You may be afraid to emotionally let go of your first crush, so this happens when you pass by his place, but it could be many things.
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does brandon t. w. even live there? No. he doesn't. your thoughts are taking over and are irrational.
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You were probably really emotionally dedicated to this guy since you crushed on him for so long. You probably feel a bit disloyal to him and your former feelings by allowing yourself to show interest in other men. Basically, you might just not be as over him as you think on some level. But seriously, pursue other people. A relationship that never appeared in over a decade of emotional dedication probably isn't going to happen and fostering connections with other people will probably help you stop feeling this way. Just remind yourself that looking for someone new now doesn't dishonor him or the feelings you had for him in anyway. That will always be a part of you, it just doesn't have to be the most important part. The guilt is unnecessary.
But also part of your crush jumping may be because you're still comparing them to him or because you're still hanging on to the idea of him. You might need to take some time to work through your feelings a little before you manage to settle or you might just need to really focus in on how the new person/people are different from him, but in good ways. Maybe take a minute to think about some of your crush's flaws etc. You probably romanticized him pretty heavily to like him for that long, so maybe give yourself a reality check.
But mostly, just know that you're probably feeling guilty and you definitely don't have to.
Years ago when I was about your age my then fiance broke up with me. She didn't give me a reason why she was breaking up with me. I just got a phone call she said I don't want to see you anymore. I was loyal to her. The anxiety level was so high with me each time I drove by her residence and employment. One day I was crossing the street at a crosswalk and she was driving by and she almost hit me. That made me even feel worse. I graduated from the program that I was in and I finally moved away. I slowly got over her. It has been 48 years since that terrible break up. I am now married to a beautiful woman for the last 45 years. I do think of her sometimes and what had happened. I do wish I had closure. A breakup is like a big huge cut in your body and eventually the cut hills believe the scar behind. I do look at that scar and reminisce. The answer to your question is yes you still remember him, yes you'll be okay.
Perhaps this is the final stage of letting go of that former crush and the anxiety is part of that.
Going near where he lives makes you think about him again
I think that is normal. It can be awkward for a lot of people to run into exes and old crushes.
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