So let me give it to you straight: there's this girl that I like and she likes me back but she said she isn't ready to date. It's been a year, what do I do?

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I'm ready to wait as long as she needs but only if she isn't just playing with me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Focus on other things man... girls ain't worth the headache (or heartache), especially at that age.

You probably won't, and I get it, you feel that pull and attraction towards her and you just gotta make something happen, but if you can just pull back and not give her too much thought, I'd highly advise it. I ruined myself for a long time, being reckless and pursuing a girl I liked a lot. I was persistent and it did not end well. I wanted her to know.

The years of being badly depressed as a result, was not worth it. If she's not making it easy for you, she's not into as much as she seems to say she is. Actions speak louder than words. You can't trust a girl when she says stuff like that but isn't backing it up. For your own best interest. You can't. She doesn't want to hurt you but doesn't realize that she can't avoid doing so... and that if she tries, she will likely only make it worse.

Trust me man, I've been there. She doesn't realize what she's doing. If you can ease back and just give you and herself time, only THEN could something MAYBE work out, but don't hold on to hope. I'm serious too... don't hold on to hope. Get your mind off of her, if at all possible.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

So let me give it to you straight: She's Just Not That Into You!

So let me give it to you straight: there's this girl that I like and she likes me back but she said she isn't ready to date. It's been a year, what do I do?

I know you have youself convinced that this chick REALLY likes you, but the fact that you have yourself convinced doesn't mean you're actually right. Take a few steps back, look at yourself objectively, and tell me what you see.

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

Lowkey move on. That sounds harsh, but I've been in her place before, or at least somewhere similar since I'm not sure what her motivations are. I unintentionally led a guy on for a couple months because I thought I would get it together. My situation turned out to be too complicated for that. Thankfully he was an absolute gem about it and we're still friends. But realistically, if she really likes you, she'll understand you not waiting around for her. Feel free to talk to her about where you're at and communicate with her, but don't feel like you have to wait. She's not the only person you'll ever connect with and it's possible she feels bad about preventing you from dating other people, even if that's not how you see it. You could always make an agreement to come re-evaluate if you're still into each other in some set amount of time if neither has found someone else, just don't let that kind of agreement convince you not to date other people.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

In this case, I think it's best to consider your own feelings and needs.

If you've been waiting for this girl for a year and she's not ready to date, it might be time to move on. It's possible that she's just not ready for a relationship at this time or that she's not interested in dating you specifically.

However, if you really like her, it may be worth asking her directly if she sees a future with you and where she sees your relationship going. This way, you can get some clarity and figure out if it's worth waiting for her any longer.

DextroShade · Answer

Let me translate the womanese for you: "I like you enough to make you my back up plan after I spend my best years on the cock carousel getting ran-through by Chad, Brad, Kevin in Sales, Pookie, Rayray, Tyrone, and Dave the unemployed garage band guitar player who may or may not be homeless and couch surfing. After the guys who gave me the tingles don't want me anymore and I may have some of their kids, I might give you the chance to support me and any bastard children I have and I might give you once a month unenthused starfish sex."

madhatters4 · Answer

what exactly is her reason for "not being ready"?

i think this is the crux of the issue. it seems to me that if you are still not ready to date someone after a year you probably aren't going to be ready to date that person ever, barring extenuating circumstances (health issues, responsibilities that make relationships difficult, coming out of some really bad relationships, etc)

lightbulb27 · Answer

yea, ya can't trust what girls say at that age and many others. translating that could mean various things. So, talk to her and make a judgement. probobably move on.

maybe instead of dating you can hang out... do something she enjoys and try to engage her in it. if she doesn't bite, wasting your time..

stepyo99 · Answer

Quit waiting. There's lots of fish in the sea. Find a girl who doesn't want to wait and instead wants your love now. She's the one who's deserving of it, forget this other girl who's playing mind games with you.

Texasgal95 · Answer

If you really like her you will wait now what is consider long enough to move on is up to you. Sometimes you move and if it’s meant to be it will whenever that is

Cluelessguy95 · Answer

She doesn't like you. She likes the attention you give her.
Women are always ready for the right guy and put excuses to the rest.
Don't waste your time keep working on yourself and the right girl will come.

slatyb · Answer

Date someone else. There's is only "yes" and "no". There is no "maybe". She didn't say yes.

Anonymous · Answer

It says here you are under 18 so maybe it is her folks who will not allow her to date. You can either continue what you are doing or begin to date another. You never know how long this will take or if it would.

Exterminatore · Answer

Not ready to date…. but likes you for the last year. I bet if Brad Pitt wanted to date her she would be ready to date.  Pay her no attention and move on. She’s not into you.

Staximus · Answer

If she lives at home and there's some sort of problem with her parents, you may be waiting a while and should move on. If there's no problem with her parents then move on anyways. You can't wait forever. Get on with your life, son!

kakaling · Answer

This means she is still available to other guys, so you are available to other girls too.

Nothing wrong with it. Don't be desperate and do something bad.

If you love her, you will wish she will get the best.

Nikki1989 · Answer

She probably doesn't think much of you.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You aren't 18 yet, she is probably not either, so she is smart to wait, its keeps you both from doing things too early.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Bruh... it's time to face the music. Move on.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You wait for her if you really like her. Be patient.

Surely · Answer

At your age. Just enjoy her friendship.  Enjoy your teenage years. Things aren’t as much fun later in life.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Find someone else. She might get jealous and decide to actually date you

kerrieK001 · Answer

She either doesn't like you or she has lots of trauma or baggage.

EaterPeter · Answer

She might play with you. Keep your intentions clear. Use help from dating coach. Pursue her.

BlackJeep · Answer

A year? Move on.

Iron_Man · Answer

You’re too young don’t worry about it

Anonymous · Answer

Dont take it seriously

robocop666 · Answer

she is an idiot move on

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Perhaps, look for someone else.

Akam93 · Answer

Move on

Anonymous · Answer

Move on.

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