Was delighted at idea of being single forever without kids but this guy wants me?

[Anonymous]

So I can’t tell whether he just wants me for sex and we are just at the texting stage right now but he always comes back after brief pauses and we are planning to meeting in November. Any advice on this as I’m not attracted to him right now. I like the thrill of having crushes on guys and the infatuation that brings with the freedom of being single living alone having my own bed no kids and it’s just bliss. Also I don’t have sex so no worries of the risks of that. But then I can’t break this guys heart and I don’t know could I have both at same time so keep my current life see him as well? Of course I don’t act on my infatuation towards other guys but still gives same sort of feelings as being in a relationship without the cons. Obviously kids is a completely different topic…

[strateguy632]

test him , lie that, " you won't have sex until wedding but we can kiss, but not more". see if he stays. then maybe if you feel like it surprise him.

[Asker]

Great. He may think I’m just saying the marriage thing without being that serious. Maybe I can say I believe in not having sex before I’ve been in a relationship with someone for a at least a year?

[Marcuslrh]

Sounds like your just playing games with the poor guy, if he just wants sex he is playing the long game have you told him your happy being single your not interested in sex either because you will soon find out what he wants probably hoping for a relationship but that's not what you want so what are you doing to the poor guy it sounds pretty sick to me.

[Asker]

Because I don’t know whether it’s what I want/ if I like him… also don’t know if he’ll just have sex with me and then run

[Marcuslrh]

You said it yourself your not attracted to him so what are you hanging around for just some attention?

[Asker]

Because I feel I may lose something that I wished I never lost as could start to be attracted to him? Also don’t want to break his heart if he’s in it for more than sex

[Marcuslrh]

How could you think that when your not even attracted to him if your not attracted to him it's not gonna magically just change. Break his heart? its not like you have been in a relationship together for years the longer you just lead him on the more your gonna break his heart if that's your mindset.

[Asker]

I feel I could be losing a good thing though. That’s true though the longer I leave it the more it’ll break his heart. Need to make the decision asap or try one date but I know what I’m like it tends to be the cliche love at first site for me or at least something there

[Marcuslrh]

Yeah nothing wrong with going on a first date but best make your decision after that asap whether your interested I'm sure you will know the answer after you meet.

[Asker]

Yes exactly I’ll know immediately after the first date