Why are there more women who don't want kids than men?

[Anonymous]

From my experience, there are more modern women who dont want kids than men who dont want kids. Why is this?

[razelove]

It's your age group. Young women have way more options than the men where finding partners is concerned, so there's no rush, or impetus to settle down.

What is your drive to get married and have kids when you can focus on school, your job, anything really, and anytime you want a guy, you can have whoever you want?

Guys don't have that option, so there is a lot more pressure to take the women we do get when we're young much more seriously. I don't know your exact age, but as the women and men get older you're going to notice a shift there.

Like 25 is going to be the age where women are going to want to settle down if they haven't already, and the men are still going to want the younger women for relationships, but 25+ for fun by and large. Regardless, many men and women don't want kids now, we have had population decline for a long time, and have been propping up our population with immigrants, as they do have a lot of kids compared to US citizens.

Average Marriage Age in the US

Bear in mind most people have a relationship for a couple years before marriage.

Birth rate of US women vs immigrant women in the US

You have to remember that the addition to population is not only the births, but the people themselves coming to the US, as well as the kids that their kids have that would have never been part of the population otherwise. We'd be in a Japan scenario without them.

[ProbablyClueless]

The woman tends to sacrifice more to have the children. In addition to the sheer amount of adversity that carrying a child in your body for 9 months entails, the woman is often crippled in terms of her workplace accessibility, so she has to put her adult life on hold while her offspring matures to the point they can function reasonably well without her.

[420Rachel]

I mean let’s be honest, the thought of carrying a baby and giving birth is a pretty scary concept. I’ve been through it myself so I know how intimidating it is. Wouldn’t change it for the world though, I love my son with everything I have and I want another child someday. A man doesn’t have to go through the physical stress of carrying a baby and giving birth. Some women are lucky and have an easy pregnancy and an easy labor. Others aren’t so lucky and have a high risk pregnancy and a high risk birth. My opinion is that if a woman does have the desire to have children, but is afraid, she should talk to her doctor!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Do you think it's easy to see someone you love in pain and suffering?

Of course by nature women were selected to give birth.

But don't you think a man is always with you supporting you if he wanted the child and loved you.

Being there to encourage you to calm you down
And giving you reassurance that everything is going to be alright !!

A man goes through physical and mental stress but in a different way
Like arranging things being alert arranging money for the hospital

The man has to support both the mother and child.

Mens role is always undermined

[Anonymous]

What’s there to want? A financial burden, aswell as something that destroys your body and hormones and puts you through post partum depression, aswell as the hundreds of possible health risks, and then you’ve got to put up with a child for at least 18 years, helping with school and hygiene and everything else. Meanwhile men can just dump a load in you and run away without having to take responsibility.


What woman doesn't want that? I wonder why… lol!

[TheSPEDKid]

Makes sense.

[Chthou95]

You'll regret it later on

[Opinion Owner]

Better to regret not having kids than to have kids that you regret.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

"Meanwhile men can just dump a load in you and run away without having to take responsibility."

[Opinion Owner]

They’re not the ones with a fetus growing inside them. Nothings stopping them from leaving?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

so having to you having a kid inside you is no different than having lices in you head? just when I thought I couldnt lost hope for humanity any further. till them nothing stopping you from taking your birth control meds or better yet tell the losers you are having sex with to wear a condom.

also not sure what country you are from but here in America if you leave your kids you are gonna be bound to lose custody of them and pay child support for that kid until the kid is 18

[Chthou95]

Usually what women say when they can't keep their legs closed

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure where you got any of that from, I said none of that. Yet another man trying to force a narrative 🙂

[Chthou95]

I say that because a child is money and if a lot of women dont want kids, they should stop spreading their legs and learn to practice self control

[Opinion Owner]

And then men would complain that no women want to have sex with them. You make no sense.

[Chthou95]

In a relationship its fine. But both genders shouldn't be going around just hooking up with random people

[Opinion Owner]

I can’t say that I’ve ever done that, so I guess it doesn’t apply to me.

[Chthou95]

Don't ever do it. Hooking up is bad for both genders but it's especially bad for women

[Filthy_Immigrant]

"And then men would complain that no women want to have sex with them."

not your damn problem and again have you ever heard of condoms?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

@Chthou95 amen brother, she really does sound like them bimbos who have high ass body count and will say/do anything to avoid responsibility. sex is no longer an act of procreation to her, its just a chore to her to keep her relationships glued together

[Opinion Owner]

I pray that you find a purpose in your life that isn’t misogynistic empty comments on the internet 🫶🏻

[Filthy_Immigrant]

wtf do you know about PRAYING. you sound like you lost your connection with God a long time ago

[Chthou95]

Misogyny blah blah blah. It's just reality

[Filthy_Immigrant]

@Chthou95 exactly! Love how everything that disagrees or challenges their way of thinking is automatically misogyny to them

[safricanluke]

I have two theories that are not mutually exclusive, so both could be true, and are based entirely on personal experiences and not on any factual information at all.

1. Men don't have to give birth themselves and do not know how much stress and sometimes danger (complications from birth, medical conditions, etc.) that can put a woman under in order for them to give birth. Most men are driven to have children due to the biological need to reproduce. That is not too say that they wouldn't love their children or anything, just that the primary drive to reproduce mainly comes from wanting to continue the family line.

2. In the USA in particular, women's rights have been put in danger due to recent Supreme Court decisions. A woman's right to choose what happens to her own body has been taken away in many states, and in some states it has gone so far as to say that a woman cannot get certain forms of birth control without the express permission of her husband, or father if she is not married. For many of the women in my life, this is the reason they do not want children. A close friend of mine wanted children very badly until the decision to overturn Roe v. Wade was made, now she doesn't want to have children ever, to the point that she wants to have a hysterectomy so that she can't have children.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hard to say. I would guess it has a lot to do with this leftest anti-child stuff or this 4th wave of feminism. It could be the hefty price tag that comes with a child... time and money and again without the family system in place, a child seems to only make sense to a woman that plans on living off big daddy government or child support.

There does seem to be a general hostile attitude from women towards women that show any hint of anything traditional. Like that lady that caught a bunch of shit online because she makes her husband sandwiches. My best guess is this general attitude has extended towards women having children. Seems like a woman taking care of anyone but herself is the patriarchy to some of these chicks... and they hate the patriarchy 😂🤣

[Thatpearl26]

I’ve heard from many friends that they never want children. They think it’s a waste of time, financial burden, or they just can’t find the right guy to have kids with. Personally when I’m older I would like to have 2-3 kids. I think that maybe not wanting children can also stem from the fact that modern day feminists believe that you should focus on your career more. Which isn't wrong but there’s a point where once you are successful you’re alone. Something feminism doesn’t tell you is that you can find balance with family and your career.

[NotInterestedSorry]

Maybe some women were forced by their parents to take care of their younger siblings and that turned them off wanting their own kids.

It could also be because pregnancy changes your body and so many men these days expect a woman to lose the baby weight and get back into shape immediately after giving birth.

Giving birth can also be traumatic.

Some women believe that the world is already overpopulated, so they don't want to bring kids into the world

Some just in general like having freedom and being able to travel whenever they want

[A_Bell]

I used to think I didn't want kids, until I met my husband. Now I have two and want more (working on the third).

The happiest time of my life is the time I've spent pregnant (well, except for the last month) or with my babies and has made the other times in my life seem shallow.

Careers are not what make you happy and fulfilled. You don't look back from your death bed wishing you spent more time at work.

[Tina19]

I am a woman and i don't want kids it's my personal choice i am not like if everyone in the society is doing something i need to follow that there is no such rule... kids are also huge responsibility and sometimes u need to compromise your career for that

[JeffersonA]

Cause of feminism and hating Thier place as mothers to be.

Most women have a clock and like it feeling a need to be a mom and some when they feel it hate it wanna rip it out so they just turn those feelings into hate instead of love for someone.

[TheSpaceGnome]

There aren't.

Women who don't want kids are rare. Men who don't want kids are common.

I don't want kids, and I'm having the hardest time finding a match because most women who share my hobbies and interests and don't drink or smoke or do drugs are either religious, or want kids, or both.

[sunflower00]

^ I agree. I find that more men don’t want kids than women, only online on places like GAG where there are a bunch of traditional men is where I see more men wanting children.

I personally don’t think I want children (this might change of course) and don’t smoke or do drugs or am religious so there are definitely people out there.

People in the replies are saying it’s because of feminism etc. but honestly I think the reason a lot of women don’t want kids is because it’s really hard and expensive right now and they USUALLY have to deal with more than men do when it comes to kids ie being pregnant, body changing, health complications, risk of death, giving birth, being the primary caretaker, being expected to act and be a certain way and so on

[TheSpaceGnome]

@sunflower00 I don't suppose you play video games, and like science, sci-fi, fantasy, and anime?

As for the problems with having kids.. Men have to deal with all those problems too.

I don't want a future wife to get sick or die in childbirth.
I don't want to smell shitty diapers.
I don't want my collectables ruined
I don't want to be in charge of someone else/make rules for someone else.
I don't want to deal with tantrums or messes.
I don't want to censor myself or my posessions.
I don't want to have to babyproof anything dangerous.
I don't want to limit my pet options to things a baby can't piss off.
I don't want to spend that much money on someone.
I don't want to watch shows or movies meant for babies or toddlers.
And I'm picky about who I spend my time with, so what if the kid turns out to be nothing like me?

It just sounds like a pain.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know that that’s true, doubt it. But maybe because they know they’re likely to end up having to do all or most of the childrearing while also working outside of the home. That’s typical nowadays. Women work, just like men, but the men don’t do half of household chored and don’t take equal resposibility for the children so women ens up having to work for money and do all the unpaid work at home.

[inhua]

men do the heavy lifting and have to be the front line of defense whenever an intruder breaks into the home

[serious_miss419]

@inhua; okay but when they aren’t fighting off said intruder, are they excused from helping?

[inhua]

@serious_miss419 helping with what exactly? because some of the man's chores do not require the woman's help nor is it expected he should have any help

[serious_miss419]

Ok 👌

[Losalt]

Not sure if I agree with inhua here although I do agree that male work and chores are underappreciated so is womens sometimes.
But regarding the OPs answer...
Isn't that more a eighties and early nineties thing?
Or is it still like that in the US?

[HaveNoName]

1) It is them who have to go through changes in the body so they have more at stake at leat in the shirt term.
2) They give a higher importance to being able to work than raising family. With kids, working is a challenge for them.
3) *applies to. only those of this type* In the Instagram and Tik Tok world, it deflates their "market" value.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

its definitely the other way around. I remember back in high school I rant into a lot of young bimbos there wanting to get pregnant and have a kid already regardless if they had a job or a good stable career or whatever it takes to raIse a child.

so I can only imagine the desire of those that already have a job and everything planned out

[Christoff92]

Assuming want to enjoy their lifestyle and generation. Don't want to yet settle. My mom became a mother at the young age of 21 years old. Having my elder sister. She became 38 years old when having my younger baby sister. So my mom never had what them ladies have in this time and age.

That's why Assuming don't want to be like their mothers and start early 😊

[Lionman95]

I think because women have learned to not trust guys. Since a guy can go when he loses the interesting a family and she can't go that easily once a child is born.
So to prevent such a situation women prefer to not have kids in the first place.

[provokeesmokee]

Women/birthing parents are the only ones with permanent physical consequences.

When it's your vagina that tears open to your anus, you tend to have stronger opinions about it.

[Chthou95]

Because too many women are chasing after careers and money which doesn't help in the end. Its this feminists attitude that you have to be a working girl and outperform men and show that they can compete all while sacrificing the motherhood aspect

[Anonymous]

Because now a days, most women are more narcissistic than they are nurturing.

Men have always been more compassionate even though society won’t admit it because of women’s “feelings”

Proof can be easily obtained by looking up “man saves” vs “woman saves” on google and look at how many men risk their lives to help others and animals compared to women.

[zagor]

Because men don't have a parasite living in their body for 9 months, and after the kid is born it is usually women who are primary caregivers.

[MysticDevice]

Because its astronomically expensive to raise kids in today's economy. And there's too much uncertainty with housing, schools, and long term finances like 401ks.

As to why more women than men are hesitant I really couldn't say.

[Sasha0426]

I, myself, don’t want kids because I’m not mentally stable to raise them. I don’t have the patience. As for other women, I don’t know. I mean, it’s fine if they don’t want kids but I can’t say for sure why.

[Agape93]

Because that's painful, dangerous and expensive. And not too uncommonly, guys will end up leaving her anyways.