Would you, as a white person, be open to date a black woman?

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I'm asking this as dating is difficult for me. I've often been rejected by white guys because I'm black

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know this question is geared toward men, but I'd like to provide my opinion as a black woman.

So I've dated and been attracted to white men. I will say that yes, it seems as if it's harder for black women to date outside their race due to all the negative stereotypes society has put on black women (and black people in general!) And some men are not attracted to black women- even some black men openly admit they're not attracted to black women! And that's okay.

When I was younger, I used to like some of my guy friends that were white and Asian- they wouldn't date me. They had racists parents (mostly this), or they admitted they were not attracted to black girls. It hurt. Made me self conscious for years- especially when black men didn't approach me either. But I just kept trying- and you have to do the same!

There are good men out there of other ethnicities that are very much attracted to black women! Most of them are just wary to do so because they assume black women don't date outside their race. You may have to put on your dating profiles that are you open to interracial relationships, or you may have to flirt a bit with a guy you're interested in to show him, "yes, I like you, you can flirt back or ask me out." Give them a nudge to approach you. And if you're like me where you're in an area where interracial dating is taboo or hard to find? Look outside the area! It might mean a long distance relationship for a while, but don't get stuck or worse, settle with a black guy just because no one else wants you.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

They do sis, they do 😒.

Nobody rejects a person because of color, in any sense, unless they’re prejudice or don’t have a preference for that in dating culture. That is all.

Tbh, superficial is included because

s- too many are superficial today.

I cannot tell you how many ask these dumb questions, but you have to it know, too.

“size matter”…. “Into ‘thin white guys’ ”… “into black guys”…. “Into bbc”…. “does height matter”…..

it’s all the stupidest thing, really.

If people wanna fuck, they will and would. Literally, someone rejecting a person because they want to have the same sexual tastes is strange to me. Like for one time things or short-term, I don’t see why anyone has to be so picky.

Let it be sis. Take up modeling because you absolutely can… (if you wish to). Self love. Enjoy life- absolutely live it up to the fullest. Fuck some guys if you wish or find one who will be dedicated- trust me, SEXUAL guys don’t see color in any other way than a ‘variety of a woman,’ he can enjoy sexually. That’s all there is to it.

Personally, I love men of all cultures. Whenever they ask me that- I puke green/ short/ lukewarm/ x amount of degrees Fahrenheit…. 😒 ridiculous

Anyways, much love 🤟 💕 ^-^

Graydon · Accepted Answer

For my honest personal opinion, black was never really my type. Not racist or anything, nothing against black people but I did once asked a therapist and he believed that it was probably because for some people, they just get so comfortable with their skin color after having it all their life & it’s just a natural thought to want to picture your significant other as having the same skin color as you (for some people again I guess definitely not that way with everything), but really you just never know when you may suddenly flip. Love at first sight, doesn't seem to happen all too often, only in the movies

AaronKrieger · Accepted Answer

I am going to admit that it would intimidate me, but that doesn't mean it'd cause me to not date one though.

The intimidation would just be there due to a lack of experience/ignorance and just me being young. For example, like the cultural differences when talking to your family and it potentially being awkward. I feel like the race difference would be the elephant in the room.

Anyway, if we got chemistry and I find your appearance attractive, then I'm willing to see if we're compatible. A girl's race isn't going to change that.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The way to avoid rejection is to make the guy come to you, and you don't have to look like Tyra Banks to get guys to pick you out of the crowd, I know many men that go for modest normal looking girls over very good looking women who like to show off their good looks and get attention from others. Having a good personality will make you a valuable asset, regardless of what you look like and if you are already good looking, it will make you an even better asset to those who have no shortage of beautiful options but can't find modest ones.

MrOracle · Answer

I'm only half white (and half Mexican), but I have dated black girls before and would again.

AviatorTom · Answer

I know lots of white guys who date black women.

Avicenna · Answer

Lots of white men would happily date you

sheenagwapa · Answer

i'm sorry... you can wear makeup or improve your style to have better chqnce. i see white men in a relationship with black so maybe yoy just have not found the right one tet.

not that i'm promoting white skin but in my country fair skin is a big business. i often hear comment even from men callinh a girl pretty just because of fairer skin maybe i just have different taste but when i look at the woman for instqnce i find her reqlly unattractive.

there are also a lot of unattractive fair skinned women who feels so pretty and look down on women who have darker skin tone but the latter are actually pretty

i don't really like pity party and beinh politically correct i'm more on solution so my suggestion is maybe yoy can focus on your facial skin to make it fairer. currently i'm usinh garbier 30x vitamic c booster serum on my face. i'm sure you're not broke like me so you can maintain this. i am so broke i cannot even but feminine wash and all the more i cannot but this again. i really hope the demons infiltrating my life right now can decide to get the fuck out already and go to hell

goid luck!

BigWhiteWolf87 · Answer

No.

Because most black men aren't respectable towards their women. They tend to be more abusive, more controlling, more disrespectful, etc. & statistically more prone to violent crime in general making them all around more dangerous to be involved with.

Abuse is many, many times higher among African Americans than white culture - 2018 3 to 5 black woman were murdered by their partner per 1 white woman.

In NYC alone abuse statistics for African Americans is 30 to 50% in ALL categories of domestic abuse and it is statistically the MOST DOCUMENTED ethnicity in the city for abuse. Let that sink in, that's in one city. Now multiple that by ALL cities in the USA.
https://www.nyc.gov/assets/ocdv/downloads/pdf/ENDGBV-Intersection-DV-Race-ethnicity-Sex.pdf

And then culturally - if their parents immigrated from Africa or even some of the Caribbean countries - men are raised women are nothing more than their property.

Anonymous · Answer

Is your preference white men? I think a lot of this boils down to the area you are in. I know that I personally grew up in an area where most of the white men I know actually prefer black women. All of my brothers are dating/married to some really gorgeous black women. My cousin (male) is currently engaged to a very handsome black man. So, it may be an area issue? Though I obviously can't say that for sure. Don't let people's preferences keep you down. You're gorgeous and you will find someone when the time is right.

Anonymous · Answer

Not usually in some areas yes it is a good thing...

Most places they just think your trying to marry up.

This is from black men and Hispanics doing this constantly. The black men are just wanting baby mommy's not wives and often share aids and stds!

The Mexican women well just want a green card then divorce after 2 kids...

It is not you they hate or react to but past trama for Thier families or friends.

Trust me it took me moving a few times and close friends to help teach me that it is not racism just preference and past family trama.

As if being a black women is not hard enough in itself! Besides white guys are hot!

stepyo99 · Answer

I realize that black men are some of the least loyal men of any race, but I don't see why that means you have to fall for the race-mixing propaganda being pushed by globohomo. Despite the averages being worse, there's still plenty of upstanding young black men out there for you to date.

G-Daz · Answer

Yes, but personally I'm very attracted to black girls. They're hot!.

I know there's a lot of white guys that seem against the idea which i personally don't understand but i imagine it's they perceive there's no similarity.

What is your struggle?

godfatherfan · Answer

The fact is we cannot control what we are attracted to or what turns us on. I am just not interested in dating women other then white and maybe the Spanish/Mexican that , for the most part, look white. It isn't that I don't find women of color attractive, I do. Just not dating attractive. The only black woman that I ever saw myself dating or having sex with was Vanessa Williams. Wow is she gorgeous.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm light skinned, and in Middle America they can't really figure out what I am (actually bi racial son of immigrants from both sides of the Mediterranean), but I've dated several, and lived in majority Black cities all over the country. This doesn't go for Black females necessarily (and tbh, in Middle America, it's mostly White trash who put off that B's ghetto stereotype), but ANYONE who puts on that ghetto annoying garbage is OUT OF MY PRESENCE. That includes guys. I know of several who won't date Black women because of that... but tbh, it really depends on location. Black folks in Sacramento don't act like they do in Memphis. People who haven't traveled, usually assume that. So I'm going by how you present yourself. I'm in a Middle America state right now, a lot of White females around, and they're straight trash if there ever was. So if one's traveled, they'll know better than to assume that.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

No, I wouldn't. I was in the past, but not anymore. I'm desperate, but not THAT desperate. Black people were cooler before Obama resurrected the black nationalist movement. I'm not surprised White dudes don't wanna date you. It's the black nationalist movement that has destroyed black people's image.

Albertio411 · Answer

One time my friend who is a girl who dates black guys thought It was a good idea to put me on a blind date with a black girl I had to be polite since she told me at the last second I went out with her came back and then told her on the next day I wasn't interested then I talked to my friend who was all confused I said look i know you're attracted to black men but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to black girls I appreciate you trying to help me get a date but next time invite one of your white girlfriends that you have tried to hook up with black guys and she didn't like that lol

Lliam · Answer

Sure. I'm white. I've met some very beautiful and sweet black women. I got along really well with one in particular at work. We went out a few times. She was separated from her husband and still married, though, so I never took it any further.

I've met others, but felt that there were cultural differences.

abc3643 · Answer

Yes. In the mid-1990s, I very much wanted to date this Black woman who is the current "Doctor World North Africa". Sadly, I was friend-zoned, but she was a wonderful friend.

richardcory · Answer

I'm married, so not now. Assuming I was dating - yes. Its interesting though - I find a higher percentage of white women attractive than I do black women, but I also find the most attractive (to me) black women to be as attractive as the most attractive white women.

Bricealan · Answer

@BellaAbeni I would and have. My last long term woman friend was from Trinidad, and she was a light skinned, very pretty work associate. Prior to that, I went out one time with a black girl in my Graduate school class, and where we ate, some people treated us in a shitty fashion. I would not hesitate to date a black woman I found attractive.

Deformate · Answer

Of course I'd date a black woman. I imagine some people wouldn't because black women aren't their type in the same way some don't like blondes or redheads, but other than that, I can't see anyone having issues with it. Its just personal preference and nobody is the same.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure. I spent 10 years with someone that practically was a black woman. She was from India but, even her own family made fun of how dark she was and told her no one would ever marry her because she's so dark. I know quite a few black people that are nowhere near as dark as her.

Shortcake5 · Answer

I have and would again, just not  those  specific black women again. Although I'm only one of two white men in my friend groups who have dated black women before, so yeah that's not a lot of options compared to how many of us have dated white women..

JHNS98 · Answer

It's a non-issue for me. Sweden is a much less racialized country than the USA is, even though our current government also is into the culture war stuff...

I actually matched with a black girl on a dating app (not Tinder) some time ago. We had a good conversation, both in text and video. But I let too much time go by, so she met someone else in the meantime...

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Is that the reason they give or are you drawing that conclusion? If the former, I'd say pick better guys ;) Would you really want to be with a guy like that anyway?

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not racist if you don’t find someone else attractive. But it is racist if you do find them attractive but assume a bunch of negative stereotypes hence reject them for that reason.

Most white guys aren’t going to flat out say they just don’t find black women attractive nowadays. Even if they aren’t racist at all they are scared of looking racist if they said that. Our insane “modern” culture doesn’t let them be honest.

Andres77 · Answer

My first two wives were black. I broke up with a black girlfriend to marry my second wife.

I was willing. Culture wasn’t the issue. It was individual responsibility (read that: the lack thereof) that destroyed my marriages. I initiated divorce on my ex’s.

chadbdullah · Answer

Race doesn't matter, just have a big, loving, compassionate heart and good intentions and deeds in mind, those who aren't dating you just for your race are actually doing you a favor by showing you who they really are in the beginning so you don't have to waste your precious time to find out.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl, you look gorgeous! We can’t control who we are attracted to, I don’t think all these guys rejected you because of your ethnicity. Maybe you’re really shy? Or just not their type? Attraction depends on a lot of factors, not just your race. And drop that skincare routine, because your skin is glowing!!❤️

eterna1drag0n · Answer

I'm not generally attracted to black women. Just not my type. But every once in a while, I'll see one I think is attractive. I'm also not attracted to Asian women. Latinas are my type.

snowboarder720 · Answer

I’m currently engaged to a black woman. Don’t be discouraged because a few white hits have turned you down. We are out there!

Sour-rose · Answer

hell no. listen, i'm not sayin you or me are not denied of... a good man. But some black women are black bitches (white included) but ya know us black folks, we can get crazy.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't mind dating a black woman if she's a good lady, what's the difference between a white and a black woman? They are the same to me...
Her color won't make me happy, it's what she have inside that makes me happy and comfortable

DNelson · Answer

Yes I would be open to dating a black woman. I am man of faith and and being a believer would be the first thing I would be looking for in a woman. It difficult finding a woman you are attracted to, respect and have similar beliefs with. You can't let color get in the way.

Anonymous · Answer

im white and i lost my virginity to a man that is 98% African, dark skin so yes... but am waiting for marrige now... i have 1 bodycount i regret deeply but not because he was black lol.. because of my religion:)

jcoffey612 · Answer

I would date a black woman. I’ve never been with or dated a black woman, but I’m very much attracted to them. Skin color should never be a barrier. I would date a woman of any color, but I’d really like to be with a black woman. There’s just something about black women that really gets me.

Jsph158 · Answer

I’m half white half Mexican. But I look more white then anything 😭. But yeah I would personally some black girls be rlly hot🤷‍♂️. And also how do you know they are rejecting you because you’re black? It could be just they aren’t interested in you and nothing to do with race. Although I don’t see many black girl white guy couples.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I've been trying to get black women to notice me for years. One of the few that ever did though, turned out to be a closet bi drug addict. Seems I just can't win.

Billlewis · Answer

I've dated/served Black women almost exclusively for many years, because they're often more demanding and more likely to be comfortable beating my bare bottom until I'm in tears.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Wait what? No way! I mean i always look at black girls in uk, but they are too Manly so i never seen a change of me even "dreaming" of being with one.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I wouldn't have any problem. In fact, I like this type of genetic set-up. But... I'd hesitate to make an own initial approach out of ''fear'' that it could be seen as ''objectifying''.

turnpost · Answer

Its more the BET culture and toxic culture the African Women have that is more off putting more then anything.

Also AA women usually more selective as well. Asians and White are usually cross out. If he is short another cross out.

cth2188 · Answer

Current mate is white have mixed kids.. everyone has a preference.. some prefer vanilla and some prefer chocolate.. just be mindful

SnowedIn · Answer

Yep, totally. Has to do with her and not her skin color.

Counterclocking · Answer

Not to be mean or a racist, but as a white man, I’m not interested in interracial dating. I’m only interested in dating white women because that’s all I’m attracted to.

Pohjolan · Answer

Open yes. Also did they specifically tell you that it was because you are black?

I mean let's be honest. Your profile picture suggests that your looks are not that appealing.

But there are also pretty black women.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sure, where I live there aren't any black women that live anywhere close. I out in the country, it's very rural.

ImHere22 · Answer

Absolutely! I mean, I am married to a Black woman... and I'm white, lol

Anonymous · Answer

Just as long as her family doesn’t treat me lesser because I’m light skinned. Dated a Dominican in HS and her family was extremely racist toward white people.

236color · Answer

No, but only because I'm married. If I was single, sure.

DextroShade · Answer

I'm married but if I were single I would not because black women have very high rates of obesity and single motherhood while also having a reputation of being masculine, rude, and disagreeable.

WeirdoFriendly · Answer

I'd absolutely be open to it. Ebony women are high on my list of dating. Have I ever dated a black woman? Not yet. But I wouldn't turn down the opportunity to date a black woman.

Paul09 · Answer

If we connect, yes I would. I have difficulty finding any woman interested in me that I'm interested in back. This world is full of many choices. So people pass on a lot of good quality people.

BrickBiggems · Answer

Yes as I white person I am open to dating black women.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Unfortunately, many white guys don’t like black women. We’re just not their preference. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Hithere4567 · Answer

I'm sorry to hear that. Ugh they suck. I would, that's a no brainer.

slatyb · Answer

I would if she were secular. I don't date believers.

RHK36 · Answer

Chasing the wrong guys. Most men don't care about your skin color, they too horny. You should be dating a latino anyway, we better 😌

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Dating as in have sex with Sure.  Marry and have a serious relationship with  nope.

gothbxtch · Answer

not attracted to women but if i was, yes of course! i’m sorry you’ve had to deal with a bunch of racist white men

ArrowNik · Answer

Yes, I even think they are more pretty than white girls, maybe cause i see more white girls around me, but for me the ginger hair are the best, followed by black girls

Anonymous · Answer

That's me and my partner now he's has light skin and straight blonde hair and I have brown skin and dark curly hair but things are going great between us

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