How can I break the Unrequited Love Cycle 😔?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed an ongoing and very emotionally damaging pattern in my non existent love life. I've had past men show some interest and I go and live in a fantasy of how they are the one, and they will ask me out and proceed on. I'm very intuitive and sensitive and I assume almost every time that they like me more than they really do. I become obsessed and I'm deep denial of the truth. I have limerence effect, and I deny any rejection. It's almost like a high, I know the truth that I've been rejected. My whole life I feel as though no man truly choose me. My ex was horrible, lied, cheated and was not my friend. I also had a difficult and painful childhood with an alcoholic father and abusive mother.

I want to END this toxic pattern. I've tried, I set firmly boundaries and know my worth but sometimes when there is a hint of potential I run with it and scare the guy away, and look like a Fool!!

[ventustalks]

Not the safest way as it hurts to suppress how you feel but you should give as much as you get. One of them will surely keep adding more and more to what they give and you will find someone that you can share your emotions. I believe it is harmful to open up to someone at an instant, so I drew the line there and made it clear to potentials. My boyfriend understood the assignment and went all the way, so he took me all to himself. I am not searching, I am being searched. We both are prizes to each other. We've been together for months now.

[Asker]

Thanks, well said!!

[OddBeMe]

Stop thinking there’s a “one”. There’s just the guy you always want to be around. Period.