Rules for Tinder photos.
Oh don't know if you're looking for serious or casual.
Those sites are an exploitative cash grab. Back in the day, you used to get some reasonable matches on them. However, my impression is that they have been cynically molded to get weak men to pay for them. Paying men are thus presumably sending out superlikes and higher up in the woman's card stack, leaving non paying men even less likely to get a match.
You've just had an inkling what they do to men. In your own words, you've always considered yourself an attractive man, and yet a little time using this app and you're questioning them. They are harming your self esteem.
They're a lazy way to date. A cheap dopamine high. You're better than this.
Ask yourself why you're not putting the effort to people women in real life.
Unfortunately, normal.
Dating apps are mostly men, and unfortunately that means you're competing with a lot of other people.
Try not to let it get you down. That's kinda how those apps (especially Tinder) are built - they want you feeling undesirable so you pay them money for extra features they say will get you more matches.
Only the top 5% of guys get swiped and you are only good looking and good-looking is not good enough. You must be super hot.
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That's pretty normal for dating apps. If I were your age, I'd be trying to meet women IRL.
10 likes a week is pretty good... why are you complaining?
How many women are you looking for? If you have a handful of matches every week that is more female interest than could be expected in real life even with an active social life. It depends if follow-up is possible and you can turn them into dates and ultimately make the catch. You have not talked about this important part of the process.
If you are only on dating apps to get validation from likes and a collection of attractive matches then I think it is just the wrong objective.
Do not compare yourself to women there. In dating there is no equality.
First thought is you could do with better pictures. First pic you're not looking at camera, 3rd pic looks very amature. What's the hand gesture in the steak eating pic?
An hour with a pro photographer would give you some better pics. Then you need to look at your bio. Also depends which app and what you're after. Tinder is a meat market and subjectively the top 10% of men would get most hits. Something like match, e-harmony, even Bumble I found it easier to get a match as people were looking for more than a hookup
It's normal. Going on a dating site is like playing roulette with multiple guns and the barrels are filled with bots seeking to get interested in a cam site, scammers posing as women to get your identity, inactive accounts, women getting flooded in their inbox, and what the industry calls, "honeypots" aka fake profiles designed to get you to purchase a premium account.
I know people from work that found love online, four out of the five of which got married and one that lives together with his girlfriend.
However, it's rather difficult. I'd recommend still having the accounts but, also looking IRL. You never know if you can actually win the lottery in a sea of monsters.
The number of likes and matches you get on dating apps doesn't determine your worth as a person. Your value is not defined by how many people swipe right on you. You are worthy of love and affection, regardless of how many likes you get on a dating app.
It's important to remember that dating apps are just a tool for meeting people. They're not a reflection of your worth as a person. If you're not getting many likes or matches, don't take it personally. It doesn't mean that you're not attractive or desirable. It just means that you haven't found the right people yet.
Keep putting yourself out there and meeting new people. Eventually, you'll find someone who sees your worth and loves you for who you are.
My personal opinion is your photos need work. It's the subject matter. You really have little to none. Nothing to suggest WHO you are. I have one on mine at a ballgame, at a concert, at my nieces birthday party, at octoberfest. Etc. And not just me... with my friends. I'm not saying you don't have friends. But you can't see any of them. For all they know your only friends is a dog.
You ain't a bad looking guy. That's a good start. Now show her people can actually stand being around you.
Good luck man!
I think you have excellent photos. You get one chance if anyone gets your profile you have a good slide chance because they see you having fun in all angles, along with being attractive. If there is any improvement I can ask for, go for adding the last 3 photos, there is nothing to lose. Also if your profile speaks to more than shown, even better.
Getting 10+ a week is good territory but there is some more room to double that. Depending on where you live and all!
I luckily missed out on this revolution but as a marketer who is paid to get “clicks” for clients, you need to know who you’re going after.
Like a lot of my clients, you’re probably not targeting, which you should be. Do you want a lady who likes clubs? Have your profile show the club scene. More a homebody, show that.
You can’t attractive everyone at once.
" I only get roughly 10 or so likes a week and only occasional matches (a handful a week at most) Is this normal?"
Getting the amount of responses you are getting is very unusual for a male on a dating site. I've been told that for every like or message a male gets a female will get 30+.
Don't worry about it. Your time will come.
You look good and attractive. Dating app can damage guy's self image for sure. You are not the only one. There are some videos online that guys discussed this topic. The amounts of like one gets means nothing. The quality of those people who like us is important.
Put it this way: guys get two brownies a month on apps.
Girls get 30 brownies a day but 29 of them are laced with laxatives but they don't know which ones.
Dating apps just don't work so don't think much of it.
It means 1. You're not flashing cash or photos of you in a ride that resembles a rapper's ride. 2. You don't have fuckboy gym photos of you flexing. 3. You don't have the 5 o clock shadow, young George Clooney look with the grin. 4. You don't have photos of you in exotic places, insinuating you have a lot of money. Meaning 5. You're honest, you're not rich, famous or have a big ego, so you're just another guy in their eyes.
Are you on dating aftes to get as many Liles as possible, and get your ego boosted? Or is it to find someone? The right one?
That's completely normal. While women only swipe 20% of the time on dating apps men swipe 80% of the time on potencial matches. Keep swiping.
you're not too bad but you still pale in comparison to absolute hottest of guys who are getting the vast majority of the likes and matches
all dating apps have more men than woman so you do the math, also women are only picking the top 15% of men even if they look like Jabba The Hut,
you will always have better luck in person unless your top 15%
That's definitely the reason. And for people that tell you its your bio or what you say that's the problem, watch this vid
Sometimes dating sites, want to make you pay money so it hides your profile
I have infinitely more success in real life than on dating apps. Literally. I had ZERO luck on apps.
