So I had what I thought was the best date of my life. We had sex at the end of it, but when we left each other he said he would be calling me and that he wanted to see me again and we texted a little the next day.
But then all of a sudden he just stopped texting altogether for like 4 days until he then sent me this series of messages.
He’s just down to fuck
He definitely wants to fuck again, but he also seems to like you
he's just brushing you off
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Do these messages say he wants just sex, something more, or blowing you off?
I think there is not enough to know his present intentions, but getting involved with a guy who is finishing a divorce pretty much assures you that you will be his rebound relationship.
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Yes I guess this is pretty sound wisdom and rings some probable truth
I mean technically him and his ex spouse haven’t been living together for a couple years and he’s had a couple relationships since then so I wouldn’t say I’m like the first person he has been with. It’s just been a really long process because of money and coming to a settlement agreement etc. But I hear you all the same.
I am an attorney and I have counselled many people who were going through a divorce. I always tell them that, regardless of how long you have been separated, your life will feel different when the judge signs the order granting the divorce. I caution them to not consider re-marriage for at least two years after the divorce becomes final.
If he realy likes you and doesn't feel the need to go "sow his wild oats," it might work. . . but rushing into sex decreases the odds. Be careful.
I won’t get into the details publicly here but let’s just assume that to be true because I have plenty of evidence from multiple people who know them very well that is the case
A guy divorcing doesn't ever want to be in a new relationship right on the spot. Poor dude is probably dealing with a bureaucratic nightmare right now, I think a new relationship is the last thing that he wants.
+ it's written you are between 36 and 45. No offense but guys usually don't want serious things with girls that age. Especially not in those circumstances. Anyways yeah the texts are pretty clear you are the side bootycall
Well you may not be wrong about what he’s wanting but I’m made skeptical if only because clearly there are men who do want a serious relationship with women that age as I’ve been in them and have many friends within those ages who are in them and have gotten married in that age range etc. so that simply not a true statement even if your sentiment about this situation may turn out to be the case.
Most of the girls who actually marry at that age have already been in a relationship for several years. It's just the conclusion of a long relationship. They managed to "hook" the guy.
A guy in his 30's is at his peak value while women value is decreasing at that age. If a guy that age is ready to commit with a girl that age while there is no previous emotional bond, then the guy may have a problem or lack of options.
Your ideas sound like something out of a bro comedy with really stereotypical and unrealistic ideas about how sexuality and relationships work in the real world. We are swingers and in the kink community, and if how you are describing is indeed how the vanilla world works then I’m glad I’m not a part of it anymore at least lol
You are confusing 2 different topics : sex and commitment. Women tend to think both are the same but they aren't. Being a swinger (sex) has 0 link with the main topic (commitment). Most of the guys who accept to fuck don't accept to commit with the girl.
Well what you are suggesting would imply that every guys between 36-45 is only dating 20-something’s seriously, and that is just not true obviously, particularly if they already have children and don’t want anymore. I’m not trying to justify why this person might take me seriously. I wouldn’t be surprised if he wasn’t. But I just mean in general that can’t be true as it would be very visible in statistical disparities between men and women in those age ranges , and there just aren’t such vast discrepancies in populations wherein gender populations between the two are comparable or accounted for statistically
Not all guys between 35-46 date 20's because you have to have value to do so. A 35 years old bum is still a bum. To attract a fresh girl, you need to be physically attractive, have money, statuts etc... it's not hard if you have good genes and worked a bit previously, but it's still too difficult for most guys. For example at 35, half of the population is overweight and lazy in western societies.
So yeah, technically there are guys who are ready to "settle down" with 35+ girls. But do these guys have a high value? Of course no. Otherwise they wouldn't need to chase down women past their peak of value. And I don't understand the concept of "dating" if the guy doesn't want children. Serious relationship are only meant to get children. If the guy doesn't want some it's fine. But why the hell would he inflict himself a relationship then? He could only have bootycalls. It takes less energy, and only have the benefits of a trash relationship.
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