He wants me to be a sex back up and I want a relationship. Do I need to move on?

[Anonymous]

If a guy sees you only as a back up sex, placeholder until someone else comes along, is there a point of even talking to him about it? Would I be wasting my time if I ask him how he sees us?

Should I just block him and move on without a word?

[OlderAndWiser]

He has told you, "You are hamburger. I really want filet mignon. Since I don't have a filet in reach, I'll take a hamburger for now, but when that filet shows up, I'm outta here!" Are you willing to settle for that? Would you ever consider marrying a guy who thinks of you as a backup plan?

If your self-respect is so low that you are willing to settle for this, why would anyone else have any respect for you?

[Asker]

You are correct. He said he will get out of the way when I meet someone else thus implying I should do the same for him. He never openly said he doesn't want the relationship but he meant it.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you develop some self-respect by taking actions to protect yourself. You know what to do!

[ohsheeT]

Yes move on you don't want a guy like that you want a guy that wants you for you no seconds no thirds he wants you first and wants you first only because he's not going to stop taking you second if he can get a first and a second you make him make you number one by walking away but that's still not going to make you number one because he's out there looking for seconds anyway so I would just walk away

[BasedBaeBecca]

It seems that he lacks respect for you. This is an unfair attitude to see you as a backup and you deserve something better, for sure.

Yes, you would waste your time talking about it. You can block him and move on without a word, this is the best solution. You need to value yourself more and be surrounded by those who appreciate you.

[ShesRad80]

move on? no girl, run on- far away from this "Turd Ferguson"

[ManOnFire]

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[ShesRad80]

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[ManOnFire]

Hell yeah, you should move on. If you see that this guy is just using you like that - or at the very least you suspect it - and you want more than sex, don't even bother hoping anything serious happens and let him go.

[Lliam]

If you're looking for a relationship, of course you should move on. Find a guy who shares your hopes, dreams and values, and who cherishes you.
Don't let the present guy use you. Plus, he'll hurt you eventually.

[JesseP1nk]

Has he said it? Or is this conclusion you came up with? You might have missed some pieces. I suggest you to talk to him first before you make your decision. To be sure you both are on the same page. You tell him what you want and let him say what he want.

[Asker]

I came to this conclusion after he said he will move out of the way after I meet someone special/ better.

[Strong_Warrior]

Don't ask him anything and be polite. Keep being fucked and show a good performance in sex. He will love you, he will fall in love with you and you two will get in a relationship. Just do what I say and you will see the best results. But do minumum 20 minutes of blowjob daily and make him so happy.

[Asker]

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[Strong_Warrior]

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[JasonCruz]

I would not proceed. He just want to have sex with you and when someone better come he will leave you.

[Asker]

He told me he will leave when I meet someone else. He expects I will do the same for him.

[JasonCruz]

Better to leave him. Stay away

[meetkitty123]

Why on Earth would you sell yourself short don't be anyone's doormat obviously move on.

[Shamalien]

Just tell him u gotta move on and don’t create any drama.

[MementoMori777]

yes no need to waste more time then you already have

[NuitBlanche]

Do you want to be a Back Up? As Long if you do not find your Love?

[Asker]

That’s what he said. We can be each other’s back ups until we both find someone better. That’s not what I want.

[NuitBlanche]

Then you have given the answer. I wouldn't to be a Backup too... That is not what I deserve.

It would be ok if it is ok for your. If Something doesn't do anything well for you - try to let Go / quit.

[Asker]

I will tell him this won't work for me. Then I will tell him to delete my phone number and I will do the same with his.

[NuitBlanche]

Sounds good.

[BadApple69]

Communications is always key! What would be the harm in telling him what you said here. If he doesn’t want a relationship then move on.

[Flower7]

Yes, just stop talking to him. He is a big waste of your time.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Is that even a question? You should move on.

[Fireguy17]

Yes, otherwise you will be stuck in that role forever.
Then you will be mad at yourself for doing that.
Move on.

[GreatBigCircles]

Absolutely. I don't feel I should even have to justify this.

[mommymommymommy]

What's weird about the girl i like is, while she's she loves me, she also doesn't want anything "serious". She wants to have sex. I think she's just scared

[Nikki1989]

Yeah, you don't need this guy. He just wants to use you.

[WhitneySnow]

I would tell him why I’m dumping him and then block him

[Luopio27]

If you block him he can no longer see the message.

[WhitneySnow]

@Luopio27 block him after he reads it. Only fair to at least let him know why.

[sassyredhead]

yes move on. In my experience when you want different things resorting comprising what you want leads to conflict and heartbreak.

[XXblack88]

Absolutely move on you don't need a guy like that. I'm sure you can do better.

[DextroShade]

Did you ever think to ask him why he wouldn't want you for a relationship?

[Asker]

I think it’s because we are different races and cultures and his family would never accept me.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to have sex with him? Do you want a relationship with him? I have been the “backup girl” plenty of times. But only because he was also my backup guy.

[Asker]

From what he told me wants me to his back up and he would be mine. I’m not interested in that.

[gothbxtch]

yes, this doesn’t sound like a balanced, mutually consented and happy relationship

[KatherineJ]

I think you already know the answer (or should).

[Surely]

Depends on what type of relationship you are looking for.
Probably you should move on.

[john6678]

You've developed feelings and he's not interested in having a serious relationship. Yeah your only going to get hurt.

[Anonymous]

It's up to you. You could do what a lot of women do. You could just f*** him till something better comes along.

[nawtee_me]

Give him the best sex he ever had and then move on so he knows what he missed out on.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, you should move on.

[Drumlin2001]

You're wasting your time

[slatyb]

Yes, you need to move on.

[Jazzy54]

Yes. You want two different things.

[Jazzy54]

Don’t settle being some man’s fucktoy if you want more.

[ProbablyClueless]

I would advise you to move on, yes.

[Hazelxoxx]

Dont block him just move on

[justabuddy]

Yeah... it's just got nna hurt you.

[BLP11520]

Yeah you should

[Emmy87]

Move on

[SpyderMurpph]

@Emmy87 could you check out my question "Is my neighbor flirting with me" I posted it anonymously.