only cheaters and snakes are scared of commitment if it were to exist

[Asker]

I feel like cheaters are narcissists and are foreign to the concept of love or even caring for someone else. That’s why I’ve realised they’re very easy to identify…they’re usually the rude selfish ones lol

[MementoMori777]

perhaps, they are just in it for their own pleasure and even tho most are easily detectable there's deceitful ones as well, the ones that play long game i guess its the best way to put it and those are the most annoying id say, which i really hope you never run into 😷🤧

[Asker]

Haha I’ve already run into one…he was very deceitful. He was the nicest most perfect guy…too good to be true. It’s always those ones.

[MementoMori777]

damn, well i see his trickery didn't work, good job dodging and weavin lol

[Asker]

Loool the truth always comes out! Especially if you have pure intentions.

[MementoMori777]

thats for a fact, im glad you can detect these things, unfortunately I've seen many women figure out when they are pregnant with that person for example smh

[Asker]

Yeah that’s awful…we as women always get led by our emotions

[MementoMori777]

me as a guy hates when that happens cause it makes all guys look bad 😆

[Asker]

Well I like to think it’s a human thing not a gender thing. Some men and women are bad, just as equally as some men and women are good :)

[KrakenAttackin]

@mementomori777. No bro, it makes sense not to fully commit to someone who hasn't fully committed to you. The person (usually the woman) who has the most options has the power.

[MementoMori777]

i like where your head is at, i completely agree 😁💯

[MementoMori777]

dude thats not what the conversation is about, im talking about people who agree to commitment and not knowing who really gives full commitment or what their deep intentions are, i dont appreciate you interrupting my conversation.

[KrakenAttackin]

What TF is commitment? Let's start with what? Does commitment simply mean not fucking other people?

[Asker]

It’s promising you will stick by someone’s side and actually going through with it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Since when do women do this for men? Seriously. Women "stay by a man's side" as long as everything is rosey. If he loses his job or gets seriously ill or disabled, she bounces.

Given the above, give me a new and real definition of "commitment".

[Asker]

I guess that’s the case for a lot of people but not all women are like that.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LostandFound__x. "Not all women are like that"...*sigh*.. ok, only 99.5% of women😏

[Asker]

A lot are but also a lot aren’t.

[belle_kai]

Some people choose not to commit. Some people don't allow themselves to fall in love and play the game

[belle_kai]

She could be perfect and it's still not what they want

[Asker]

Yeah I guess so

[KrakenAttackin]

@belle_kai. Mostly it comes down to options. Most girls in their 20's have a vast number of options, so they choose to get run through instead of committing. It's only after age 30, a few illegitimate kids, and declining SMV, do women start looking for "commitment".

[belle_kai]

@KrakenAttackin you can't speak for most women. We aren't all like that.

[Emanon25]

I agree no one be scared of committing in a relationship that built on live and respect, other than that no need for it.

[TonyMetal___86]

If i truly love someone than i'm always ready to committ only if they are ready too to committ...

[Anonymous]

Nah i don't commit to holes...
I'm happy as fuckboy

[KostasKouvalis]

Makes sense to me

[KostasKouvalis]

That's why friends with benefits are best😂

[Asker]

Lol until you get attached

[KostasKouvalis]

Occasionally that DOES happened

[Asker]

Has it happened to you? 🤔

[KostasKouvalis]

Not really, but if we met in real life it surely would have

[KostasKouvalis]

I already get too easily attached WITHOUT sex 😂

[Asker]

Oh shit 😭 i think for me there needs to be some sexual tension to get attached at least lol

[LiamJHayden]

To me commitment and love are synonymous.

[BLP11520]

Never rush into marriage

[Erron_Black]

i dont beleive fall in love

[RavVid]

That is right