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Oh fuck. Thats bit too much for me. I want a partner - not a mother. I make my own lunch for work or go out to eat, if she thinks i forget to buy something, then remember me by texting or calling.
I wanna feel like man around my woman, not like her son. Or maybe im weird 🤣
I think it depends to be extent they do jr. If it's little things hear and there but more when your having a bad day or not well then I'd say that it's a really good and beneficial thing. I think if it was constant reminders/leading towards nagging then j think it would be. A bit on the irritating side but also maybe like your being parented.
Personally I think that it's a bit of a fine line between a really nice and lovely thing to being to much.
No I think that's very attractive my girlfriend is like that and I really appreciate that she cares about me like that :) She's always concerned about my wellbeing and happy when things are going well for me :) I love that :)
It is for me. Same as when they talk to me like they're teaching me something.
I've been to hell and back... twice, I don't need some girl taking care of me or trying to teach me about life. She's preaching to the choir
And it's usually women in their early 20s who don't know fuck about shit who do it
It's about strategy. Instead of: "Don't forget to put sunblock on," say: "I've got some sunblock right here." It shows you're an ally, but that you're not trying to replace his mother.
After puberty no male animal wants to be mom'ed. But it is how girls act when they care. It becomes annoying if overdone or done in an instructing way as though you are a child. That is just way over
It's not puberty lmao. Or masculinity.
Your partner playing parental role IS extremely creepy. If you love it, you've got mommy or daddy issues, you need therapy more than a relationship.
@anon1903 Oh my observation is that males and females express love in a different manner. A woman will express love for her child in a more pronounced way because the child is highly dependent on her. She will be controlling also as part of that love to prevent the child from harming itself.
Excluding sexual aspects why would there be a chasm in the way between in which a woman expresses love for a child and an adult man? Its the same emotion. It was only a recent realization to me that is the case. The difference is the amount of controlling. At puberty the control aspects start to be resented.
I don't think I agree with your example.
@anon1903 We can agree to disagree :) I've just been more tolerant of those gestures when I would have been annoyed not so long ago.
I still prefer love to be expressed sexually
Your example is very gender biased.
@anon1903 Well of course I am gender biased, nothing wrong with that.
Whatever you say.
case by case scenario...
always loved someone truly caring yes...
but, I don't want to be treated like a baby or a toddler... lol
not even my own mother did that, lmao
Within limits. Less mothering. Trust me to do things. Listen when I tell you you're nagging ir telling me stuff I already know (that's insulting).
Furthest thing from. In fact that's one thing guys need in a woman they commit to. A woman who is WILLING to try to take care of him and support him as he does for her.
Depends on the delivery. If she is disrespectful/nagging as in ‘you need to do x-thing this way…” then it’s degrading and annoying.
If it’s out of kindness and respect then I’m good with it.
reminder , feels bossy , so that help is a turn off. but bring me the beer , when not expected, that take care is great
Hell NO !! I wouldn't have a problem with any of that , shows she cares and is thinking of whats best.
No, very much the opposite. My drive is proportional to my happiness. Im not happy when im doing everything, stressed about life, and taking care of everyone else.
Here in Thailand it means that the girl in question offers some underqualified work in the house, plus some mediocre sex - and in return she wants me to feed her entire family (and in some cases also her boyfriend).
Turn off? Well, well well.
... I prefer to be taken for serious only :)
No it's a turn on as it shows that she's feminine and submissive 😊
Thanks for the upvote cutie @Pinay_ako 😉
You’re welcome 😇
As a woman I always take care of my man hopefully it never turns them off.
Exactly
It seems to be because those are the women getting played and left. Women should not being doing wife things with men they date. Period.
Well then they'll never be wives. Because a man will not put a ring on her finger UNLESS she does wife things, unless she PROVES to be wife material beforehand. And another thing, about the women who keep getting played with left and right, that's more so due to the type of guys that they choose to be with. Multiple guys would never do that to their girlfriends, but those are the same guys a lot of women overlook.
@tzdc21 wrong. It's the opposite. They think girl who does wife thigs when he knows he hasn't reciprocated will be thought of as giving the best of her away to everyone and devalued. I learned the hard way. Factory-installed closed.
I think you're confusing "wife things" with sex. Wife things include a shitload more than just sex. But if you're talking about giving sex away freely, that is a more accurate statement. But wife duties are a whole different ball park. It's quite simple. You don't do wife duties (other things outside of sex) you don't get a ring. It's as simple as that.
@tzdc21 no I am not. Cooking cleaning emotional support, career support. Going out of your way. I am not confused in the least. You can get sex anywhere.
Well coming from a guy, if you don't do wife things, how do you expect to be a wife? And that also speaks loudly about the type of guys you deal with. Guys that don't appreciate that. But there are tons of other guys who do the polar opposite of what you are claiming. Hell, the responses from the men in here so far are all saying that it is NOT a turn off. I am a guy, and I've been around lots of other guys, so I know what I'm talking about when I say that generalizing what you just said to the rest of the male human species (that a woman that takes care of you is a turn off and that they all use good women left and right) is inaccurate and immature. Just because the guys you have dealt with have doe that doesn't mean that the rest of the guys that you haven't picked or dealt with are exactly the same.
@tzdc21 I was a wife for over a decade. We didn't have a pot to piss in and supported him until he was rich. I know how to be a wife and one of the best there was around. Decided being taken for granted and being abused wasn't what I wanted and left. I am not the one to take about how to be a wife.
Okay, I'll say it again... well what one guy does, another guy won't. Just because HE did that to you doesn't mean every guy will do the exact same thing. I wouldn't. As would many other guys. Look I'm sorry that he did that to you. I really am. But that doesn't justify you automatically assuming the rest of us to do the same BS that he did.
@tzdc21 no one is ever saying every peeson will do so. And I am not even talkkng about my marriage when I made my initial comment. I've seen it, been through it, heard about it and have been advised about it. No woman who wants a man to truly commit to her will give him wife calobre privileges as a girlfriend. Period. Men know which women are capable of such without them doing so. Women who do are selling themselves short. End of. I will die on this hill.
That's equivalent to me saying that "I was with a woman for years and did everything for her, and we were expecting, only to find out that she was cheating on me all this time and lied about me being the father. All women are selfish manipulative bitches who don't deserve anything." You wouldn't like if I said something like that would you? (And that was a hypothetical example, didn't actually happen). So what do you think goes through our minds as guys when you say that type of stuff that one guy did to you and try to put that on all of us?
Well if they never do show that they can be capable wives as a girlfriend, then how do expect to become a wife? If you refuse to prove you can be, how do you expect to get to that point?
@tzdc21 No, it isn't. Sadly, human nature is such that even basically decent people devalue that which is given to them without earning it. This is my point. I will not speak further. Thanks for chatting.
Very unfortunate mindset you have. Wish you the best!
anything that comes from care i can't stay mad at, im not insecure to really care about petty things in life
no. but if it's too early on and she's too aggressive, that is a turnoff... because trust is not established.
Like how so? Cooking and caring to listen about my problems is definitely not a turn off.