We had sex and now he ignores me: should I move on?

[KittyKatLady]

I met this guy about 8 months ago; we were colleagues on a group project for a class we were taking together. He pursued me at first and asked me out a couple of times before we actually went on a date. The first date we had was weird because I felt I couldn’t really connect with him, although I find him cute.

He kept saying that he was shy on this instance, a thing he had used before as an excuse for not greeting me when I saw him around. After that, he asked me out again and we planned to go on a second date, which he cancelled a day prior to the event, saying he was busy with school (tf?). After that, I stopped initiating conversations with him, only replying to him the couple of times he texted me.

Long story short, he asked me out again after that, and I went; this time we had sex. I enjoyed the sex and all, would’ve done it again. The thing is, first time a saw him after it, he did something he had never done before in our relationship: he stopped the group he was with to give me a hug when I passed by.

After that, I interacted with him virtually, indicating that I would be down to another date. He kept interacting with me the way eventually became his staple: in a cold, distant way. Crazy to think how sweet and caring he was in the beginning.

Now he just runs (sometimes quite literally, I should add; I’ve witnessed it) whenever I see him around. Is he going to come around to his old pattern of reaching out when he wants something, or should I move on?

[emma55]

It seems like he got what he wanted, I’m very sorry I know that feeling. But don’t feel bad there’s many good guys out there. Another thing is that you should remember all this because I bet you anything that he will come back & act like anything happened. Don’t fall for it

[KittyKatLady]

Omg, I'm so sorry you went through that as well. Thanks for the advice; I wouldn't put it past him. I think your prediction is truthful. After all, he did go AWOL for weeks before our second date, and leading up to that, he was very cliché with the classic 'wyd' text - mind you, that was after weeks of unresponsiveness. I feel so dumb for falling for that; I feel like I lowered myself to his level although I wasn't doing anything wrong by wanting to hang out with him. Anyway, I used to think I knew better. I should've known better.

[emma55]

Is okay I got my revenge on him, played him back & had him talking to himself for 2 months hahah. Yeah you did nothing wrong by wanting to see him or hang out with him. If he didn’t appreciate it, well that’s his loss. Whenever you see him again act like you don’t know him and that you don’t care. Nothing hurts a guys ego than this. At the end of the day take this as experience so it won’t happen again, because I hate this type of guys who think that they can get away with anything.

[236color]

Yes, next time don't wait 8 months to figure it out.

[KittyKatLady]

Are you implying being played was my fault? lol
Ouch, that’s rude

[236color]

Not at all, I was implying you gave him more credit than he deserved. If he hasn't contacted you after sex and he is on a ventilator in the hospital, he played you

[KittyKatLady]

Okay, I see it. Sucks that, given the amount of effort he invested initially, I fell right into it. I was so stupid.

[236color]

Hey it can happen to anyone. We don't want to give up on the outcome we hope for, sometimes till long after we should have.

[Bricealan]

You will do as you want, but I would move on. You will be taken advantage of

[KittyKatLady]

Thanks. I feel like I have already been taken advantage of, unfortunately. I’ll try my best to just forget this guy, he’s trash 😭

[Bricealan]

@KittyKatLady Im sorry that happened, and some asshole men are just that way. You need to protect yourself, physically, your ego and your own self respect. You go... Kitty !!!

[Anonymous]

You were a hit it and quit it

[KittyKatLady]

Got it, it sucks