Considering today's society, around what age would you think it would be officially weird for someone to have never had any romance, dates, etc?

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird if you make it past high school, without having any romance or dates

Around 19-20

21-23

24 or 25

26-29

Anything past 30 is odd to me

[Drumlin2001]

I know I was "weird", having not really dated till 35.
I got close to a few women over the years, from early teens to mid twenties. Kinda gave up after that.
But who cares. Since losing my virginity nearly 6 years ago I now have 2 kids and am engaged. I have a stable job, house that will hopefully be out forever home. Now a normal life of a 40 something.
Who cares if I was a late bloomer. Society would be a whole lot better if we stopped judging people, and got on with our own lives.

[jeffend888]

You won. “A normal life of a 40 something” is 100 percent true.

I lost my virginity at 19 and I have none of the things you mentioned above. I’d trade places with you in less than a second.

[Unit1]

Tough luck. I managed to escape my toxic family and a totalitarian shithole by the time I was 27 years old. There was no time nor opportunity to date whilst surviving things like poverty, starvation and medical conditions. And I don't speak their language.

Now I am 28 and free and I have little skills in getting girls. I know what to say but not what to do.

With my very complicated life comes my personal opinion: Probably no such age as "too late to be in order". I know for me I am way beyond that already. No can do and I had no choice. I wouldn't be surprised if I die loveless.

[Unit1]

Having done what I've done is a real achievement. Only to regain basic human rights. People are born with those in Europe and in America.

[Anonymous]

By age 20 you should have figured out how the game works, certainly by age 30, but the problem people seem to refuse to want to. If the things you're doing don't ever work, figure out what the right things are. Have a girl help you with this, she'll tell you exactly what you need to do.

[_puzaa_]

I have some friends who have never dated because they are extremely picky. Since I know them well, I feel like their trauma plays a big role as well. But 24-25 is when I would start looking for a person who wants stability and I think relationships do teach us a lot about ourselves

[coachTanthony]

There will be more men in there 20s who are virgins then any other time in history all because of the internet. Back in my 20's we competed with other men at bars and clubs not bars and clubs and the internet-social media.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No point in considering today's society for a reference point of "normal".

Hookup culture is for retards, and most people date and have sex way too soon and are not picky enough.

The goal should be to be the opposite of today's society.

[EricSummer]

The age is higher now than in the 1980s (just before the AIDS shock) when the pressure was intense as of 16 and you would have been weird at 18. Now it is as of 21 or 25, somewhere in that range.

At that age, the game typically changes and a guy can attract women with success and resources. However, constant rejection in the education phase may have damaged him by then.

[Kaamraj]

Situation has changed since the rise of social media and dating apps. There are more men now who are lonely, without a date, virgins then in the recent past and women are living in sexual attention abundance. And this is all after the best attempts made by the average man. So I think and I would advice the average man to accept reality and work on themselves get their money, looks, and status up and enjoy what the 10% of men enjoy without commitment.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, this social standard makes us anxious, we shouldn’t promote the mindset that at what age, we should X. We need to build a society that people are comfortable having whatever experiences. We shouldn’t build a society that has a non constructive standards.
Setting a deadline is just making people uncomfortable, too competitive.
That is why today’s society is terrible, too competitive, too stressful and too judgmental. The society is sick.

[Opinion Owner]

Someone can never have first kiss at 50, I don’t wanna judge them because I know they have their reason for not having this experience. Either their physical appearance or anything, and it’s certainly something that makes them uncomfortable about. So, please people don’t judge, don’t think it’s weird.

[Opinion Owner]

Just because the society is sick doesn’t mean you’re weird. Sometimes it’s something you haven’t done that deserves praises, forget about the social rules made by “most” people that are just different than you

[Anonymous]

Considering today's society, people will judge you as weird just for breathing. F*** what people say. If they have a problem with it at ANY age, they're the one with the problem, not you. There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person, regardless of how long that takes. Whether you be a man or a woman.

[inhua]

apparently it's high school

no better time for boys to prove their "manhood" and girls get to stick it up to the patriarchy even though they give the patriarchy what it really wants

[Anonymous]

These days I would not think it odd for someone to have never had any romance, dates, etc, and you can lay that very firmly at the doors of society and feminists in Western Societies, as they have totally wrecked the interaction between the sexes.

[BasedBaeBecca]

In this day and age, I think it becomes a bit weird after 20-25 if you have not had any romance. Maybe you're picky, or just busy? But if it's not for a certain reason...

[slatyb]

It's never "officially weird." It sounds like you would like to be dating but are finding it difficult. What have you tried? How many women do you greet by name?

[Nikki1989]

Anything older than 16 and I would start to worry.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d say 35+ is a bit surprising to have not have sex. 25+ is surprising to have not at least had one girlfriend/boyfriend or been kissed

[gothbxtch]

never. or maybe 150 years old plus, because no one has ever lived that long.

[Anonymous]

Like never ever having one single date? Personally maybe early 20s, even mid 20s. It would also depend why.

[aquamarine321]

I’m todays society you’re expected before you leave high school

[Grovermint]

Well, the consensus is that I'm messed up, lol

[RichM371]

These days I’m surprised if a girl or guy is still a virgin after high school

[Unit1]

For men it's too easy for their liking. You'll see.

[DarkWinterNights]

None of the above tbh.

[jahaims]

Age doesn't make it weird. The reasons do.

[Asker]

If someone said they didn't have a particular reason, or couldn't explain it, is that weird to you?

[jahaims]

That means they are lying.

[sheenagwapa]

50 years old

[Anonymous]

Forty five?