Why are there more women who don't want kids than men?

Question

From my experience, there are more modern women who dont want kids than men who dont want kids. Why is this?

razelove · Accepted Answer

It's your age group. Young women have way more options than the men where finding partners is concerned, so there's no rush, or impetus to settle down.

What is your drive to get married and have kids when you can focus on school, your job, anything really, and anytime you want a guy, you can have whoever you want?

Guys don't have that option, so there is a lot more pressure to take the women we do get when we're young much more seriously. I don't know your exact age, but as the women and men get older you're going to notice a shift there.

Like 25 is going to be the age where women are going to want to settle down if they haven't already, and the men are still going to want the younger women for relationships, but 25+ for fun by and large. Regardless, many men and women don't want kids now, we have had population decline for a long time, and have been propping up our population with immigrants, as they do have a lot of kids compared to US citizens.

Average Marriage Age in the US

Bear in mind most people have a relationship for a couple years before marriage.

Birth rate of US women vs immigrant women in the US

You have to remember that the addition to population is not only the births, but the people themselves coming to the US, as well as the kids that their kids have that would have never been part of the population otherwise. We'd be in a Japan scenario without them.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

The woman tends to sacrifice more to have the children. In addition to the sheer amount of adversity that carrying a child in your body for 9 months entails, the woman is often crippled in terms of her workplace accessibility, so she has to put her adult life on hold while her offspring matures to the point they can function reasonably well without her.

420Rachel · Accepted Answer

I mean let’s be honest, the thought of carrying a baby and giving birth is a pretty scary concept. I’ve been through it myself so I know how intimidating it is. Wouldn’t change it for the world though, I love my son with everything I have and I want another child someday. A man doesn’t have to go through the physical stress of carrying a baby and giving birth. Some women are lucky and have an easy pregnancy and an easy labor. Others aren’t so lucky and have a high risk pregnancy and a high risk birth. My opinion is that if a woman does have the desire to have children, but is afraid, she should talk to her doctor!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What’s there to want? A financial burden, aswell as something that destroys your body and hormones and puts you through post partum depression, aswell as the hundreds of possible health risks, and then you’ve got to put up with a child for at least 18 years, helping with school and hygiene and everything else. Meanwhile men can just dump a load in you and run away without having to take responsibility.

What woman doesn't want that? I wonder why… lol!

safricanluke · Answer

I have two theories that are not mutually exclusive, so both could be true, and are based entirely on personal experiences and not on any factual information at all.

1. Men don't have to give birth themselves and do not know how much stress and sometimes danger (complications from birth, medical conditions, etc.) that can put a woman under in order for them to give birth. Most men are driven to have children due to the biological need to reproduce. That is not too say that they wouldn't love their children or anything, just that the primary drive to reproduce mainly comes from wanting to continue the family line.

2. In the USA in particular, women's rights have been put in danger due to recent Supreme Court decisions. A woman's right to choose what happens to her own body has been taken away in many states, and in some states it has gone so far as to say that a woman cannot get certain forms of birth control without the express permission of her husband, or father if she is not married. For many of the women in my life, this is the reason they do not want children. A close friend of mine wanted children very badly until the decision to overturn Roe v. Wade was made, now she doesn't want to have children ever, to the point that she wants to have a hysterectomy so that she can't have children.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Hard to say. I would guess it has a lot to do with this leftest anti-child stuff or this 4th wave of feminism. It could be the hefty price tag that comes with a child... time and money and again without the family system in place, a child seems to only make sense to a woman that plans on living off big daddy government or child support.

There does seem to be a general hostile attitude from women towards women that show any hint of anything traditional. Like that lady that caught a bunch of shit online because she makes her husband sandwiches. My best guess is this general attitude has extended towards women having children. Seems like a woman taking care of anyone but herself is the patriarchy to some of these chicks... and they hate the patriarchy 😂🤣

Thatpearl26 · Answer

I’ve heard from many friends that they never want children. They think it’s a waste of time, financial burden, or they just can’t find the right guy to have kids with. Personally when I’m older I would like to have 2-3 kids. I think that maybe not wanting children can also stem from the fact that modern day feminists believe that you should focus on your career more. Which isn't wrong but there’s a point where once you are successful you’re alone. Something feminism doesn’t tell you is that you can find balance with family and your career.

NotInterestedSorry · Answer

Maybe some women were forced by their parents to take care of their younger siblings and that turned them off wanting their own kids.

It could also be because pregnancy changes your body and so many men these days expect a woman to lose the baby weight and get back into shape immediately after giving birth.

Giving birth can also be traumatic.

Some women believe that the world is already overpopulated, so they don't want to bring kids into the world

Some just in general like having freedom and being able to travel whenever they want

A_Bell · Answer

I used to think I didn't want kids, until I met my husband. Now I have two and want more (working on the third).

The happiest time of my life is the time I've spent pregnant (well, except for the last month) or with my babies and has made the other times in my life seem shallow.

Careers are not what make you happy and fulfilled. You don't look back from your death bed wishing you spent more time at work.

Tina19 · Answer

I am a woman and i don't want kids it's my personal choice i am not like if everyone in the society is doing something i need to follow that there is no such rule... kids are also huge responsibility and sometimes u need to compromise your career for that

JeffersonA · Answer

Cause of feminism and hating Thier place as mothers to be.

Most women have a clock and like it feeling a need to be a mom and some when they feel it hate it wanna rip it out so they just turn those feelings into hate instead of love for someone.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

There aren't.

Women who don't want kids are rare. Men who don't want kids are common.

I don't want kids, and I'm having the hardest time finding a match because most women who share my hobbies and interests and don't drink or smoke or do drugs are either religious, or want kids, or both.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know that that’s true, doubt it. But maybe because they know they’re likely to end up having to do all or most of the childrearing while also working outside of the home. That’s typical nowadays. Women work, just like men, but the men don’t do half of household chored and don’t take equal resposibility for the children so women ens up having to work for money and do all the unpaid work at home.

HaveNoName · Answer

1) It is them who have to go through changes in the body so they have more at stake at leat in the shirt term.
2) They give a higher importance to being able to work than raising family. With kids, working is a challenge for them.
3) *applies to. only those of this type* In the Instagram and Tik Tok world, it deflates their "market" value.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

its definitely the other way around. I remember back in high school I rant into a lot of young bimbos there wanting to get pregnant and have a kid already regardless if they had a job or a good stable career or whatever it takes to raIse a child.

so I can only imagine the desire of those that already have a job and everything planned out

Christoff92 · Answer

Assuming want to enjoy their lifestyle and generation. Don't want to yet settle. My mom became a mother at the young age of 21 years old. Having my elder sister. She became 38 years old when having my younger baby sister. So my mom never had what them ladies have in this time and age.

That's why Assuming don't want to be like their mothers and start early 😊

Lionman95 · Answer

I think because women have learned to not trust guys. Since a guy can go when he loses the interesting a family and she can't go that easily once a child is born.
So to prevent such a situation women prefer to not have kids in the first place.

Chthou95 · Answer

Because too many women are chasing after careers and money which doesn't help in the end. Its this feminists attitude that you have to be a working girl and outperform men and show that they can compete all while sacrificing the motherhood aspect

provokeesmokee · Answer

Women/birthing parents are the only ones with permanent physical consequences. When it's your vagina that tears open to your anus, you tend to have stronger opinions about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Because now a days, most women are more narcissistic than they are nurturing.

Men have always been more compassionate even though society won’t admit it because of women’s “feelings”

Proof can be easily obtained by looking up “man saves” vs “woman saves” on google and look at how many men risk their lives to help others and animals compared to women.

zagor · Answer

Because men don't have a parasite living in their body for 9 months, and after the kid is born it is usually women who are primary caregivers.

MysticDevice · Answer

Because its astronomically expensive to raise kids in today's economy. And there's too much uncertainty with housing, schools, and long term finances like 401ks.

As to why more women than men are hesitant I really couldn't say.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I, myself, don’t want kids because I’m not mentally stable to raise them. I don’t have the patience. As for other women, I don’t know. I mean, it’s fine if they don’t want kids but I can’t say for sure why.

Agape93 · Answer

Because that's painful, dangerous and expensive. And not too uncommonly, guys will end up leaving her anyways.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i like kids i think i'd be a very caring mother if ever but i don't want my life to be about kids or centered to them

Dinklex3 · Answer

Maybe because we’re the ones that have to go through pregnancy 💁🏾‍♀️

Flower7 · Answer

Probably because women usually do most of the care for them.

MementoMori777 · Answer

well for starters i think that the fact they gotta be the ones to deal with pregnancy has a hige effect on this

inhua · Answer

feminism scared them into not wanting them or in many cases kill them out of inconvenience

Ben487 · Answer

more women reproduce than men so that doesn't really add up with what women actually choose to do. Maybe they just say that

KrakenAttackin · Answer

The key word you used was "modern" woman, which is synonymous with feminist, over fucked, with a bad attitude. These women have more testosterone than most men.

Paul09 · Answer

Where are these "women" ? I know 2 women that said they didn't want kids, now 1 has 2 kids and the other just had a kid . I never meet single women who don't want kids.

DextroShade · Answer

The globohomo are convincing women that having kids is bad and that being a strong, independent woman who will die alone is preferable.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably because the women are the ones who have to actually give birth.

Unit1 · Answer

I have the opposite experience and problem. Women want kids. I don't.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If it is true, probably because they do all the work in delivery.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because those women believe the lie that feminism told them, and want to end the family as a whole. These women are sad ad pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

If single girls are happy then why 40+ women are crying for husband and babies?

dolemite58 · Answer

i think it’s just taught to girls more now a days

Anonymous · Answer

a lot of women don't want kids till they marry, then some change thier minds.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm pretty sure your experience is far from the norm, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably don’t want the responsibility, headache or cost

Anonymous · Answer

Being pregnant and giving birth seems pretty terrible

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe a lot of the women who have kids aren’t constantly online contributing to the discussion because they have a family to take care of.

mattclark242 · Answer

I don't know but I want 2 .

annabananna · Answer

We have to carry them.

MyFacts · Answer

It's cause men suck. Next.

Anonymous · Answer

What planet do you live on?

OddBeMe · Answer

Mmm, the child birthing thing?

MackBoy · Answer

Having kids makes the family very lively

Anonymous · Answer

Lmao, not so much.

In_Trance · Answer

i think so

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