Boyfriend texted a girl behind my back asking her is she single while me and him are in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Okay I know I'm gonna get judged but I looked through my boyfriends phone last night. He's been so sneaky with it lately and I just felt something in my gut was telling me too. We have been together 9 months, baby on the way, he's 33 I'm 30. He texted a local girl on Instagram in March saying " holy fu*k wow are you single ' then on his tiktok he has saved videos local girls (not even celebrities) when he told me he's not like that. In really hurt over the text to that girl. What should I do? He will go mad and blame me if he knows I went on his phone. Also last night he was drunk and annoying me, talking about a guy he knows. He said "ph he gets gorgeous drop dead gorgeous girls, they be way out of my league. That also annoyed and hurt me 😔

[RoseySaraah]

Him showing his true colors! Bet he never wanted kids with you! Baby sure maybe but not kids!

I'd slap him and toss him out of the house! Glad you checked his phone!

So many guys chest like that! Drooling over the internet while breaking our hearts!

Be mad be jealous he is hurting and shaming you girl!

[WilliamMay30]

Well generally speaking you shouldn’t have to look into someone’s phone unless it brings up suspicious behavior in a relationship with cause emotionally. You did it right on that degree so I’m with you there.


Your next thing would be not even to say anything and see where he stands emotionally in the relationship. If he is disrespectful or distant in a toxic way then he is looking around for hookup or new partner just because he feels obligated because he already has emotional security in this relationship.


You should take not you don’t want to be with somebody who does this secretly behind your back in any relationship.


You need to cut him as a future partner and learn and move on. Player move on his part. Don’t fix it or try to because you have feelings. That’ll just give him more reasons to keep doing it.


Bite the bullet and find better if you know your self worth.