Why do people love someone but too scared to commitment?

[happyfoetus]

If someone loves me, I simply act ass hole so they leave me. Why?

[lightbulb27]

I did that. I'm not saying was love but if they showed interest, I'd give them a reason to run away.

All I have is "a" reference point, it may not be the only answer...

Is any of this you:

"happy go lucky", sensitive, took emotional abuse at home... often being put down and feeling powerless.

Have you put curses or oaths on yourself or by others that you aren't worth it, ugly, noone will want you, not good enough. Were you conditioned to not build your own family?

Pieces of the emotional puzzle will explain why you do this. Then you find the pieces, you can begin healing them because it's filled with lies that have distorted your view of yourself which is interfering with your ability to form your own family.

[UnusualWeirdo]

I was in a 10 year relationship and she wanted me to marry her, I didn't because I wanted something more, should I have said fuck it And married her, maybe, then I wouldn't be alone now, would I be happy or would I have eventually left, we'll never know. I wish I would have married her despite the lack of sex and it was kinda bad. But that's my fault and something that I have to live with that bothers me.

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s safer to be alone. Your protecting your self from the unknown

[Berethor]

It easy for men to lie to women about love, if he scared to commit he don't really love you.

[jahaims]

Unresolved trauma