I can't get laid because of my height, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

İ'm 5'7 and %90 of women want a tall man, so what should i do

[4ngelic]

option 1: dont do anything and accept your height, your not a midget. 5'7 isn't as hot as 6'0 that's for sure but its not a height that should make dating hard for you. if you were 5'3 would be a diff story. you can get bitches but if you want make your chances higher then you probably need to go for girls who are shorter

option 2: try to visually enhance your height like mainly wear shoes with chunky soles (they're in rn anyways). you'll be 5'8 or something with them. if you go even more chuny maybe 5'9. you can get hair styles that make you look a bit taller, wear hats. and lie about you're height, just say you're 5'8-5'9

option 3: get leg lengthening surgery. most people in america have never heard of it before but yea its real and its very very popular in others parts of the world. it works really well but takes like a year to give you your results and you're kinda handicapped for that time and have titanium screws in your legs, but it can make you easily 5'11-6'1. if your so insecure and that seems like a good idea go for it. here's a vid about it:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gRHpCXgdhR8

[4ngelic]

also forgot to add that if you can't get laid is probably not just your height. maybe your shy? but anyways if you feel like it is a problem you can't try to compensate with others things like hitting the gym, trying to glow up your face and fashion, etc

[4ngelic]

*can try not can't

[AlbantheGreat]

The average height of American men is 5'9, so you're 2 inches shorter than the average American man, nothing catastrophic. If you would be like 4'9, it would be a real issue, though.

So, what to do?

1) Stop Tinder. Too many men for too few women. Tinder is a scam. And, on average, women want long term relationships, whereas Tinder is a hook up app.

2) You can't please everybody. If a woman doesn't want to date you because of height, move on.

3) In countries where there was polygyny (a man had at least 2 wives), the man was one of the whealthiest men of the country. So, get a job.

4) People are interested about interesting people. So, get friends (IRL), get hobbies, learn. Find your way.

5) You can't change your height, so it's better to accept to accept it.

6)"%90 of women want a tall man". Taller than them, according to many women, and the average woman is like 5'3, so you're taller than them. But I can understand your point of view: bigots are more vocal, and humans tend to have a negativity bias (they remember more easily bad things than good things).

And I already heard that kind of discourse:"women want that, I'm sure. source: my manhood". In the red pill theory, women want an alpha male, but many women disliked Andrew Tate. The thing is, Some women prefer, some other prefer this...

[Anonymous]

It’s not your height, if you want to get laid you have to believe that you can first. Women can sense when you’re not confident and it turns them off. Try to let go of your nerves when you talk to them. Don’t use pick up lines and don’t try to act like someone you’re not, women won’t fall for it. You can say anything to women within reason, I usually say something along the lines of “you’re very attractive, I wanted to come say hi…” and continue the conversation from there. Nothing wrong with wanting to get laid but don’t make women feel like this is the only reason you’re talking to them. Nothing feels sleazier than someone talking to you just to get access to your body. Be direct when you’re talking to women, this is the part where your confidence is measured, don’t sound unsure when speaking. Your words and conversation should flow like you’re talking to one of good friends. What would you talk to her about if you couldn’t ask her where she’s from or what her job is? This is a good habit to get into as those questions can sometimes feel like low effort. Good luck to you.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Are you looking to date? Or just get laid? Cuz it’s most likely not your height that’s the deterrent. If you’re going after women just for sex and they’re turning you down, it could just be because they don’t want to be seen as someone to just have sex with🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

I want noth

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Noth? Did you mean both? Still, date someone because you like them, want to get to know them, don’t push sex right away or too soon…

[MrOracle]

You need to stand out from the crowd, in a positive way. If you aren't super handsome, you need to dress well (stylish or upscale), or you need to be funny, or have an entertaining talent (artistic or musical or something). And you need to have buckets of confidence, and shrug off rejection with ease.

If you are just average, then your height will be a deal-breaker, so you need a couple of area where you are above average and stand out. That's how you compensate. And, no, it won't be enough for every woman, but it will be enough for plenty of them.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I agree this.

[Swede16]

@MrOracle and I almost always agree and he is a good source for opinion.
Personally, 5'9 is not the worst and to be honest most ALL of my taller female friends love just about that height. If you are ok with a 6ft model woman type. YOU ARE WHAT THEY WANT!
However MrOracle makes important points that any man should hear regardless of height. Being sharply dressed and keeping a clean home and car are ESSENTIAL for any kind of moderately classed woman. And that means 24/7. Figure out a style that you like and make sure to embody it every single day. NO WALMART TRIPS IN PJS. This disapline with yourself will help you weed out some of the less desirable girls while attracting others with the confidence that you have because you take the time to take care of yourself and your standards. Its literally like 8 birds with 1 stone. lol.
BUT WARNING!!!
DO NOT TAKE ADVICE ON WHAT LOOKS GOOD OR WHAT WOMEN LIKE FROM ANY repeat ANY WOMEN!!! I see the irony in that statement but I assure you. Not your Mom, your girlfriend, your sister, your best friend, a stripper, Tyra Banks, or Betty White (RIP). NO WOMEN ADVICE
We can't help it we will catagorize you in.00000234 secs and give you the best advice we can from our warped bias opinion of your best possible ever tier. Its FUBAR. I know.
Best to take a little step off comfort and go somewhere or ask someone you don't know very well but you see that they have confidence and style and success in their life. Trust me when I say that it is scary but Men are much more helpful and accepting than any woman could be for another Man.

[AviatorTom]

Simple... date the other 10%

[Adaeva]

You should accept your status in life and live with it. Throughout all of human existence, a majority of men never reproduced. Therefore, that is what most men did. In fact, 8,000 years ago only one in 17 men reproduced. 8,000 Years Ago, https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success

Since obviously you are not the top 1 in 17, and perhaps not in the top 40%, you have no right to believe that you are entitled to sex.

[DarkLegacy]

Lol you actually believe the majority of men don't reproduce, lol wtf. Yes they do, it is in societies best interests that you don't reproduce

[DarkLegacy]

And you are not entitled to anything either, even less the more vile you are

[Adaeva]

@DarkLegacy It is your right to ignore facts and believe in fantasy.

[DarkLegacy]

That is what you are doing, you just a child

[Adaeva]

@DarkLegacy A child with brains that can Google to learn facts. A pity that you are older and are lacking in both.

[DarkLegacy]

You have to Google because you don't know, and yes you are just a child, a very naive and ignorant one.

[Adaeva]

@DarkLegacy I admit that I don't know everything but neither do you. The difference is, I know where and how to find the facts, and I will take the time to look up those facts. That is what you refuse to do. Instead, you choose to believe whatever you want the facts to be and ignore any references to the facts.

[Aphrodite801]

No man is entitled to sex. But obviously most men reproduce, as if what you were saying was true there wouldn’t be billions of people on earth. Wouldn’t make any sense.

[AlbantheGreat]

It means a woman, 8.000 years ago, had to share her husband with 16 other women. Ah, the dream of polygamy... But why would happiness matter, if you have the luck to bear the child of a high quality man, an alpha male?

[Adaeva]

@Aphrodite801 You are just another person that chooses to believe whatever pops into your pretty brain instead of going to the library or Googling to find the facts. I will give you the facts and cite the source but I expect you will choose to disregard Dr. Baumeister, a prominent social psychologist who teaches at Florida State University because that is not what pops into your excellent brain.

The “single most underappreciated fact about gender,” he said, is the ratio of our male to female ancestors. While it’s true that about half of all the people who ever lived were men, the typical male was much more likely than the typical woman to die without reproducing. Citing recent DNA research, Dr. Baumeister explained that today’s human population is descended from twice as many women as men. Maybe 80 percent of women reproduced, whereas only 40 percent of men did.
archive.nytimes.com/.../

Another source, "According to genetic research, 80% of women reproduce, but only 40% of men reproduce." https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=912673

[inhua]

@DarkLegacy she's not entirely wrong in this aspect

if you look at this from a historical perspective where there was no birth control back then, sex would've resulted in a pregnancy

the men who reproduced the most would've been kings, emperors, warlords. polygamy was quite common with high status men where they would have multiple wives and multiple concubines as side-chicks. these high status men provided a lifestyle in which the majority of other men couldn't compete with. child marriage was also a thing too in the past too

soldiers, merchants, peasants were lower on the social ladder. some could get women and some couldn't but these men were the biggest casualties of war and famine, sometimes dying too early before they could start a family

and then there are the slaves and prisoners of war who got nothing. women wouldn't associate with them at all

even from an evolutionary perspective, the females of every species tend to engage in natural eugenics that filter for good genes and weed out the bad genes. if you compare the humans of today to the humans of the Stone Age, humans today are taller and have better faces because women bred with men who had those traits

[Adaeva]

@AlbantheGreat Basically, I believe that is right. However, during the 3 million years of the Stone Age when survival was very difficult and one tribe leader couldn't support more than a half-dozen mates, it may be the remaining women in the tribe would select a mate that was dependable and a good provider for her and her children. Then when she was ovulating she would have sneaky sex with the Alpha male so that on average 25% of her children would be sired by the Alpha male. Moreover, occasionally all of her surviving children would be sired by the Alpha male. That was a time when 50% of children didn't make it past the first year. Therefore, the children most likely to survive would be children that inherited the best and strongest genes; that is, genes from the Alpha male. That would support the DNA evidence that only 40% of males produced surviving descendants. A higher percentage of males than 40% may have produced children. However, if their children didn't survive and reproduce, in effect, those males never reproduced.

[Adaeva]

After giving my answer more thought, it depends. Being rich and famous trumps being short. However, since you posted that doesn't include you. I did include "Back to the Future" Movie star, Michael Andrew Fox who is 5'4". It also included 14-year NBA star Tyrone Curtis "Muggsy" Bogues who is 5'3".

Since you are neither rich nor famous your lack of height will cause most women to reject you. However, there is another way. Assuming you are not fat, ugly, or deformed, just lower standards. Like you, obese women, especially obese women over thirty, have few choices. Therefore, they will have sex with you.

[MrOracle]

"In fact, 8,000 years ago only one in 17 men reproduced. 8,000 Years Ago"

This is true - but probably not for the reasons you imagined.

The reason this was true is because SO MANY MEN DIED YOUNG, in battle, during hunting, on the job (think: sailing, mining, etc.), during construction (house, barn, etc.), or during travel. And there was always famine and disease.

One of the main reasons for polygamy was that there was simply a shortage of men vs. women, because life was far more dangerous and it was largely young men who were the ones who went out to face those dangers - and a lot of them didn't survive it.

It was quite rare for a man to be in his late 20s without a wife - men were in demand because there weren't enough to go around. So many had been killed. Wounds that are very survivable today, with modern medicine, were a death sentence back then.

[Cuminginside]

I'm seriously inclined to disagree with you on the severe level however what's even more scary what if your theory is correct that is society is in trouble Why should people go work Why should they be their best etc etc if they're never going to taste or make the juice The irony here is your 14 years old we're talking about these issues without even trying. Ay yi yi!

[inhua]

@Cuminginside [ Why should people go work Why should they be their best ]

this is why religion and basic morals existed before liberalism dismantled them

before that it was all about family, community, sacrifice and appreciation. today it's all about hedonism, selfishness, narcissism, entitlement etc.

and you wouldn't be wrong to assert that society is in trouble because it is. this isn't an individual thing but rather a societal culture thing that needs to be shifted

[Cuminginside]

@inhua how was your go about shifting it because that seems like a iceberg dead ahead?

[inhua]

@Cuminginside one person can't change an entire culture alone. it requires a group effort by everyone

[Cuminginside]

@inhua everyone, well I guess hang on to the roller coaster going down!

[AlbantheGreat]

@adaeva
My point was about polygamy, and it doesn't make women their husbands have many partners happy, according to the testimonies.
I know the "1 lineage of men for 17 lineage of women which survived 8.000 years ago" stuff, and some say it that was the period of the first wars, and there were wars of extermination. So, yeah, that stuff can be true. But there is an issue with that method: it means the male diversity is much weaker than female diversity, so the Y chromosome is fatally weaker. Maybe it's because of that the Y chrosome has less genes than the X chromosome. It could lead to the extinction of manhood.

Okay, you tell things. But where are your sources?

[Sharkstealth]

We just went from double spacing after periods to one. Engineers used to use a compass and a protractor.
Thr point is facts do not withstand time.

[Sharkstealth]

The point is

[Adaeva]

@AlbantheGreat The source was included after the statement.

[AlbantheGreat]

@adaeva Ok, and what about my points?

[WhereIsMyMind]

I have no issue with short men personally, as long as they have an attractive face and good hygiene. I don't even care if they're a bit shorter than me and I'm 5'6.

5'7 isn't even bad, many women are under that so you will find that there are girls who don't care. You're either looking for the wrong types of women who are all superficial when it comes to these sorts of trivial things, or you are not looking after yourself in other ways. Good style, nice hair (or cut short if there is lack of) is important. But nothing is more important than good hygiene. There is nothing worse than someone who smells bad, especially bad breath! Clean teeth and neat facial hair and skin are also a must.

[Massageman]

Certainly leave your high heels at home and wear sexy flats.

You can check out https://www.tall.org/list-of-tci-tall-clubs.html

They have a list of locations of "tall clubs" all around the world.

I once did a Massage Outcall for a "Tall Group" (social meeting) in our area. Nice people. I just had to get used to adding a little extra time for the longer strokes I need when working on them.

[aficionado]

My height is exactly the same (although I prefer to say I am 170 cms tall, we don't use American units like feet and inches here in Australia). I did manage to find someone I eventually married. So no, height isn't the be all and end all, but your chances are much better with women shorter than you. My wife is 158 cms tall (around 5'2"), and she never had a problem with my height.

[Asker]

Whats your body count

[aficionado]

I am not in it just for sex, never was with anyone. Having said that, the number is 4 (including my wife).

[Honest-Matt]

I'm 5'5" on a good day, socially introverted but charming on dates, okay looking, a bit overweight. But despite all that, I can't count how many girls I've slept with on my fingers or toes. A lot of it happened around 25-30, I just matured a certain way and had my tinder game on point. I'm going to say your height is not the issue, personality and charm goes a long way.

[provokeesmokee]

I dated a guy shorter than you after I broke up with my 6'2" ex (height didn't make him any less a lazy cowardly loser).

Your height doesn't matter unless YOU make it matter.

If women reject you for something as superficial as your height, then you dodged a bullet.

[Truthatanycost]

Most women don't have a type. If you know how to build attraction with the ones you like, they will be attracted. 5'7 is the same height I am and although I prefer being single, it has never stopped women from being attracted to me and / or approaching me. But I like my height so that holds a much different energy than seeing it as a negative.

[Sonorous]

Wear shoes with thick outer soles & thick insoles can help. When I wear my basketball shoes, I'm like over 6' because they add an inch & some. I believe my real height is 5'10 & a half without shoes & with a buzz cut.

Also aim for women who are shorter than you. I've seen many women say they don't care about the guys height much so long as he's taller than them.

also...

[Sonorous]

[Joker_]

neckpilled

[Sonorous]

when the blackpill gets stuck in your throat 🤣

[Joker_]

unironically what do you think the solution is for fellas that look like that, you know fellas that have extra large necks

[Sonorous]

"Well, I believe that first they must lose enough body fat to be in a healthy, lean state. This will allow them to see if they're actually capable of having a normal-looking neck or if they suffer from a medical condition that prevents it.

If they suffer from a medical condition, then I'd just recommend that they seek out doctors; that's their best chance at looking normal.

But let's say that it's stuck with them for life. I'd then suggest that they still improve other aspects of their body. I'd tell them not to give up, because you never know—there might be a female out there who's into thick necks.

I'd even encourage them to reach out to figures like "Edward Allen Brown" from 90 Day Fiancé or even "Charles McDowell," the famous 'wide neck' guy." They might have some good advice for them which might motivate them.

[Joker_]

thanks lol

[Sonorous]

Ohhhh... you needed the help...

[Joker_]

the rope broke from the weight of my neck

[Sonorous]

Ahh dang! Sorry to hear that! Well hey! At least you have...

thick skin...

[Joker_]

you have...

black skin

cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...a-88ef-a189744bac46.gif

jkjk you white you white

[Sonorous]

Well... If my vitiligo progresses at this rate, by this time next year folks will think I'm a racist white guy doing black face

cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...a-88ef-a189744bac46.gif

[Joker_]

yeah lol

[Sonorous]

[AaronKrieger]

It's not your height, but your personality or looks. I'd reflect on what it could be with your personality and what you can improve on in terms of your looks.

Also, stop making the goal being laid. A lot of women can tell when that's just what a guy is looking for.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

I'm 5' 4" brother. But it sorta helps me not want girls taller than me. So, I use it to my advantage I pretend like the girls are too tall for me and continue to show my self confidence. I get giddy around a 5'1" shorty's my age though.

[Lionman95]

Develop a long term mindset that gives you a positive self confidence and a higher self-esteem that takes your mind to other aspects than trying to get laid. Because I'm sure you'll have better chances of finding a woman when you're less focused on sex ASAP but seem like a good choice for a relationship. That would increase your chances with women.

[artgorgeous]

Go to Thailand or other Asian countries, Eastern Europe countries, and find yourself a girl with lower level of entitlement. Those women are more down to earth right now, but hurry up before it's too late, because all these OF, Instagrams, and other social media just spoil women with a speed of light.

[LazerBean]

That height isn't your problem, there's something else about you that's repelling women. Probably the lack of masculine personality.

[Asker]

But being tall is being masculine
Masculinity=Height

[LazerBean]

No, it's not. Tom cruise, Josh hutcherson, James McAvoy are all actors between 5'5" and 5'7". All attractive men. If you can't get a woman it's either because you're ugly, unclean, or too much of a pussy.

[SL1CK_BL1CK]

Kinda brutal but @LazelBean is right, I’m 5’8 it’s not really an excuse. Being short just means you have to be the best in other areas of ur life

[Asker]

All rich men with status, and your boyfriend is tall

[LazerBean]

Those men got rich off of their looks and charm. All the men I know who are my height 5"4' are married, except for the ugly, fat, and mentally ill ones. There's no hope for you unless you can figure out which of the three you are, and your failure is your choice.

[RealMarek]

There are a lot of shorter women who would date a 5’7” tall man. You can try focusing on them. Also, this is going to be more of a problem on internet dating than in real life because some women filter on height. The more in-person exposure you get with women, the more apt you will be to find one with whom you have mutual attraction.

[Unit1]

GET FUCKING RICH ❗❗❗

And then go to Thailand.

This will not be a problem anymore :) :) :)

[Unit1]

They say in Thailand women are easy to get. There's your answer. And mine.

[ShesRad80]

its not your height but your confidence level. you have a defeatist attitude, people see what you project.

[Asker]

Women care about height tho

[ShesRad80]

some may not all of us- my guy is 5'2

[Lokiion]

I hate how y’all blame your lack of good communication to height Ik people who are shorter then you and get laid more then most people ik that are 6’0-6’7 at the end of the day it comes down to a mouthpiece if your communication is terrible you got a low chance of getting laid if its really good you got a 90% overall rating

[JCT666]

I'm shorter than you and have an active sex life. What you need to do for starters, is not to allow your height to hold you back and find out what's really the problem, which I'm guessing is a lack of confidence, which you'll need to work on for yourself.