Should I allow my girlfriend to hangout with whoever she wants?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend hangs out with others men too and she is not happy with me not allowing her we even fight over this topic we even got to the topic of breakup I know that these things will end up in cheating etc

Should I allow her and consider an open relationship?

[richardcory]

Hanging out with friends is not at all an "open" relationship. Many people have opposite friends but don't have sex with them.

I think the key is that you can't "prevent" her from having an affair if she wants to. Instead you need to act in a way that will make her not want to - and if she does, then separate, she wasn't worth your time anyway.

Of course if you don't like her behavior you can leave the relationship. But beyond that you can't "allow" or "not-allow"

[petitedollbabee]

Sounds like you’re really insecure and maybe have some past trauma relating to being cheated on, and therefore you’re taking it out on your girlfriend, which isn’t fair on her. You’re being really controlling. Who she’s friends with doesn’t determine whether she’ll cheat or not. If she’s going to cheat, she’s going to do it whether she’s friends with men or not.


Do some self reflection and understand why you’re being so controlling. Why do you believe she will cheat on you? If you can’t get past this, break up so that she can be with someone who doesn’t take their own insecurities out on her and try to control her social circle.

[Asker]

Cheating affairs starts this way I'm not insecure if I'm insecure then I won't be talking about open relationship

To hide this and have their fun girls blame the man being insecure

[petitedollbabee]

No, you’re just insecure. Deny it all you like my friend, it doesn’t change the truth. Cheating affairs start because the cheater wants to cheat. Regardless of who their friends are. Considering an open relationship does not make you any less insecure, so don’t try to convince yourself otherwise.

[Asker]

Then why the hell she has a problem when I talk to other women

[petitedollbabee]

Probably because you’re controlling her social life, yet you expect her to let you do whatever you want. It isn’t fair to be one sided. Follow your own example.

[_Maya_]

Bro you got some major insecurity issues. Why do you automatically think because she hangs out with guys that means she is cheating or will cheat? That is crazy messed up thinking. Honestly my advice would be to break up with her. She deserves better than to have her fidelity questioned by someone as insecure as you are. The last part about it being an open relationship is equally as crazy. Basically you are saying you're going go treat it as such with zero proof or evidence because she has guy friends. That's insane.

[Asker]

So men who don't allow their girls to be a hoe are insecure

[_Maya_]

So girls that have guy friends are hoes? You need help.

[Asker]

Whats the point of a man and woman being frnds?

I never told don't talk to other men and she gets mad when I talk with other girls

[_Maya_]

What in the hell do you mean what's the point of girls and guys being friends? Are you mentally ill? You seriously have never had a friend that was a girl? Just wow if you answer yes. So wait. You talk to girls but she can't talk to guys? You're both hopeless.

[Asker]

All the sidekicks claim to be frnds

[ChadHelpsBros]

Bro, she's your partner, not your property. You can't control what she does or who she spends time with. Trust her to make her own decisions and respect her boundaries. If you feel insecure in the relationship, talk about it and work through it together. Don't let jealousy and insecurity destroy something beautiful.

[Erroin]

Dude, if it makes you uncomfortable then that’s a boundary. Don’t try to reason with her or fight about it (that’s another rule, don’t fight with your girl). If she violates, sit her on the bench or hand her the walking papers. There are plenty of women who will respect your boundaries if you enforce them

[Drumlin2001]

Allow? Why do you control her actions? She is free to hang out with who she wants. If you don’t trust her you don't have much of a relationship

[Anonymous]

No... I mean if you are with her I can see it. But even I who had the same male best friend since kindergarten and nothing ever happened. If he wasent comfortble then I would show him all our texts and always make sure he is with us when we meet until he feels comfortble.

I always put my man first.

[boggboss]

What do u mean by allow her mate if u think she will cheat out of access to other men why are u even with her

[boggboss]

At the end of the day I dont even know ow why you two are together u guys clearly don't trust eachother and the relationship is become toxic if u want a partner who is not allowed male friends thats somthing u should state when dating because otherwise it comes off as being insecure I get u might not know why guys and girls should be friends or even think its possible but thats then on you as not everyone lives that way

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for your girlfriend soon she’ll be able to hangout with whoever she wants because hopefully there is a breakup on the near future. Good job Warden!

[Tyrael]

It's very hypocritical of her to get mad at you for talking to other girls when she wants to hang out with other guys. This might not be a lasting relationship.

[SnowedIn]

Yes you should.

Except you don't get to allow or not allow. That's not your place.

[safricanluke]

The more controlling of her you are, the more likely she is to leave you or cheat on your dumb ass. Grow the fuck up and trust her, or leave her so she can be happy

[CountryWanderer]

Dude. She has friends, let her hang out with them. Stop controlling her.

[exitseven]

If she is hanging around with ex boyfriends or guys she has had sex with I would be concerned. 3

[PeteA380]

I'd never accept a female who hangs out with males to be anything more than just a friend.

[Anonymous]

Allow?

[noohair]

Allow?