I met this successful and very attractive older man and he has always been very considerate, sensible and respectful towards me but doesn't hide his attraction and has been pursuing me for a bit over 3 months now. I am very attracted too but wary due to what a female employee of his told me of his past. He has quite the reputation of a womanizer which I am not surprised of since he totally checks the boxes of overconfidence and charm and has the physical attributes to be able to do so.
My question is: is he being a very successful manipulator, playing a game with me and changing his whole demeanor to adapt to what I like in the hopes of seducing me or could he be looking for a serious long-term relationship since he is older and being a gentleman with me? Should I avoid him to not take any risk? I am looking for my future husband and father of my kids, nothing else, no dating for fun for me.
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Let’s put it this way, where is he applying his energy? If he’s flirting that much with you then you can know he’s doing it with other people.
But why don’t you want to have fun on a date?
English is not my first language. What I meant is that I do not want to date around until I find a better option. I want to start a family
I also have a goal of starting a family. But you can still go on dates and not be committed to being engaged on date #1. How else can you connect and get to know someone?
I absolutely understand and agree with your point. I am just very serious in my dating intentions and fear getting emotionally invested in a player
Yep I can understand that. But I’d say honestly your fear can hold you back from opportunity and learning. If you wait for perfect wouldn’t you miss out on life?
If they’re over 30 and still the same, no