Would you, as a white person, be open to date a black woman?

[BellaAbeni]

I'm asking this as dating is difficult for me. I've often been rejected by white guys because I'm black

[Anonymous]

I know this question is geared toward men, but I'd like to provide my opinion as a black woman.

So I've dated and been attracted to white men. I will say that yes, it seems as if it's harder for black women to date outside their race due to all the negative stereotypes society has put on black women (and black people in general!) And some men are not attracted to black women- even some black men openly admit they're not attracted to black women! And that's okay.

When I was younger, I used to like some of my guy friends that were white and Asian- they wouldn't date me. They had racists parents (mostly this), or they admitted they were not attracted to black girls. It hurt. Made me self conscious for years- especially when black men didn't approach me either. But I just kept trying- and you have to do the same!

There are good men out there of other ethnicities that are very much attracted to black women! Most of them are just wary to do so because they assume black women don't date outside their race. You may have to put on your dating profiles that are you open to interracial relationships, or you may have to flirt a bit with a guy you're interested in to show him, "yes, I like you, you can flirt back or ask me out." Give them a nudge to approach you. And if you're like me where you're in an area where interracial dating is taboo or hard to find? Look outside the area! It might mean a long distance relationship for a while, but don't get stuck or worse, settle with a black guy just because no one else wants you.

[Rosexøxø]

They do sis, they do 😒.

Nobody rejects a person because of color, in any sense, unless they’re prejudice or don’t have a preference for that in dating culture. That is all.

Tbh, superficial is included because

s- too many are superficial today.

I cannot tell you how many ask these dumb questions, but you have to it know, too.

“size matter”…. “Into ‘thin white guys’ ”… “into black guys”…. “Into bbc”…. “does height matter”…..

it’s all the stupidest thing, really.

If people wanna fuck, they will and would. Literally, someone rejecting a person because they want to have the same sexual tastes is strange to me. Like for one time things or short-term, I don’t see why anyone has to be so picky.

Let it be sis. Take up modeling because you absolutely can… (if you wish to). Self love. Enjoy life- absolutely live it up to the fullest. Fuck some guys if you wish or find one who will be dedicated- trust me, SEXUAL guys don’t see color in any other way than a ‘variety of a woman,’ he can enjoy sexually. That’s all there is to it.

Personally, I love men of all cultures. Whenever they ask me that- I puke green/ short/ lukewarm/ x amount of degrees Fahrenheit…. 😒 ridiculous

Anyways, much love 🤟 💕 ^-^

[Graydon]

For my honest personal opinion, black was never really my type. Not racist or anything, nothing against black people but I did once asked a therapist and he believed that it was probably because for some people, they just get so comfortable with their skin color after having it all their life & it’s just a natural thought to want to picture your significant other as having the same skin color as you (for some people again I guess definitely not that way with everything), but really you just never know when you may suddenly flip. Love at first sight, doesn't seem to happen all too often, only in the movies

[AaronKrieger]

I am going to admit that it would intimidate me, but that doesn't mean it'd cause me to not date one though.

The intimidation would just be there due to a lack of experience/ignorance and just me being young. For example, like the cultural differences when talking to your family and it potentially being awkward. I feel like the race difference would be the elephant in the room.

Anyway, if we got chemistry and I find your appearance attractive, then I'm willing to see if we're compatible. A girl's race isn't going to change that.

[jennifer_bloom]

The way to avoid rejection is to make the guy come to you, and you don't have to look like Tyra Banks to get guys to pick you out of the crowd, I know many men that go for modest normal looking girls over very good looking women who like to show off their good looks and get attention from others. Having a good personality will make you a valuable asset, regardless of what you look like and if you are already good looking, it will make you an even better asset to those who have no shortage of beautiful options but can't find modest ones.

[MrOracle]

I'm only half white (and half Mexican), but I have dated black girls before and would again.

[AviatorTom]

I know lots of white guys who date black women.

[Avicenna]

Lots of white men would happily date you

[Rosexøxø]

Lots of men should happily date her too

[sheenagwapa]

i'm sorry... you can wear makeup or improve your style to have better chqnce. i see white men in a relationship with black so maybe yoy just have not found the right one tet.


not that i'm promoting white skin but in my country fair skin is a big business. i often hear comment even from men callinh a girl pretty just because of fairer skin maybe i just have different taste but when i look at the woman for instqnce i find her reqlly unattractive.


there are also a lot of unattractive fair skinned women who feels so pretty and look down on women who have darker skin tone but the latter are actually pretty


i don't really like pity party and beinh politically correct i'm more on solution so my suggestion is maybe yoy can focus on your facial skin to make it fairer. currently i'm usinh garbier 30x vitamic c booster serum on my face. i'm sure you're not broke like me so you can maintain this. i am so broke i cannot even but feminine wash and all the more i cannot but this again. i really hope the demons infiltrating my life right now can decide to get the fuck out already and go to hell


goid luck!

[BigWhiteWolf87]

No.

Because most black men aren't respectable towards their women. They tend to be more abusive, more controlling, more disrespectful, etc. & statistically more prone to violent crime in general making them all around more dangerous to be involved with.

Abuse is many, many times higher among African Americans than white culture - 2018 3 to 5 black woman were murdered by their partner per 1 white woman.

In NYC alone abuse statistics for African Americans is 30 to 50% in ALL categories of domestic abuse and it is statistically the MOST DOCUMENTED ethnicity in the city for abuse. Let that sink in, that's in one city. Now multiple that by ALL cities in the USA.
https://www.nyc.gov/assets/ocdv/downloads/pdf/ENDGBV-Intersection-DV-Race-ethnicity-Sex.pdf

And then culturally - if their parents immigrated from Africa or even some of the Caribbean countries - men are raised women are nothing more than their property.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

Not to mention culturally African Americans will not help a victim of domestic abuse.
They won't even help their own family members and why in cases of domestic AND child abuse you WILL hear on the news the relatives saying 'I thought something was wrong" when they damn well knew something was wrong - there has thankfully been cases of relatives been charged in assoication with child abuse cases nowadays - they just didn't care to intervene.

There has even been videos of African Americans standing there watching as a guy beats the shit out of his woman. Standing there doing nothing but baying like a pack of hyenas.

[Anonymous]

Is your preference white men? I think a lot of this boils down to the area you are in. I know that I personally grew up in an area where most of the white men I know actually prefer black women. All of my brothers are dating/married to some really gorgeous black women. My cousin (male) is currently engaged to a very handsome black man. So, it may be an area issue? Though I obviously can't say that for sure. Don't let people's preferences keep you down. You're gorgeous and you will find someone when the time is right.

[Anonymous]

Not usually in some areas yes it is a good thing...

Most places they just think your trying to marry up.

This is from black men and Hispanics doing this constantly. The black men are just wanting baby mommy's not wives and often share aids and stds!

The Mexican women well just want a green card then divorce after 2 kids...

It is not you they hate or react to but past trama for Thier families or friends.

Trust me it took me moving a few times and close friends to help teach me that it is not racism just preference and past family trama.

As if being a black women is not hard enough in itself! Besides white guys are hot!

[DontBeBitter]

But y'all are trying to marry up. Black females are bald headed, have masculine attitudes, wear fake hair, and are thirsty for cave dwellers.

[Opinion Owner]

@DontBeBitter stop watching TV and pretending lol

[stepyo99]

I realize that black men are some of the least loyal men of any race, but I don't see why that means you have to fall for the race-mixing propaganda being pushed by globohomo. Despite the averages being worse, there's still plenty of upstanding young black men out there for you to date.

[DontBeBitter]

Loyal? Females are only loyal to the next paycheck but y'all want us to be wimpy simps like white boys.

[stepyo99]

@DontBeBitter Don't forget your child support payment this month, DeShaquan

[G-Daz]

Yes, but personally I'm very attracted to black girls. They're hot!.

I know there's a lot of white guys that seem against the idea which i personally don't understand but i imagine it's they perceive there's no similarity.

What is your struggle?

[Anonymous]

I'm light skinned, and in Middle America they can't really figure out what I am (actually bi racial son of immigrants from both sides of the Mediterranean), but I've dated several, and lived in majority Black cities all over the country. This doesn't go for Black females necessarily (and tbh, in Middle America, it's mostly White trash who put off that B's ghetto stereotype), but ANYONE who puts on that ghetto annoying garbage is OUT OF MY PRESENCE. That includes guys. I know of several who won't date Black women because of that... but tbh, it really depends on location. Black folks in Sacramento don't act like they do in Memphis. People who haven't traveled, usually assume that. So I'm going by how you present yourself. I'm in a Middle America state right now, a lot of White females around, and they're straight trash if there ever was. So if one's traveled, they'll know better than to assume that.

[godfatherfan]

The fact is we cannot control what we are attracted to or what turns us on. I am just not interested in dating women other then white and maybe the Spanish/Mexican that , for the most part, look white. It isn't that I don't find women of color attractive, I do. Just not dating attractive. The only black woman that I ever saw myself dating or having sex with was Vanessa Williams. Wow is she gorgeous.

[Lliam]

Sure. I'm white. I've met some very beautiful and sweet black women. I got along really well with one in particular at work. We went out a few times. She was separated from her husband and still married, though, so I never took it any further.

I've met others, but felt that there were cultural differences.

[abc3643]

Yes. In the mid-1990s, I very much wanted to date this Black woman who is the current "Doctor World North Africa". Sadly, I was friend-zoned, but she was a wonderful friend.

[richardcory]

I'm married, so not now. Assuming I was dating - yes. Its interesting though - I find a higher percentage of white women attractive than I do black women, but I also find the most attractive (to me) black women to be as attractive as the most attractive white women.

[Deformate]

Of course I'd date a black woman. I imagine some people wouldn't because black women aren't their type in the same way some don't like blondes or redheads, but other than that, I can't see anyone having issues with it. Its just personal preference and nobody is the same.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure. I spent 10 years with someone that practically was a black woman. She was from India but, even her own family made fun of how dark she was and told her no one would ever marry her because she's so dark. I know quite a few black people that are nowhere near as dark as her.

[Shortcake5]

I have and would again, just not those specific black women again. Although I'm only one of two white men in my friend groups who have dated black women before, so yeah that's not a lot of options compared to how many of us have dated white women..

[KostasKouvalis]

No, I wouldn't. I was in the past, but not anymore. I'm desperate, but not THAT desperate. Black people were cooler before Obama resurrected the black nationalist movement. I'm not surprised White dudes don't wanna date you. It's the black nationalist movement that has destroyed black people's image.

[cosmosis181]

You're right about that and I know a LOT of guys who were going with the flow before that hit... then all of a sudden, Black folks they wlhad been cool with before then, instantly turned on them, and they just shut down entirely. That 10 year period DESTROYED any half ass race relations that had been built up the last 40 years. Not like it was some big group of harmony before, but there was tolerance at least. That all disappeared. FAST.

[DontBeBitter]

Lol blames Obama while racist trump turned whites into domestic terrorists

[KostasKouvalis]

@DontBeBitter I mean, technically you're correct, but it's not Trump's fault that Leftists have a lot of pent up anger, and feel they need to use violence to get what they want.

[JHNS98]

It's a non-issue for me. Sweden is a much less racialized country than the USA is, even though our current government also is into the culture war stuff...

I actually matched with a black girl on a dating app (not Tinder) some time ago. We had a good conversation, both in text and video. But I let too much time go by, so she met someone else in the meantime...